Bye Bye Max?

Max Fisch appears to have dropped off the net. It’s been flaky for years, but one has to wonder if this is the final goodbye.

For those that don’t know what I’m talking about- Max Fisch is (was?) one of the longest running Femdom forum sites and Domina directories. It first showed up back in the 1990’s and for years was  one of the primary sites for pro-domme information and discussion. Sadly, like a lot of these sites, social media sucked away a lot of the potential users and the admins and moderators lost interest in maintaining it.

The loss of internet forum culture to a few huge social media companies is a great shame in my view. It’s not that the quality of the debate was particularly great on the forums – online people are the same all over. But the forum’s were more focused, the conversations longer and the posts were both durable and searchable. You could post a review of a session and another user would be able to find it years later. Good luck doing that on Twitter. You also didn’t have to deal with all the algorithmically driven rage-bait garbage the social media sites throw out you.

Of course there’s nothing technically stopping someone running a femdom forum today. The problem is getting to critical mass when so many of the casual users gravitate to social media.  It’s hard for simple web base forums to compete with thousand of social engineers doing whatever they can to drive more swipes on a media feed.

If you’re like me and find the history of femdom and internet culture fascinating, using the wayback machine to browse old domme site can be a great way to kill a lot of time. For example, looking at the very first capture of Max’s domme listing from 1999, I spotted a link to the famous Ilsa Strix. That in turn led me to her archived site and old interviews with her. You can even still find her original contact protocol.

A Day with Countess Diamond

A day with a domme is a cheap way for publications to get some interesting and titillating content. They can often come across as mocking or poking fun at ‘weird’ kinks.

However, this Vice article by Eloise Hendy is one of the better examples I’ve seen. It features Countess Diamond and really captures some of the key components and dynamics of a professional session. I particularly like how it highlights the tenderness and thoughtfulness that experienced dommes can blend in amongst all the ball kicking and penis slapping. It also captures the arc of a well structured session, from the initial chat through to the aftercare. The only weird bit in it is the post-aftercare game of crazy golf. That’s definitely not a typical session experience.

This is a shot of Countess Diamond, source via her twitter feed. If you’re in London and interested in seeing her person, you can find her professional site here.

Wise Words

@heavy, a very experienced bondage bottom, has some wise words on anchoring body parts.

Friendly reminder that when doing bondage, please remember what is anchored. If someone is standing or even kneeling and passes out/ falls and their balls, neck, hair, etc. are locked to something you are seriously going to harm someone. Potentially permanently.

I’d guess a lot of my readers are likely to be bondage bottoms rather than tops, but you should still be aware of what’s going on and willing to speak up if it looks unsafe. After all, it’ll be your delicate bits getting ripped off if the worst happens.

I remember doing a scene many years ago in a sex swing. I was on my back and the domme was tying various bits of me to the surrounding metal frame. However, the swing was a lightweight portable affair, built out of the kind of thin metal tubing you’d expect in a cheap sun lounger. The joints all seemed loosely pushed together, held with friction and I could feel it flexing as I moved. At one point the domme wrapped thin rope around my testicles and tied them to the overhead frame. Looking back now I shudder when I think of it, but at the time I was inexperienced, floating in subspace and nervous about topping from the bottom. So even though it felt dangerous, I didn’t say anything.

These days, if the same thing happened again, I’d speak up and pause the scene. If the swing had broken and I’d fallen then it could have been a very nasty situation. I’m a CBT fan, but getting my nuts ripped off by bondage on a shoddy sex swing is one of my limits. I should also add that the domme in question isn’t someone I’ve written about here or done more scenes with.

I’ll finish with a gorgeous bondage shot featuring Heavy and NYC domme Roxanne Waters, as shot by Natasha Gornick. All experts in their field, you can be sure any scene with them will be managed safely.

You can find Heavy’s twitter feed here and his professional HeavyBondage4Life site here. Roxanne Water’s twitter is here and this is her professional site.

Warmer Days

As an arctic blast of cold air settles across most of North America, here’s a shot to remind us all of warmer, sunnier times. I love the color coordination between her dress and his bondage accouterments. It’s those little touches that really make an image work.

This is Alexis Chantelle, a dominant companion based in NYC. You can find her professional site here. I sourced this image via this tweet.

Happy 2024!

A new year is upon us. I hope all my readers made it out of 2023 in good spirits and have a great 2024.

As far as kink goes, my 2023 wasn’t exactly overflowing with play. I did have some great sessions with Savannah when she visited Seattle and I got to meet up with the fabulous Mistress Miranda in London. Other than that, it was a quiet year. That wasn’t helped by a bunch of scheduled sessions in NYC getting cancelled due to my first dose of COVID.

