Tag: Fm

Losers are losers

I found this recent study on online social dynamics fascinating. Researchers looked at people playing an online videogame (Halo 3) and measured success against their behavior across the genders. It turned out the men were generally complimentary to other male players. Successful men were also complimentary to female players. However, unsuccessful men tended to be nasty and rude to female players. So they were losers in all sense of the word.

This researchers conclusion was that a change in existing social dynamics – in this case an influx of new female players into a previously male dominated area – was a bigger threat to those near the bottom than those near the top. The lower status players had more to lose and hence reacted in an angrier fashion to those they perceive as responsible. This is a conclusion that fits with a lot of my personal observations of life. In a work environment it’s always the confident and expert individuals who are most open to being challenged and debating alternatives. People who are less sure of themselves see each challenge as a direct threat and react accordingly. One could probably do a similar analysis about economics, social classes and the current politics of America.

In the wider world it’s hard to know what the answer to this problem is. Anger from losing out when it comes to economics or social influence can be understandable. But when it comes to online interaction, whether it’s gaming, discussion forums or social media, there’s no excuse for being a douche. If you can’t not be angry then walk away. And if you see someone behaving obnoxiously then call them on it.

gamingThis is by the artist Travis Estrella from his tumblr 1000 Pencils.

Home Again

I’m back in Seattle after a fun trip to Chicago. Kinky play was featured, which I’ll hopefully write about in a future post. I’ve acquired some pleasing marks on my posterior to admire. It’s possible that not playing very much in the last year has softened me up and led to quicker marking, which is a pleasant side effect. Now I get the pretty patterns without spending half the session doing corporal play.

I need to go unpack and unwind after the flight. I’ll leave you with this charming picture of a happy lady and her pet. He also appears to be marked up, although his look a lot more extensive than mine.

leashedThis image pops up a lot on tumblr, but I can’t track down an original attribution for it unfortunately.

Slacking off (again)

Apologies for the lack of posts in the last couple of days. I’m once again on vacation. This time I’ve headed across the country to Chicago for some kink, food and fun. Hopefully I’ll get time to keep up with my posting in between all that. I’ve not visited the city before, or played with anyone here, so it has been an interesting new experience for me.

This image is completely unrelated to my trip, but I wanted to post it anyway. I think it’s unusual in that it manages to be exciting and erotic, while featuring no faces or traditional erogenous zones. I like the contrast between the delicately feminine foot, the textured rope and the heft of his hand. A perfect example of erotica that sparks the imagination.

foothandI’m afraid I don’t know where it’s from.

Stuffing a hole

I always enjoying reading how film sequences and photoshoots are created. There’s often a huge discrepancy between the carefully curated end product and the much messier act of making it. It’s particularly interesting when the filmed scenes are unusual, and even more so when they’re porn and wacky kinky sex is involved. An article by performer Rain DeGrey, entitled ‘My sex life requires a tractor‘,  featuring her being buried upside down and forced to orgasm, was therefore right up my street. It’s obviously not femdom, but it does show the effort required for some porn shoots. Who’d have thought you’d ever need a working tractor to pull off a kinky scene?

Inverted burial is of course not the only reason to dig a hole outside. You can also use them for slave storage as the English Mansion has done here. I wonder if they also keep a tractor around for digging these holes?

hole

Down the hatch

After yesterday’s post on California’s proposition 60 and the use (or not) of condoms in porn scenes, it struck me there was one kinky porn niche that actually depends on condoms to work. It’s the ‘cuckold cum eating after the fact’ niche. Admittedly, it’s a pretty specialized one –  a subset of cuckolding which is in turn a subset of femdom – but it seems to be a relatively popular one. At least if the prevalence of movies and images is anything to go by. The good news is that rejecting proposition 60 will not affect production values in this particular genre. Everyone involved will still be able to enjoy sticky drippy latex contraceptive fun, just like this pair.

cumeatingThis scene is obviously from the Miss Brat Dom site.

Cosmo recommends

This Cosmos article entitled 7 Kinds of Porn You Don’t Watch — But Might Love is pretty self-explanatory. It’s a pointer to porn that women might enjoy but hadn’t considered trying. The good news is that both femdom and pegging are on the list. The bad news is that it doesn’t really given any suggestions how to experience them. The only link is to the kink.com site, and I don’t think that’s a great starting point. You have to pay to play and it has a lot of intense scenes, neither of which are good if you’re a tiny bit curious but not convinced.

