Tag: Bondage

Guild of Dommes

Discussion about a guild or governing board for pro-dommes crops up every year or two. The latest example I’ve spotted was this thread triggered by Charlotte Douleur. If you’re new to professional domination or haven’t thought about it too much, then the idea might have some initial appeal. After all, BDSM scenes have inherent risks, there are significant sums of cash involved and relative strangers are meeting in isolated spaces. Why not have some sort of certification or oversight? However, the idea quickly falls apart when you think about it.

Who would appoint and manage the membership? How would they enforce anything? What would the rules on activities and behavior be? Whose standards are the right ones? How would you stop bad actors (asshole clients) stirring trouble with bogus complaints? How would you even investigate a complaint?

More opportunities for education and classes is obviously good and advocacy groups – like the kind Savannah Sly directs – are awesome. But I personally can’t see how an old school guild would ever work out.

In many ways, from the client perspective, the internet has already improved matters tremendously. As Sardax described in this post, in the old days you really took a chance based on nothing more than a few words in an ad. Now you can follow a domme’s social media feed, see what events she attends, get a sense of her interests, go along to domme led classes (see prior post), etc. etc. In major cities it’s pretty easy to find a pro-domme with a lot of experience and a high reputation. No guild certification needed.

Mentioning Charlotte Douleur does at least give me an excuse for featuring another of her lovely images. This was sourced via her twitter feed.

Previously posts featuring great bondage shots from Mistress Douleur can be found here and here. She’s London based and someone who falls very much into that category of experienced dommes with a strong reputation.

Nightstand

This is a lovely example of strict bondage and objectification. The rope hogtie is really well done and I love how he’s perched precariously. It’s an impressive pose to pull off.

The only thing that’d make it absolutely perfect would be a lightbulb in the mouth or a lampshade on the head, as that’d qualify it for my long running lamp series. This shot feels like it’d fit right in there, but lacks the requisite illumination.

I believe the creator of this is TrueTiedTales. The original was posted here and you can more shots from the same scene on their twitter feed.

The Little Things

I’ve mixed feelings about this image. While I love everything that’s going on, it makes me feel old. That’s because the thing that initially caught my eye wasn’t the sexy layered bondage. Nor was it the intense leather hood. It wasn’t even Natalie Noir’s delicate stocking clad foot. No. It was that cushion behind his head. I immediately thought “What a considerate touch! Sure that makes it more comfortable for longer periods.”

In all seriousness, for heavy bondage, it’s amazing how much it can help to have an appropriately placed cushion. Particularly for under the knees and behind the head. It might not fit the hardcore bondage fantasy, but for those of us with tight muscles and screwy backs it can make the difference between success and failure in a scene.

Sourced from this tweet on Natalie Noir’s Twitter feed. She’s a Zurich based pro-domme whose primary website can be found here.

Hindsight

Apologies in advance. This is going to be a self-indulgent ramble.

Writing my last post got me thinking about my interests as a child. As I mentioned there, when I was very young I liked model villages and dioramas. I remember how much fun I had building shoebox sized miniature gardens for competitions in the local village fête. When I got older – maybe 10 or so – I was really into creating my own board games. I used to make the boards and pieces and spend ages coming up with complex rules and figuring how they should all work together. As a teenager I loved computers and writing my own videogames. I learnt Basic and 6502 assembly and spent hours creating self-contained worlds full of sprites I’d plotted across many sheets of graph paper.

In hindsight there’s a common element to all these interests – control. Well OK, they’re also all nerdy and solitary activities. But control is the bit that’s relevant to this blog. I was the God of the miniature environments I created. Board games might involve other players, but they all had to adopt a defined role and follow the rules I laid down. With a computer – particularly the 8 bit ones of that era – I controlled everything they did. The game world would look and sound just as I made it. They were the ultimate rule followers.

I guess it’s therefore not too surprising that I grew into an adult that has major kinks around control. I never really made the connection before, but that underlying desire to control or be controlled was clearly manifesting in my childhood interests as much as it does in my sexual ones today.

Bondage is a kink closely associated with control and was the first kinky thing I can remember fantasizing about. Even when I didn’t know what kink or bondage really was.

This artwork is (I believe) by Junji Ito, a Japanese manga artist.

Alexandra Aderhold

After last post’s old school domination theme, we’re moving onto new school kink and fetish. This image is by German photographer Alexandra Aderhold. It’s a stunning shot, pulling off the trick of being both aesthetically and erotically charged. I want to be in it and yet also have it hanging on my wall.

You can see more from Alexandra, including a book of photographs she’s published, on her professional site. There’s also an interview with her available here. I originally stumbled across the image via labstrakts.

Wrapped

This amazing image comes courtesy of Elise Graves and Heavy, sourced via this tweet. You can see a clip of Elise doing the wrapping in this clip.

