Tag: Fm

Properly Rested

Getting sick and sessioning (or not) reminded me of the time back in 2014 where I unsuccessfully tried to combine the two. The idea was to use the session high to carry me through the unpleasantness of whatever bug I had. That turned out not to be a good plan. You’ve only so much energy, so you can either power your immune system or your masochism, but not both.

It’s surprising just how much energy it takes to session. For most of mine I’m barely moving while the domme does all the work of poking, slapping, prodding, etc. Yet the stress and physical reactions still take a lot out of me. The nervous system and body are constantly being make to react and respond.

Most general guides to kinky play and pro-domme sessions will suggest ensuring that you’re properly rested, hydrated and fed. That can seem like boilerplate instructions, particularly when most activities seem low physical effort, but I think it can really make a difference to the post-session glow. Go in with low energy or low capacity and the subsequent crash can be hard.

Of course some sessions can be more exhausting than others. For example, if your domme turns up with a saddle in hand, it probably doesn’t matter how well rested you are. It’s going to be a long day.

Covid Sucks

That title isn’t exactly breaking news. However, as someone suffering from his first ever case of it, I’m feeling it particularly acutely. Not only am I experiencing it for the first time, but it happened while I was on vacation in NYC. And not only while on vacation, but when I was just about to enjoy a series of sessions I’d lined up with some fabulous dommes I’d not seen in years. The timing couldn’t have been worse. Curses.

The good news is that it seems relatively mild. I felt pretty lousy for 2 or 3 days and I’m still unusually tired, but I’m slowly improving. Should just be healthy in time to go back to work later this week.

When I pictured stressful medical experiences on this trip, I was thinking along the lines of the image below. Not the ones where the hotel room service learns your name and recognizes your regular order.

This image is from the twitter feed of Maîtresse Blanche (sourced here). She has a lot of fabulous medical shots and you can see more via her links here. You can find her professional site here.

Cottagecore

I love this unusual and striking image from Charlotte Douleur. It has quite a painterly feel to it. One could also imagine it as a center spread for country life magazine. Obviously, when taking morning coffee at one’s country cottage getaway, it’s important to always bind the naked slave beneath the table with a hemp rope. It’d be a terrible faux-pas to use a man made fiber.

Charlotte Douleur is a London based pro-domme. I sourced this image via her twitter feed.

Leaky Boy

This artwork by Liliana reminds me of playing with pro-dommes in hotel rooms. It’s something about the decor and the scatter of toys around the couch. The use of this more conventional setting also makes the picture sexier by making the play and moment more relatable.

While I’d generally prefer to play in a well equipped dungeon, there’s something fun and decadent about getting extra freaky in a hotel room. Some dommes can be particularly good at creating a little kinky bubble in a regular space like the one below.

I sourced this from Liliana’s Twitter feed.

Not so Secure

Back in 2020 I featured a story on a internet enabled chastity device that had significant security problems. Unfortunately for anyone still trusting these devices with their dick or their details, it seems that there are problems once again. Last time it was the device itself being insecure. This time it’s a service leaking emails, passwords and location information.

Internet security is an interesting thing. It’s very hard to be perfectly secure in all situations. However, it’s pretty easy to get basic stuff right and follow well known protocols. When you’re dealing with identifying information and sex toys you’d think getting this basic stuff right would be step 1, but apparently not. Even worse, according to the techcrunch article, when the flaws were pointed out, nothing was done.

When it comes to locking your dick up, I’d suggest keeping it simple and mechanical. Ideally, for those that can afford it, go with a quality product like Steelwerks. The shot below is from Ms Steelwerks, who posts a lot of lovely sexy shots featuring their products on her Twitter feed. There’s no danger of this dick getting hijacked by hackers.

Travelling

Visiting a country that has minimal air conditioning in the middle of a heat wave wasn’t my best scheduling decision ever. A/C is one of those things  that you can live without until you live with it. After that, it’s really hard to go back.

Despite my hot sleepless nights, the UK trip has been fun so far. I did manage to sneak some top class kink in and I can hopefully share some photographs of that in the coming days. In the meantime I’ll leave you with this shot of me assisting a fellow traveller while catching the train up from London.

(Only kidding. This is by German photographer Naina Mey. Apparently while shooting it at a train station a bunch of old men came up and asked how they could be bossed around like that).

Back in the Old Country

Apologies if blogging is a little erratic over the coming weeks. I’m back in the UK and operating out of a variety of locations. A couple of days in London to recover from jetlag, a couple of weeks seeing family and friends, back in London briefly and then onto NYC for a week to close out trip. Should be fun and I’m trying to sneak a bit of kink in, but all that travelling doesn’t leave me a lot of time for blogging.

One of the problems with planning a visit to the UK is the sheer number of fabulous Mistresses here. This is particularly a problem when you’ve very limited free personal time. For example, below is Lola Ruin, shooting for the English Mansion. Lola is someone I’ve always wanted to session with. Unfortunately, she’s based in Manchester and the only time I’ll be near there I’ll have a parent in tow. I doubt they’d be happy if I ditched them in the nearest pub and headed off to get my ass beat for the afternoon.

If you share my appreciation of Lola Ruin, then you can find all relevant links here.

Careful Cutters

A study of surgeons in Canada and Sweden has produced the unsurprising result that your outcome is likely to be significantly better with a female surgeon.

…records suggest that female surgeons tend to operate more slowly and may achieve better results by taking their time in the operating theatre

I say it’s unsurprising because that’s my general impression across a range of professions. Women tend to listen more and be more thoughtful in their approach. Less of a gung-ho attitude. Given the option, I’d always prefer to have a woman sticking sharp things in me, whether it’s in the operating theatre or the dungeon.

Here’s one of those thoughtful doctors in action – the famous Miss Kim Rub. She appears to be in the process of attaching wings to a gentleman. No doubt he’ll be soaring through the air very shortly. This is from Miss Kim’s twitter feed.

Kinky Comedy

Fans of kink and comedy may want to look out for writer, comedian and findom Lane Kwederis. She’s just put on a sold out Edinburgh Fringe show entitled ‘Sex Job’ based on her findom sex work. The reviews I’ve found (for example here,  here and here ) all seem very positive.

Sadly the Edinburgh run has just come to an end but, given its success, I’m sure she’ll be staging it again. Check out her Twitter feed for future information. That’s where I found this shot of her handing out flyers for the show with the help of a handy submissive.