Multitudes

My last post touched on humiliation as a kink and elicited some interesting comments. It reminded me again that what looks like a single kink is always really many kinks hiding under a single title. It’s never a case of someone simply being into X. It’s always X done in a certain way for a particular reason.

Take watersports for example. If you’re not into it then piss is just piss. There’s only one way to not like it, but hundreds of different ways to be into it. Maybe it’s the animalistic primal nature of it. Or maybe it’s being objectified as a toilet. For one person it could be demeaning. For another it’s worship. Someone into wet messy piss play will have a very different scene to someone who dreams of being turned into a piece of toilet paper.

Humiliation is another example of a kink that’s simple on the outside, many things on the inside. A kinkster might enjoy a bullying dynamic that humiliation enhance. Alternatively, humiliation could be a cathartic release via an ego death. Maybe it’s about enhancing the domme by diminishing the submissive. Or maybe reliving an adolescent trauma that’s been eroticized over time. If you’re into objectification then humiliation might be all about reinforcing that reduction of self.

To horribly rework Tolstoy’s comment about marriages – every unhappy kinkster is alike, but each happy kinkster is happy in their own way.

My personal humiliation kink is very mild, but aligns a little with this kind of caption. It’s a positive and upbeat kind of humiliation.

This was a from a tumblr that had a bunch of similarly themed images. It’s sadly vanished, gone the way of many tumblrs. I wish I could find the creator again, as they authored a lot of well written femdom captions.

New Things

My LA trip continues to be a kinky delight. I’ve done two sessions with the amazing Domina Sophie Agenoux, both of which were a hell of a lot of fun. My last post gave a pretty clear hint about some of our activities. However, I also got to try a couple of new things. Given I’ve been playing for many years that’s an unusual but welcome experience.

The first new thing was a chastity cage. It seems weird to say this, given they’re such a staple of femdom and I’m a big fan of tease + denial, but I don’t think I’ve ever worn one before. This wasn’t a lengthy lock-up by any measure. Just a segment at the start of the session to set the mood. But it was fun to try and definitely did help create the right headspace. My top takeaways were that doing it more seriously for a longer period would require a properly fitted custom cage, and mixing pubic hair with hinges and locking mechanisms is a bad idea. Shave first.

The other new thing we worked into our second session was some gentle verbal humiliation. Until now that’s been a verboten dynamic for me. I was always concerned how I’d react to it and if it’d curdle into a sour post play emotion. I took a chance here as it seemed to be a nice fit with the tease/denial/objectification dynamic we were doing, and I trusted Domina Sophie to ease into it carefully. That turned out to be a great call, as it added a lovely frission to the play and Domina Sophie judged it perfectly.

I don’t think I’ll ever get into heavy and overly negative humiliation play. Being called a loser or useless does not spark my interest. However, there’s a variation I think of as the backhanded compliment: You don’t get to have X, you’re no good for X, but you do make a great Y. It’s demeaning – given a conventionally desirable X and a Y that is decidedly not – but in an oddly positive and hot way.

This shot of Domina Sophie Agenoux was sourced from her Bluesky Feed. If you’re in the Southern Californian area and wish to schedule a session then you can find her professional site here. I really can’t recommend her highly enough.

Liquid Refreshment

Apologies for lack of posting. I’ve been busy enjoying myself in LA. This picture may contain some subtle hints about how exactly I’ve been enjoying myself. When in a hot climate like Southern California, it’s always important to stay hydrated.

This was sourced via this tweet on the Salon de SM twitter feed. The twitter translation of the title gives it as “The New Teacher Turned into a Pig”.

Shopping Trip

I’m taking a few days vacation in the warmth of southern California. Food, kink and shopping is the plan. Although not necessarily in that order or with that priority. I’m looking forward to playing again, as I haven’t got my ass kicked recently.

I’ll also be doing some clothes shopping and trying to resist the urge to buy more sports coats. I already have far more than the casual vibe of the West Coast demands.

Sadly for me, I doubt my shopping will be half as fun as this artwork by Strikt looks. I like the idea of her parking him by the dressing room and having assistants drape various items over him as she picks and chooses. He slowly gets buried under the garments as she bounces back and forth between options. Sort of a combined clothes rack and credit card transportation device.

