Appliance Domme

This cartoon from SMBC made me laugh. However, while I like the fundamental joke, I have to question the choice of appliance. It’s hard for me to imagine a Roomba as a domme. They silently clean floors, endlessly circulating,  doing their job without complaint. Clearly that’s (idealized) submissive behavior. So what is a dominant appliance?

I’m going to go with a dishwasher. I spend a bunch of time rinsing whatever goes into it, which is basically me doing the job for it. If I don’t serve it the glasses and plates in right loading order, it’ll either not clean them properly or break them. It’s forever complaining about me not having the right detergent or rinse aid. And when it’s done, I have to spend a bunch of time unloading and cleaning up afterwards. It’s a high maintenance service top with no happy endings.

The Morning After

I woke up feeling very tender and sore. Because I’m now over 50 years old that triggered the obvious thought process – “OMG. Am I dying? What new hell is this? Did I just sleep weird or is this a new normal? Do my muscles hate me now?”

Fortunately, after the sleep haze cleared, I realized what was going on. Ms Savannah Sly was in town. Last night therefore featured lots of beating, trampling, biting, pummeling and lots of other painful ‘ings.  It was the really good kind of sore. Lots of happy bruises.

The bad news was I had a doctors appointment I’d forgotten about. It had been rescheduled multiple times and I hadn’t realized the final time landed just hours after a session. Always fun explaining that yes, I know I’m bruised and scratched, and yes, it was entirely consensual. It felt a bit like taking a car from a destruction derby to a mechanic. I know I did all these violent things to it and the bodywork now looks like hell, but you can still fix my brakes and check the engine light?

This is the fabulous Ms Savannah Sly as featured on her Bluesky Feed. If you’d like to support her organization New Moon – which does lots of great things for sex workers – then check it out here.

Never Too Late

The Guardian has a fun series called ‘This is how we do it‘ where people provide short articles on their sex life. I enjoyed a recent one featuring Graham and Josephine,  a couple if their mid-60’s getting to explore kink together.

According to Graham its a switch relationship where they take turns being in charge. However, Josephine puts a slightly different spin on things…

It all started very gently with Graham, but I’ve now discovered my dominant side. It’s liberating. It’s a two-way conversation: “Shall we try this?” We’ve got two suitcases for sex, and they’re getting heavier. I’ve got dressing-up clothes, boots and stilettos, and I’ve made Graham a pinny and a little headdress.

Sounds like Josephine is leaning into her power!

Hopefully Graham does a better job with the serving tray than these two clumsy maids. Artwork here is by Voloh.

Broadening Interests

I had an interesting comment left by Tiny Monster on my post about porn escalation. He said his porn had generally de-escalated in terms of nudity and extremeness of activities. The fantasy works a lot better for him if there’s less context and it’s therefore easier to add your own.

I’m very much onboard with this. I wouldn’t say I’ve purely de-escalated the content I like – I still like a bunch of extreme activities – but my interests have gotten a lot broader. I’d much rather see a slightly suggestive clothed image that I can project into rather than a regular run-of-the-mill porn shot.

I suspect the enormous number of captioned femdom images floating around have had a role to play in this. I don’t write captions myself, but when I see an image like the one below, I do start thinking in those terms. Is this a cuckold shot and she’s checking her outfit before heading out on date? Or maybe it’s a report in on your household chores? Maybe it’s both. She’s giving instructions on your household duties while she’s out for dinner with a very special friend. Just make sure there are fresh sheets on the bed and you’re in the guestroom when they return.

It’s a lot easier to spin your preferred fantasy – whatever that may be – with an ambiguous image like than it is with something like this.

 

Chasing Not Catching

Like a lot of people, I enjoy regular, vanilla sex. It’s undeniably fun and pleasurable. Yet, it’s never as much fun as an intense kinky scene. I’d rather be fucked up than fuck. Occasionally, when booking up pro-domme sessions I’ll contemplate the idea of finding someone just for regular PIV sex. My social media feeds have any number of hot escorts in them. However, I never do it, as I know I’ll just end up wishing I’d stuck to pain over pleasure.