I’ve done a lot of plastic wrap scenes, in a variety of different positions, but never a suspended one like this. I’ll have to add it to my bucket list. If you’ve never tried plastic wrap, then I’d absolutely recommend giving it a shot. It doesn’t have the classic appeal of rope or chains, but it can be great for intense scenes. Easy to apply but very immobilizing, making it pretty hard to beat for functionality vs effort needed. Just remember it can pretty hot once you’re swaddled and be sure to keep safety shears nearby. Oh, and if you’re trying it for the time, start with a simple horizontal position, not a suspended one!

Wise Words

@heavy, a very experienced bondage bottom, has some wise words on anchoring body parts.

Friendly reminder that when doing bondage, please remember what is anchored. If someone is standing or even kneeling and passes out/ falls and their balls, neck, hair, etc. are locked to something you are seriously going to harm someone. Potentially permanently.

I’d guess a lot of my readers are likely to be bondage bottoms rather than tops, but you should still be aware of what’s going on and willing to speak up if it looks unsafe. After all, it’ll be your delicate bits getting ripped off if the worst happens.

I remember doing a scene many years ago in a sex swing. I was on my back and the domme was tying various bits of me to the surrounding metal frame. However, the swing was a lightweight portable affair, built out of the kind of thin metal tubing you’d expect in a cheap sun lounger. The joints all seemed loosely pushed together, held with friction and I could feel it flexing as I moved. At one point the domme wrapped thin rope around my testicles and tied them to the overhead frame. Looking back now I shudder when I think of it, but at the time I was inexperienced, floating in subspace and nervous about topping from the bottom. So even though it felt dangerous, I didn’t say anything.

These days, if the same thing happened again, I’d speak up and pause the scene. If the swing had broken and I’d fallen then it could have been a very nasty situation. I’m a CBT fan, but getting my nuts ripped off by bondage on a shoddy sex swing is one of my limits. I should also add that the domme in question isn’t someone I’ve written about here or done more scenes with.

I’ll finish with a gorgeous bondage shot featuring Heavy and NYC domme Roxanne Waters, as shot by Natasha Gornick. All experts in their field, you can be sure any scene with them will be managed safely.

You can find Heavy’s twitter feed here and his professional HeavyBondage4Life site here. Roxanne Water’s twitter is here and this is her professional site.

Morning Coffee

That first coffee of the day is always a pleasure. A chance to relax, catch up on the news and see how the slave you tied to the kitchen table is getting on. Really sets you up for the rest of the day.

I found this on some random tumblr. I think, given the style and setting, it’s by Charlotte Douleur. I featured another lovely shot of hers back in September and I’m guessing this is from the same series.

Updated: Thanks to a comment from the creator herself, I can confirm it as a shot from Charlotte Douleur. Although this one is from Bali, where the previous image is from a different series in Italy.

Charlotte Douleur is a London based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Twitter feed here.

Bound and Bagged

I’m still fighting off the effects of the seasonal virus I managed to acquire as a special Christmas gift to myself. So I’ll stick to posting hot kinky eye candy to keep things ticking over here while I recover.

This is Mistress Inka with her bound and bagged slave. It’s a very sexy and sensual shot, with a lovely mix of textures. I sourced it via Twitter and you can see more shots from the same scene here and here.

Mistress Inka is an Edinburgh based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Twitter feed here.

Objectification Fetish

I was reading back through the interview with Troy Orleans I featured in yesterday’s post and this part stood out to me.

…I have an objectification fetish, and I don’t use the word fetish lightly. Objectifying— even just saying the word makes me feel a little tingle. It’s something that’s really thrilling for me. When I get to put someone in this heavy bondage and have them fully immobilized and anonymized, they become this shape, this physical sculpture that I’ve created now hanging in my salon—that to me is incredibly arousing, erotic, and powerful.

People often talk about the appearance of bondage but reading this made me think about all the different types of bondage aesthetic. The one most people probably think of in that context is Shibari, particularly suspension scenes. However, there’s also smooth parcel like bondage, old fashioned rope bondage, predicament bondage, medical bondage, etc. All have their own particular aesthetic. The kind Troy is referring to – heavy use of leather and metal to control and objectify someone – isn’t a common bondage look in either kink or mainstream worlds, but for me it’s by far the hottest kind.

I remember doing a session with Troy a few years ago and she had me suspended in a bodybag as shown here. When everything was rigged with many ties, locks and layers, she asked if she could cover my face. Not so much for my benefit, but for what she described as the aesthetic effect. She just wanted the scene to look right as she imagined it. I can’t handle heavy hoods but we came up with a lightweight material hood that I could live with. Immobilized anonymization was achieved and I became that physical sculpture hanging in her studio.

Here’s a lovely shot of Troy at work creating another of her pieces of art. This is from her Twitter feed.