You can find more of Srikt’s excellent artwork, along with the original fullsize version of this drawing, on his Bluesky feed. He’s also open to commissions.

Maid on Top

I’ve published a few maid themed posts over recent weeks. Here’s another one but with a twist. In these drawings it’s the maid in the dominant role and her employer Alex whose getting bullied in all sorts of fun ways.

The artist here Eudetenis with the works commissioned by Femboy Alex Comms. There’s actually a whole series of these works posted to their twitter feed. For example, here, here, here and here. Plus, other equally fun work by other talented artists. I’m sad it’s on Twitter, but if you can get over that, Alex’s feed is worth checking out.

 

More Dogs

Heavy bondage pet play scenes featuring automated electronic milking machines are a bit like buses. You don’t see one forever and then two show up all at once.

Yesterday’s post was a fixed in place set-up. The one I spotted today – courtesy of this Twitter post by afterdarkamanda – adds mobility and a clever looking waist mounted milker. At first I thought it was too clever to be real and might be AI, but there’s a couple of videos (other here or here) and they seem real enough. The remorseless and inescapable milker makes for a very hot set-up. One could imagine a remote control option for a domme would be a lot of fun. Perform your doggy tricks properly and she’ll maybe turn it on for a minute or two. Or maybe, that’s the way you get it turned off.

Screenshot taken from Amanda Latex’s video (aka afterdarkamanda).

Milking the Dog

I’m a big fan of the objectification this set-up creates. The heavy and full coverage dog suit is dehumanizing – and therefore hot – in its own right. The suspension bondage reduces agency still further. The motorized milking machine will drag a specific reaction from his body whether he likes it or not. The fact he can helplessly flail those stubby limbs around but change nothing makes for a lovely finishing touch.

The creator of this scene is Mistress Hinako and she posted this along with a short video to her Twitter feed. As she says there – ‘I wake up early every morning to milk my dog’.

Capricious Corporations

Tumblr seems to be in an odd spot these days. I don’t really understand what its plan or target market is.

It was originally famous for hosting a large amount of erotic imagery. That was a business model that pushed their worth over 1 billion dollars. Then there was the purge of adult content which predictably destroyed their user base and left them a cultural irrelevance. Now a lot of porn seems to have sneaked back but it doesn’t seem welcome and sites get randomly blown up. Some will post erotic content for years without issue. Others, with similar content, are wiped after a few weeks.

Are they actually trying to block porn and just really suck at it? Or are they trying to use it to attract users and just randomly blowing sites up to maintain the fiction they don’t want it? Or do they tolerate it until the bandwidth of a particular site becomes too high? It’s really hard to fathom their plan.

This image is from the purebeautyandstyle tumblr – last updated 10 years ago!

More Maids

My previous post on cleaning and maids reminded me of this prior post on the fantasy of maidbots. Checking out the linked authors from that piece it seems they’ve some new material available.

Maidbot Sally has a new story ‘Ancillarobophobia‘, featuring a young man forced to overcome his fear of electronic maidbots by becoming one for his family. As you might guess, things don’t go his way. No sex, but lots of objectification.

Michael1970 has an ongoing multipart visual story along similar lines. Less bot and more just regular maid however. It’s obviously built with AI art, but I find that less objectionable when someone is trying to use it as part of their creative process. It’s when all the creativity is left to the GPUs that it seems so pointless and sloppy.

This is the second panel from Michael1970’s story. You’ll need a DeviantArt login to see either work but they’re free and easy to create.

Cleaning

I was wondering today – as I surveyed the books, clothes and paperwork scattered across my apartment – if I should hire a pro-domme to clean it. Not in a direct, hands on sense of course. Instead, she could direct me to clean it. And when I say direct, I really mean to beat, bully, threaten and forcefully instruct me.

I like having a clean apartment. I like being consensually bullied by women. I just hate having to do actual cleaning. Maybe having a domme force me to scrub the shower and dust the skirting boards would kill two birds with one stone. I’d get both a kinky session and a clean apartment. And maybe a French maid’s outfit as an added bonus.

Of course, I could just hire an actual cleaner. But that’s far too sensible and obvious a solution.

This topic appropriate artwork is by the artist Bruth.

You can see more from this artist on Twitter and Instagram. They’re also open to commissions.