This preference is probably not too surprising. I run a femdom blog after all. However, what I do find odd is how much I like playing with tease and denial, or implied chastity/cuckold dynamics. They’re all based on the desirability of sex, the thing I don’t bother arranging. I’m turned on by the idea of not getting the thing that I don’t actually want.

I guess I’m a bit like a dog chasing a car. The fun is all in the chase. Catching it would spoil the game.

This gentleman seems to be safely packaged up and unlikely to be spoiling things with sex anytime soon. I found it via tumblr but it’s from Mrs Steelwerks.

Pop

This artwork is from an artist I’ve featured before – Mad Tomy. He posted this to his Twitter feed.

I’m featuring it here because I think it’s very sexy and manages to pack a lot of fun stuff into a single image. There’s obviously the threat of ballbusting and CBT, given the set-up. That’s coupled with a nice humiliation and objectification element. She might slam you in the balls, but that’s not going to distract her from texting her friends. Finally, there’s the foot fetish element, with the very obviously dirty sole.

It’s funny but feet in general don’t do much for me. But make them dirty and sweaty and suddenly they’re kind of hot. I guess that’s less a foot fetish and more a scent and oral fixation.

If you like this then you can find more at Mad Tomy’s site.

More Scene Fails

While I’m on the subject of scenes gone terribly wrong – as I just was – the OnlyFans model who killed a man last year has just been sentenced. I covered the original story back in March ’25 in this post. He suffocated to death while she was filming content. The entire scene seemed like a bunch of bad decisions by everyone involved and the woman has just been sentenced to 4 years for involuntary manslaughter.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that real prison time is one of my hard limits. I’ll add it alongside hoods, scat and punishment dynamics as things to avoid in or after a session. I know the internet has lot of depictions of sexy prison wardens in tight outfits, but I can’t help feeling it might not be as fun as they make it look.

I believe this is by the artist Stig.

Don’t Do Drugs

Medical play can be a lot of fun but it’s important to never forget the ‘play’ part. Making it too realistic can have deadly consequences as this story from  Munich highlights.

Two professional dominatrices are currently facing trial at the Berlin Regional Court after a client died during a session at a BDSM studio in Charlottenburg. The incident, which occurred in April 2024, involves allegations of administering a local anesthetic that ultimately resulted in the man’s death.

The drug in question was Novocain aka Procaine. That’s typically what the dentist will give you to numb a tooth. It’s unclear from the article what exactly happened but – according to Wikipedia – an overdose can result in respiratory failure or cardiac arrest. Quite the price to pay to satisfy a kink.

If you’re going to inject anything, stick to a medical saline solution.  And ideally do it with a domme who has some medical training.

Artwork is by the artist Coax (aka Alvaro Muñoz) whose primary site for kinky art can be found here.

The Unifier

Femdom lovers are a varied bunch. We all have our own kinks, preferences and hot button activities. There’s no such things as a standard kinky person.

However, in many years of Femdom blogging, I have discover one unifying element. The common thread that seems close to universal. That’s a fondness for Catwoman. For some she’s a formative character. For others, just a fun, sexy mainstream representation of a dominant woman. Either way, it’s hard to find a submissive who doesn’t have a fondness for at least one of the interpreters of the character over the last 60 or so years.

This all came to mind thanks to this entertaining interview with Julie Newmar. She was the first actress to play the character and is arguably still the benchmark.

Newmar made the character her own, setting the template for a long line of successors, from Eartha Kitt to Michelle Pfeiffer and Anne Hathaway. Her dancer’s experience helped with the feline mannerisms: “I adopted two cats in order to watch their physical behaviour.” She even made her own adjustments to the costume, lowering the belt to the hips to accentuate her waist and taking it in until “it was like liquorice poured over the body; it fit that well.”

She clearly knew what she was doing, because that dropped belt was a lovely touch. While Anne Hathaway and Michelle Pfeiffer may have had more overly fetishistic outfits, it’s hard to beat the sensuality and playfulness Julie brought to the role.