I’m aiming to fit in more play in through 2024, getting back to my pre-pandemic average. Los Angeles, San Francisco, Chicago and a return to NYC should all be on the cards at some point. Given it’s an election year in the US, I’ll definitely need something to distract me from the insanity.

Good luck to any reader who similarly wants to up their kinky game in 2024. And if you’ve never indulged in kink but have been thinking about it, then maybe make it a new year’s resolution? That was pretty much how I ended up doing my first session (as I wrote about here).

I’ll leave you with a shot of someone who is right at the top of my list to play with again – Domina Yuki. She’s an amazing domme and I can’t believe we’ve not played together since my last SF trip back in 2020.

Morning Coffee

That first coffee of the day is always a pleasure. A chance to relax, catch up on the news and see how the slave you tied to the kitchen table is getting on. Really sets you up for the rest of the day.

I found this on some random tumblr. I think, given the style and setting, it’s by Charlotte Douleur. I featured another lovely shot of hers back in September and I’m guessing this is from the same series.

Updated: Thanks to a comment from the creator herself, I can confirm it as a shot from Charlotte Douleur. Although this one is from Bali, where the previous image is from a different series in Italy.

Charlotte Douleur is a London based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Twitter feed here.

Shock the Cock

It’s becoming increasingly difficult to distinguish between hardcore kinky shenanigans and new age health treatments. Cross over examples in the past have been vaginal steaming, coffee enemas and drinking pee.  The latest crazy therapy is shockwave treatment for the penis. According to this Guardian article, tech CEO Bryan Johnson ‘invented’ the approach.

“You have a wand and you sit in a chair and then the technician uses the wand and basically shocks your penis,” Johnson explained. He went on to say that the treatment does the same thing exercise does to the rest of the body, where you are creating micro-injuries so that the tissue rebuilds itself stronger than before. He rated the pain of the shocks as seven out of 10, and nine out of 10 at the tip.

I hadn’t realized that all my years of CBT play were actually strengthening my penis. Given the number of shocks I’ve received from leather clad ‘technicians’ by now I should have the ability to crack concrete with a well placed thrust. Admittedly, my shocks were mostly of the electrical kind, where I think Bryan’s technicians are using sound to generate shockwaves, but a micro-injury is a micro-injury however it’s created. Who knew all those kinky sessions were creating the penile equivalent of an Olympic athlete in my pants?

Given the crazy state of US healthcare, I’m guessing the cost of this ‘treatment’ is astronomical. Bryan should try looking up some of his local pro-dommes. I’m sure they’d be happy to inflict any kind of injury based strengthening routine he’d like to try. He could probably get his nipples and butt strengthened as well for no extra change.

This is the NYC based Mistress Sade treating one of her patients. No doubt he’ll emerge fitter and healthier at the end of it. This was sourced via this tweet on Mistress Sade’s Twitter feed.

Bound and Bagged

I’m still fighting off the effects of the seasonal virus I managed to acquire as a special Christmas gift to myself. So I’ll stick to posting hot kinky eye candy to keep things ticking over here while I recover.

This is Mistress Inka with her bound and bagged slave. It’s a very sexy and sensual shot, with a lovely mix of textures. I sourced it via Twitter and you can see more shots from the same scene here and here.

Mistress Inka is an Edinburgh based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Twitter feed here.

Never Fails

Apologies for the lack of posts in recent days. It’s the Christmas holidays so that can mean only one thing – I get a hefty dose of whatever nasty virus is going around. The last two years it hit me immediately after Christmas. This year it showed up before. Of course, knowing my luck with these bugs, that could mean I’m getting it before and after Christmas this time. Bah. Humbug.

I’m still feeling pretty crappy so I’ll keep this post short. Leave you with a lovely shot that was shared on Twitter by Madame Lule.

Madame Lule is pro-domme based in Paris. You can find her primary professional site here and her Twitter feed here.

Mistress Blunt and Mx Tomie

It must be the season from Femdom interviews. After the last couples of posts featuring Troy Orleans, I have a new link for you featuring Mistress Blunt and Mx Tomie. Both are NYC based pro-dommes and the interview covers such topics as content creation, hypno play, sex work, dark fantasies and lots of similar good stuff.

This is a shot from Mx Tomie . I think it’s one of the cutest shots I’ve seen on a pro-domme’s site. You can find her Twitter here. Mistress Blunt’s professional site is here and her Twitter here.