The beauty of dominant women
This beautifully composed image comes courtesy of Contessa Klaudia Keys. It’s not the most complicated bondage, but it’s visually very satisfying. There’s something quite objectifying about being bound to a building pillar like this. iIt makes him part of the room.
Contessa Klaudia Keys is a Montreal based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Bluesky feed here.
In theory this might make a good candidate for my occasional ‘Fetish or Fashion?‘ series. Unfortunately, I’ve no idea which of those it is. I found it on tumblr and reverse image search has (as usual these days) failed me. Google’s stupid AI system claimed the man was Kevin Costner at the Golden Globes, so that’s clearly a few billion dollars well spent there.
Personally, I’d guess fashion. It strikes me as the kind of thing someone like Helmut Newton might shoot for a fashion magazine, but I’ve no way of telling for sure. He’s wearing a tuxedo but with a black tie rather than a bow tie, so that seems like a bit of a fashion faux pas. Perhaps that’s why she has tied him down. Is she explaining how to dress properly for a formal event?
A device for administering electrical shocks to a man’s taint is par for the course on this site. Just another Tuesday.
However, the one featured in this Verge article is a little different. Allegedly it’s not designed as a BDSM toy at all. Instead it’s intended to help men avoid premature ejaculation. I guess it’s the high tech equivalent of thinking of cricket/baseball scores. A distracting zap at the right moment to take your mind off other more pleasant things. Apparently it can also enhance orgasms. As a fan of electrical play and getting zapped in delicate spots, I’m not at all surprised by that.
Mistress Matisse had a bit of fun with it in a post to Bluesky. She thinks they could have saved years of research and millions of dollars by just asking a domme about Tens units. However, to be fair, it seems a lot of the time and cost was down to the FDA demanding it pass their complicated tests for clearance. That’s something BSDM toys don’t have to worry about (yet).
This is a shot of Princess Donna using a slightly less sophisticated electrical device. While I’m sure it’ll be distracting and definitely prevent premature ejaculation, I doubt the FDA would approve. It’s obviously from the Men In Pain site.
If you’re interested in the device featured in the Verge article then I believe this is their website.
The image below isn’t a trendy new loft in Soho but the new gorgeous new playspace of Mistress Adreena Angela. It’s cool, sleek and unlike any professional playspace I’ve seen before. There is a sturdy eyelet set into the beam, but other than that there’s nothing to raise the eyebrows of an unsuspected guest. Or at least not until you look at this second shot, which does have a kinky accessory in play.
I’ve mentioned before that I enjoy playing in alternative spaces to dungeons. Anyone can get their kinky freak on in a dark dungeon space surrounded by BDSM equipment. It feels more taboo and illicit to do it in a space that lacks that vibe. I suspect playing here would create a similar frisson.
I was lucky enough to play with Mistress Adreena a few years back. I’ll definitely be aiming to do so again in this new space next time I’m in London.
Mistress Adreena is a London based pro-domme and you can find her professional site here. These images were sourced via a Twitter post.
Circe has provided some useful suggestions for encouraging people to move from the bad place (aka Twitter) to Bluesky. There’s a list for sex workers and one for clients. Worth sharing if you’re on social media.
I have to admit I find it frustrating when people complain a bunch about Trump, Musk and the current political climate, but then exclusively post on Musk’s Twitter. I get posting to both if your livelihood depends on Twitter views, but at least provide the same content on Bluesky.
I do still occasionally scan Twitter, given that a lot of dommes continue to use it exclusively. But I refuse to post, hit like or otherwise engage with it. I’ve struggled with my linking policy. I hate sending anyone there but I also hate not attributing content. My compromise is to try and find any alternative link I can provide, whether that’s Bluesky, Instagram, Reddit or whatever. Only if there’s literally no alternative will I link. If a content creator is exclusively sharing content there, I figure I either need to live with that link or not share the content.
Circe is a professional girlfriend based in London. You can find her Bluesky here and her professional site here. While she’s not a domme, I figure a lovely image of a gorgeous woman is never unwelcome. The visual stories she has on her site are unusual and beautiful. Well worth checking out.
There’s something particularly hot about a small beaten up bed in a big cage like this. If a cell looks too comfy then it gives off the wrong vibe. But if it looks too minimal then it runs into my inner realist. I know my 50 year old back and knees couldn’t survive on a cold concrete floor with just a thin blanket for company. This kind of bed strikes just the right note of rickety uncomfortableness. Plus, those metal legs give nice attachment points for the chains.
I located this via tumblr. The domme is obviously named Healah Sin. However, her website is defunct and I can’t find any active social media presence. So I’m guessing she’s retired.
Crazy to think we’ve reached 2026. That seems like the kind of date I’d see in a Sci-Fi novel not on a calendar. Shame it has turned out to be the dystopian kind of Sci-Fi.
Anyway, let’s not end this crazy year on a down note. Hope everyone has a great 2026, with as much kink as you body and spirit can safely handle. However you plan to celebrate the new year – whether it’s out to a party or, like this lady, spending a night in with a glass of wine and a good book – I wish you well. May the new year bring good things.
