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D is not an evolution of s

As I was writing yesterday’s post on La Domaine Esemar I had a nagging feeling it was a subject I’d covered before. Searching past posts didn’t find anything, but my bookmark list turned up this article from The Daily Beast. It’s an article I’d intended to post about but never got around to. It’s similar to the Cosmos article, giving background on the people and the Chateau, but provides a lot more detail and context. It’s certainly an interesting article, but there’s one really infuriating part in it.

This deep-seeded dedication to submission, and potential subsequent evolution into dominance, is one of the ways that La Domaine sets itself apart from the commercialized BDSM scene in New York City. People are encouraged to experience both sides, traditionally starting as a submissive and moving into a dominant role, to more fully understand the symbiotic nature of the lifestyle, whereas in other parts of the subculture people will adhere to one or the other for superficial reasons rather than trying, over time, to explore the inner-workings of their sexuality and come to a honest consensus about their true nature as a submissive or a dominant.

Firstly, dominance is not an evolution of submission. The two states are peers and partners. One is not a more advanced lifeform than the other. Secondly, the idea that it’s necessary to explore both sides to fully understand one’s true sexual nature is ludicrous. Are straight people superficial if they don’t first explore same sex relationships? Or have gay people not reached a honest consensus about themselves if they haven’t tried sleeping with someone of the opposite sex? If someone is curious or just uncertain then by all means explore. People’s desires can change and knowledge is a wonderful thing. D/s is not necessarily a binary choice, but some people know deep in their bones what works for them. The above quote smacks of ‘one true path’ bullshit and BDSM hierarchies, and that always drives me nuts.

The above image is Mistress Couple with a slave at La Domaine Esemar.

The law is an ass

I’ve covered the stupidity of the UK’s new anti-sex laws in past posts here, here and here. When you give unelected bodies censorious powers it’s only going to be matter of time before they use them. As this article makes clear, that time has now come. Two UK pro-dommes – Megara Furie and Mistress R’eal – have been found at fault and forced to withdraw content. When the laws were passed there were multiple articles highlighting how horribly biased they would be in penalizing independent female producers (for example this and this). No surprise then that the first people to be affected are two independent pro-dommes. The UK government is all in favor of successful small businesses, just as long as they’re not run by women producing consensual erotica for others to enjoy.

What I found particularly laughably in the article was that the goverment board also threw out the old chestnut about minors being able to access the material. Have these people never encountered tumblr? Obviously I don’t support kids seeing explicit material, but when it comes to censoring online sources, that horse has long since bolted. In fact not only bolted, but had a happy life frolicking in meadows, died of old age, been turned into glue and is now helping old ladies scrapbook photos of the grandchildren.

Sadly, based on the latest UK election results, it looks like the people who passed this law will be returning to power. Thus proving that while the good may die young, the evil get elected to power and fuck with the rest of us.

The above image is of Megara Furie, the Glasgow based pro-domme penalized under the new laws. If you’d like to session with her then her contact information can be found here.

Hollywood Couple

This is a fun vintage shot from the golden age of Hollywood. The man is John Huston, famous director of such films as The Maltese Falcon, The African Queen and The Man Who Would Be King. The woman is Olivia de Havilland, a Hollywood star who appeared in such films as Gone With The Wind, The Adventures of Robin Hood and They Died with Their Boots On. They apparently met and fell in love in the 1940’s. I’ve no idea what the context for the shot is, but it made me smile.

I found this via the Alternative Femdom tumblr.

One last tease

I though I was done with the tease and denial posts, but having stumbled onto this image I couldn’t help but feature it. A contortionist domme is an unusual but appealing concept. I didn’t recognize the characters but Google tells me this is fan art of Ty Lee from The Last Airbender. According to wikipedia she’s an acrobat who can paralyze people by striking their pressure points. It looks like she’s found a pressure point in a particularly critical spot.

I believe the artist of this works under the handle Third Horseman.

A whizzer double

I’m offering a two for one deal in my final post in this tease and denial mini-sequence. The final featured artist is Whizzer Black. His work, featuring the characters Whizzer and Constance, never takes itself to seriously. No matter how nasty Constance is to Whizzer, he always seems be right on the edge of orgasm. The first image below is one of the rare cases where it looks like Whizzer has finally been granted some relief.

The second image is by Kami Tora, who also featured a couple of posts ago. I’m assuming, based on the text and the characters used, it was done as a tribute to Whizzer Black. The artist style is clearly Kami Tora’s, but the characters, situation and humor is straight out of Whizzer’s playbook. The title on the side suggests this is number two of a sequence but I’ve never managed to track down any other images from it.

On edge with Augustine

I mentioned three artists known for tease and denial in my previous post. The first was Kami Tora. The second, featured in today’s post, is Augustine. He features a lot of predicament bondage, tickling and teasing. This particular image is subtitled -‘A very long night with the Queen of Denial‘.

T & D

While I was slacking off in Vegas this past weekend it struck me that it was the ultimate tease and denial town. It dangles the idea of winning lots of money, but rarely follows through. It promises celebrity chefs running restaurants, when in reality all the chefs are off at their main spots in NYC, London, Paris or wherever. Clubs and bars are advertised on the basis of decadent and hedonistic delights, when they’re really just loud crowded rooms full of tourists. When it comes to sexual delights, stripping is the main industry, and that’s the ultimate in tease and denial. Lots of lithe flesh, and naked girls on laps, but no touching or any kind of sexual contact. For those into promised but undelivered pleasure it must be the ideal vacation spot.

I sound like I’m down on it, but I’m really not. I like visiting. I’m just way past the age where gambling, strip clubs and lining up for the latest hot club has any appeal. I like sitting in on a patio with a cocktail, catching up with friends and people watching. I used to think it was the place to go for no holds barred hedonism. Now I think of it as the blue balls capitol of the world.

This teasing image is called Guy Tickling and is by AleX00XelA.

Slacking

I’m in Las Vegas for a few days of R & R. In an unusual turn of events I’ve actually got no kinky fun lined up for this trip. Just hanging out with friends, eating out and relaxing. I’ll try and keep the blog updated but updates may be a bit erratic.

One thing I always enjoy in Vegas is dressing smartly. It’s not exactly Monte Carlo (despite the namesake casino) when it comes to fashion, so a suit really stands out, while still looking good.

This is a photograph shot by Tibi Clenci for Elle magazine in October 2010. The models are Silviu Tolu and Andreea Diaconu.

Kink on Netflix

I’ve mentioned the James Franco documentary on kink.com in previous posts here. I’ve yet to see it, but that may be about to change. I just noticed it has been made available on Netflix’s streaming service. Not sure if what regions it’s available in, but I can certainly see it listed in the US. May be worth a look if you’re at all curious about one of the larger companies in the BDSM porn scene.

The image below is from the kink site TS Seduction and features the beautiful Yasmin Lee.

Stick or Carrot?

After a couple of serious posts, here’s something a bit more lighthearted. Personally I’d be asking why does it have to be an either or choice? What’s wrong with some stick and carrot?

This is by ArrakisArt. The links at the bottom of the image no longer work, but you can find more of her artwork at this deviant art site.