Capricious Corporations

Tumblr seems to be in an odd spot these days. I don’t really understand what its plan or target market is.

It was originally famous for hosting a large amount of erotic imagery. That was a business model that pushed their worth over 1 billion dollars. Then there was the purge of adult content which predictably destroyed their user base and left them a cultural irrelevance. Now a lot of porn seems to have sneaked back but it doesn’t seem welcome and sites get randomly blown up. Some will post erotic content for years without issue. Others, with similar content, are wiped after a few weeks.

Are they actually trying to block porn and just really suck at it? Or are they trying to use it to attract users and just randomly blowing sites up to maintain the fiction they don’t want it? Or do they tolerate it until the bandwidth of a particular site becomes too high? It’s really hard to fathom their plan.

This image is from the purebeautyandstyle tumblr – last updated 10 years ago!

More Maids

My previous post on cleaning and maids reminded me of this prior post on the fantasy of maidbots. Checking out the linked authors from that piece it seems they’ve some new material available.

Maidbot Sally has a new story ‘Ancillarobophobia‘, featuring a young man forced to overcome his fear of electronic maidbots by becoming one for his family. As you might guess, things don’t go his way. No sex, but lots of objectification.

Michael1970 has an ongoing multipart visual story along similar lines. Less bot and more just regular maid however. It’s obviously built with AI art, but I find that less objectionable when someone is trying to use it as part of their creative process. It’s when all the creativity is left to the GPUs that it seems so pointless and sloppy.

This is the second panel from Michael1970’s story. You’ll need a DeviantArt login to see either work but they’re free and easy to create.

Cleaning

I was wondering today – as I surveyed the books, clothes and paperwork scattered across my apartment – if I should hire a pro-domme to clean it. Not in a direct, hands on sense of course. Instead, she could direct me to clean it. And when I say direct, I really mean to beat, bully, threaten and forcefully instruct me.

I like having a clean apartment. I like being consensually bullied by women. I just hate having to do actual cleaning. Maybe having a domme force me to scrub the shower and dust the skirting boards would kill two birds with one stone. I’d get both a kinky session and a clean apartment. And maybe a French maid’s outfit as an added bonus.

Of course, I could just hire an actual cleaner. But that’s far too sensible and obvious a solution.

This topic appropriate artwork is by the artist Bruth.

You can see more from this artist on Twitter and Instagram. They’re also open to commissions.

Working with Couples

Boston base pro-domme Jane Cockatrice has a thoughtful post up about working with a kinky couple and helping mentor them. The woman was interested in becoming  “…more confident in her dominance and learn how to create more intense experiences for both of them.”

I wouldn’t describe it as a ‘how to’ piece, but there are plenty of useful observations and wise words in there. For example…

Sometimes women become so focused on whether they are doing everything correctly that they don’t fully allow themselves to enjoy their dominance. They wonder whether they look dominant enough. They worry that their dirty talk isn’t perfect. They continuously monitor whether their partner is enjoying himself. They may feel responsible for producing his ideal fantasy while forgetting to notice what the experience feels like for them.

I think there’s an interesting balance to strike here from the submissive perspective. Obviously you never want to treat a domme as a kink dispensing machine. I always strive for sessions that have an organic and natural flow to them. One’s where the domme has the freedom to evolve as the mood takes her. On the other hand, you can also go to far in the other direction. The kind of sub who just says ‘Oh, do whatever you want Mistress!’ Dommes are not mind readers and guessing games don’t make good sessions.

I guess one could draw an analogy with collaborating over a painting. You can’t expect someone to be creative if you give them a paint by numbers picture and scrutinize every brush stroke. At the same time you can’t simply show up with a blank canvas and expect them to do all the work.

Image of Jane Cockatrice was sourced from her Bluesky feed. You can read more of her excellent blogging content on her professional site.

Exclusively Non-exclusive

If you hang out on sex worker social media – as I do, because, you know, hotness – you’ll occasionally hear mention of an exclusive arrangement. It’s pretty much what the name suggests. An agreement where the worker is temporarily exclusive to one client. As you’d expect, such a set-up typically costs a very large sum of money each month.