I found this on tumblr. Google once again failed me on reverse image searching, but I’m pretty sure that’s Mistress Charlotte Douleur. She’s a London based pro-domme.
I don’t feature a lot of ruined orgasm material here. That’s not because I don’t think it’s hot. It’s actually a kink I love and have played with in sessions. The problem is that it works better as a video or animated gif, and I don’t want to put those bandwidth hogs on my frontpage.
However, I’m making an exception for this post. Partly because I think it’s fairly clear what’s going on here even with a still image. Mostly because I think it’s unusual, interesting and sexy. You can check out the full video clip via this Reddit post. It’s by Ruby Ripple and features her jerking off a parallel fake cock while the real one aimlessly spasms and jerks around alongside it. It reminds me of the fake hand experiment, just with less hammers and more jizz.
You can find more from Ruby via her Reddit posts and her Fans sites.
Playing with Domina Sophie Agenoux required me to do something I rarely do these days: Introduce myself.
When I visit a city I typically play with people I already know. For example, Tess and Troy in NYC and Domina Yuki in SF. Setting up a session there just requires an email exchange to figure out dates and times. For someone new there’s the dance of references, describing interests, figuring out the appropriate dynamic, getting location information, setting limits, etc.
I have to say that Domina Sophie’s process was one of the best I’ve been through. Not only was it well organized and efficient, her session form (sent after the initial reference process) was detailed and asked all the right questions. That was a relief because it sometimes can be a painful interaction. And I don’t mean that in the fun, ouchy way.
One type of problem that comes up is very open ended information gathering. You’re just expected to send an email giving all your session information. I can do this now because I’ve done it many times before. I know what is needed and the right level of detail. But as a newbie that kind of introduction terrified me. You don’t want to be the guy with the equivalent of ‘Hey, what’s up? You avail?’ But you also don’t want to be lumped into the group sending 15 pages of session fanfic written with one hand.
The other problem I’ve seen is when there are specific questions but they’re very opened ended with potentially complex answers. For example – ‘Describe your ideal session’. Or – ‘What does BDSM mean to you?’ I’m sure some people can dash off a sentence or for these kind of questions but, for an over-analyzer like myself, I can get stuck on them for hours. I’ve got 15 years and 300+ posts here on what BDSM means to me. That could be tricky to summarize.
I think one of the really smart things Domina Sophie did was to provide example answers alongside her session questions. For example, a question like ‘How do you want to be treated in a session?’ seems initially tricky to answer. But once you’re given some examples – servant, slave, toy, object, slut, patient – then it suddenly becomes a lot clearer exactly what kind of information is being elicited.
I think a good process not only help the submissive but it’s going to create more business for the domme. I remember how nervous I was when I reached out to a domme for the first time (Lady Lydia back in 2010). A big part of why I picked her out from a lot of Seattle dommes was how straightforward her booking process was. There were tick boxes to pick activities, a low/medium/high option for experience with each and a few simple questions that were easy to answer. If it’d been more complex I might never have taken that initial scary jump. What a tragedy that would have been. I might never have got to experience amazing dommes like Lydia or Domina Sophie.
This post is another perfect excuse to share one of the images from Domina Sophie’s Bluesky feed. You can find her professional site here.
I’ve returned to the cold of Seattle after two weeks of California sun. While I’m already missing the warmth, I do have some happy kinky memories to look back on. The original impetus for my trip was a friend’s birthday, but I extended it to open up some session opportunities. Specifically, the chance to session with LA based Mistress Sophie Agenoux. That proved to be a very wise decision.
We actually ended up with three separate sessions spaced over the week. As I’ve written before, I find that a great way to play, particularly with someone new. It builds anticipation between sessions and provides an opportunity to tweak play based on what happened previously. I never want to top from the bottom during play, so I appreciate having a chance to reflect between sessions and spot things I’d like to lean into more heavily next time.
In this case that meant a lot of CBT, tease and denial, nipple torture and watersports. We were too busy playing to snap pictures, so you’ll have to trust me that Mistress Sophie was exceptional across them all. I got the adrenaline shakes each time, which is always a good sign. That’s where it looks like I’m cold, but I’m just shivering to washes of adrenaline through my body.
Watersports were a particular focus. While I’m not up for FTT, I do enjoy the objectification elements of toilet play and Mistress Sophie has a great selection of chairs and gags for this. I got to try a plug gag for the first time, which has a very hot dehumanizing feel to it.
Often this activity can be a bit of a throw away to mark the end of a session. Get tortured, get peed on and now get out. I appreciated how Mistress Sophie invested the time and focus to make it a really significant part of the session. It felt like a full paragraph in our session story rather than simply the exclamation point at the end.
This shot is of Domina Sophie is from her Bluesky feed. If you’re looking for a session in the LA area in 2026 then I’d definitely suggest reaching out to her. She’s an amazing domme and has a lovely private playspace. You can find her professional site here.