That got me thinking – what actually what would be a good recommendation in this case? Are there sites that portray femdom in a positive light, that aren’t awash in porn cliches and won’t scare a newbie off? It’s a tricky question. I can think of some tumblrs I’d recommend, but tumblrs tend to come and go and are often hard to find. If you’re curious about spanking then I think Pandora Blake’s Dreams of Spanking hits the spot. It shows a positive side to kink and manages to be professional without being porn-y. Outside of that, I’m kind of stuck. Any other suggestions from readers?

This image is from the Tickleberry site, which actually would be a fairly good one to point newcomers at. It’s not porn, but it has got a bunch of articles explaining a lot of basic stuff like pegging, chastity, domination, etc. Unfortunately it doesn’t look like it has been updated in the last year or so.

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Making an impression

Continuing the high heel theme – this time a little lower down the male body. Less a stiletto in this case and more of a punch tool. The inside of the thigh is a really fun place to work on. Fleshy yet also sensitive. I like to imagine he’s looking up into her eyes as she gradually increases the pressure here.

Heel ImpressionsThis image is from Mistress Benio’s tumblr. I believe she’s a Tokyo based pro-domme.

The original Stiletto

This has all the characteristics of a cliched shoe worship shot. There’s a high heel, a shapely foot and a guy on the floor an inch from the sole. Yet, I think it’s a got a really different and much more interesting vibe to it. He looks nervous and that shoe seems more like a weapon than a fetishistic object. He better hope she can balance well on the other foot, or he’ll be finding out exactly why they call them stiletto heels.

stilettoThis is from the flickr photostream of the photographer Marcello Iaconetti. The models are Stefano and Adelaide.

So right, and yet so so wrong

I’ve been trying to avoid writing lots of posts on politics and the election. I have featured the occasional one or two, but I figure that people see enough elsewhere without it showing up here.

However, these comments today by Rush Limbaugh are too perfect and too applicable to this blog to ignore. In talking about Trump’s groping scandals and penchant for sexual assault, he said the following.

RUSH LIMBAUGH: You know what the magic word, the only thing that matters in American sexual mores today is? One thing. You can do anything, the left will promote and understand and tolerate anything, as long as there is one element. Do you know what it is? Consent. If there is consent on both or all three or all four, however many are involved in the sex act, it’s perfectly fine. Whatever it is. But if the left ever senses and smells that there’s no consent in part of the equation then here come the rape police. But consent is the magic key to the left.

This is so simultaneously correct and incorrect it seems to defy fundamental laws of physics. It’s a bit like the double slit experiment. Much as a photon can be both a wave and a particle, Rush can simultaneously highlight the importance of consent in sexual interaction while arguing against it. Although given a photon has zero resting mass, that’s an analogy that doesn’t stretch much further.

Presumably in his mind it’s better for a man to rape a woman in a good, healthy, as God intended, missionary position kind of way than for two (or three) dudes (or ladies) to fool around together consensually. I’ve no idea what kind of life experiences it takes to lead you to that kind of opinion, but I would be fascinated to know. It can’t be anything remotely normal or healthy. Somebody should also tell him that the ‘rape police’ are actually just the ‘police’.

I’ll leave you with an image I’m sure Rush would not approve of. Admittedly it does contain the morally approved count of 2 people of differing genders, but that doesn’t look like a conventional sex act. God created woman as a helper, not to ride man around like a beast. No matter how much fun it looks.

rideBased on this Italian Marie Claire article, I believe this image is from the site c.a.p. 74024.

Oh, and that double meaning in the post title? Totally intended.

The Lioness

I hadn’t intended to turn yesterday’s post on ‘woman staring into middle distance with man at her feet’ into a series, but then I spotted this image in my queue and couldn’t resist. The lady encouraging the man back into the pool is the great Catherine Deneuve, famous for her roles as (to quote wikipedia) aloof, mysterious beauties. This looks like a fashion magazine shot, but I’m not exactly sure for what. From zooming into the text it looks like it was photographed by Ellen Von Unwerth in NYC in 1999.

lioness