It’s an escort thing rather than a pro-domme thing. I guess a charitable interpretation would be that extremely wealthy people hire chefs, accountants and lawyers to work exclusively for them. Why not a sex worker? The less charitable version would be that people have odd ideas about sex and don’t like the idea of a woman having multiple partners.

It always makes me smile when I see it mentioned, because I have almost exactly the reverse fantasy. That is paying a hot sex worker to exclusively not have sex with me. She’d regularly show up, dressed to the nines, tell me at length about all the amazing sex she’s having with other people, then leave. Possibly delivering a swift kick to the balls as she exits stage left.

I guess there’s a touch of findom in there, but the fantasy is really more about the tease, denial and humiliation elements. They’re so much more fun than simple orgasms.

This Sardax image seemed an appropriate one to accompany the fantasy. You can find more from him on his site and twitter.

Money, Money, Money

Mistress Blunt has written a long and interesting article on the dynamics of long term findom relationships. You can find it here.

The common manifestation of findom – drains, cash meets, pay pigs, etc. – leaves me cold. I can intellectually get why someone might be into that, but it does nothing for me emotionally. Reading Mistress Blunt’s article was the first time the dynamic has really clicked for me as an erotic thing to do.

In practice, this dynamic can mean daily tribute requirements. Or it can mean you report your income to me. Or it can mean I approve of any discretionary spending. It can mean a legally drafted financial contract. It always means that the dynamic does not end when the session does, because there is no session. There is only your relationship with me, beneath me.

I kink on control and that level of control is undoubtedly hot. However, reading it also left me uncomfortable and with a slight sense of ickiness. It took me a while to figure out why.

It’s definitely not because I think Mistress Blunt is doing anything wrong or unethical. Far from it. She clearly puts a lot of thought into her relationships.

I think it’s due to how I connect money with independence and therefore consent. I need to be independent for consent to be meaningful. If I can’t easily walk away then I can’t withdraw it. And my ability to walk away – from anything, not just relationships – is anchored in my control over my money. I grew up with very little and I treasure the independence having it now gives me.

Of course, that connection with control and dependency is why I found her description of the dynamic so hot. I’m sure it’s also why others engage in it. I’m just not sure I could ever let go in that way.

This shot of Mistress Blunt is from her Bluesky feed. You can find her professional site here.

Window Paddling

This isn’t exactly a conventional corporal punishment shot, but it’s very sexy all the same. He’s tied against a window, so there’s an element of exhibitionism and public humiliation here. Her attractive but casual clothes and natural pose also give the impression of an ongoing dynamic rather than specific isolated scene. She’s just giving her boy his usual nightly punishment, in full view of the neighborhood.

I sourced this via the Miss Strict tumblr. I’m afraid I don’t have an original attribution for it. The reverse image search engines are so crap these days it’s almost impossible to get a useful source link from them.

Top Tip

I’ve written in the past about the challenges adult content creators face. I’ve also frequently encouraged readers to contribute to content creators in a meaningful way (i.e. cold hard cash). Today I’m going to offer a possible way to achieve that without breaking the bank.

I’ve been subscribed to a bunch of mainstream streaming services for years. Pretty much all the major ones. About a month ago I went through them and cancelled all the ones I wasn’t regularly using. Kept just a couple. I then committed to subscribe to kinky artists and content creators for the equivalent amount I’d saved. So far it has turned out to be a great decision.

I feel happy to not be sending money to huge amoral corporations. I’m equally happy to be sending money to artists I like. My bank balance is no worse off. And now, rather than endless shows I’ll never watch, I get regular emails about new kinky art I can enjoy. It’s a win-win-win.

One artist I subscribed to was Formant. I wouldn’t recommend him if you’re strictly a F/m fan. A lot of his work is F/f and M/f, with just some F/m. However, if like me you’re happy with a kinky mix in your art, then he’s a great choice. New work is published very regularly (pretty much daily) and it’s all of an equally high quality. Much more fun than any of the streaming services I killed.

This artwork by Formant is part of a series. He shared this example for free on social media and the rest are available on his Subscribe Star feed.