Tag: Photograph

Fashion and Money

If there’s ever an attempt to assign kinks to places, findomme would be a shoe in (ahem) for Beverly Hills. There’s money, high fashion and an endless number of elegant, well dressed women shoppers whose natural resting expression is disdainful. At least, that was my observations from a day’s shopping there. Even the assistants at the boutiques tend to a bratty ‘Are you sure you’re in the right place … Sir’ attitude. It’s fun.

It made me wonder what the correlation is between findomme fans and wealth. I’m confident if you plotted interest in things like bondage or foot worship against wealth there would not be a high correlation. The idea that male submissives skew to powerful successful types is a stupid cliche that always bugs me. However, if someone has linked money to kink, that does suggest some sort of correlation. Is that often down to a wealthy background? Or is it the opposite? A lack of money causing it to become a totemic artifact? Are there more or less than the average number of findomme fans around areas like Beverly Hills? It’s not a kink I’ve ever been attracted to, so I lack an intuition for it.

This image is from a 1987 fashion shoot of Cindy Crawford and Paulina Porizkova by Richard Avedon.

The Inside Story

I’ve written here before about the Pornocalypse and the tendency of platforms to shift from supporting sex workers to being overtly hostile. The performer and model Ariel Anderssen has written this excellent substack article on this phenomena from her expert and insider perspective. Her subtitle of ‘On the godforsaken cowardice of porn sites’ captures the spirit of it perfectly.

I think the term Pornocalypse was first coined by Selina Kitt writing about Amazon censoring erotic books back in 2013. I stumbled on it via Bacchus at Eros Blog and this post. It’s a pattern we’ve now seen play out again and again over the past decade or more. What’s particularly insane about the latest round is that it features companies that are primarily all about pornography. Sites like OnlyFans and ManyVids clamping down on their primary business is insane. Or – as Ariel puts it in her excellent article – like they’ve been taken over by a loud, insistent, puritanical alien that doesn’t like pornography.

Most of Ariel’s content features her as a submissive, but I did find this image that has a more Femdom slant. If you’d like to see more of her work, check out her links here.

Cupcake

Whilst I love food and I love kink, I don’t typically love combining them. I just don’t have the food related kinks like sploshing and feeding. However, I do love this video from Contessa Klaudia Keys. There’s beautiful bondage, sadism, sensuality and a cupcake. So much good stuff packed into just a few minutes.

Contessa Klaudia Keys is a Montreal based pro-domme and Fetish artist. You can find more of her work on her site.

Travelling

I’m taking a few days vacation. Posting may therefore be a little erratic. I shall endeavour not to get horribly behind my post queue.

I felt like I deserved some time in the sun away from both work and the Seattle gloom. It’s pretty grey this time of year. First week is relaxing with friends, second week is just me and a chance for some kink. Of course, if my work looked anything like this then I’d probably never leave the office.

15th (ish) Year Anniversary

I just realized that this blog has reached its 15 year anniversary. In fact it reached it back in September and I totally missed it. Happy belated anniversary to me and it.

Looking back to a post I made for the 10 year milestone, I’m amused to note that I was hoping to be retired by now and have freed up time for more personal projects. Unfortunately, shortly after writing that post, I did pretty much the opposite of retiring and joined an early stage tech startup. Not a move I’d recommend for anyone looking to wind down their work life. That has really killed my free time for the last few years and definitely impacted my blogging. Hopefully, between now and the 20 year version of this post, I can actually retire and reclaim some time for kink, writing and travel. Future me – don’t fuck this up.

An anniversary is typically celebrated with cake and candles. I don’t have any cake to share, but here’s some candles. Luckily for the gentleman concerned, not 15 of them.

Sadly I don’t have the original source for this image. Image search tells me it’s pretty old – at least 9 years. There is a Marina B. photographer online, but her work seems far more family oriented than this. If anyone has an attribution then please let me know via a comment.

Happy Thanksgiving

It’s the end of November, which means only one thing in the US – Thanksgiving. That means blogs like this one are obliged to make stuffing related posts. I think that’s actually one of the amendments to the constitution. So here we go, with a young farmhand putting one of those hands to good use.

For those based in the US that celebrate the holiday, I hope you have a good one. For everyone, at least it’s almost the weekend.

Floristry and Bondage

This image by Mistress Estelle Leon is a lovely combination of textures and colors. There’s the soft white bandages, the hard shiny gag and the colorful organic spray of branches. They’re apparently Eucalyptus, so there’s even scent in the mix for our lucky subject.

This isn’t the kind of scene you’ll ever see as a tick box on a session request form. But I’m sure by the end of it the submissive felt lucky and privileged to have been part of it. There’s something very satisfying about being decorated by a domme.

You can see another shot of the same scene via this Bluesky post. Mistress Estelle Leon is a Melbourne based pro-domme whose professional site can be found here.

Grief Encounter

This site gave me  bit of a scare this week. First I couldn’t update or create new posts. Then I couldn’t log in at all. Fortunately, the hosting company has efficient technical support and got it all sorted out. Normal service has been resumed.

I was actually a little surprised at how concerned I was. I’ve been blogging for a longtime now. When I started I had daily posts. Now it’s more like 3 or so a week. I occasionally wonder if/when I’ll stop. Based on my reaction to the technical gremlins, it probably will not be soon. Felt very weird not being able to log in and post.

Anyway, back to the Femdom salt mines, digging up imagery and links of interest. Here’s a nice case in point. The image is from a short film caused ‘Grief Encounter’.  It features a woman picking up people at funerals to take advantage of their ‘overwhelmed’ state.

The film was directed by Ellen Pearson and produced by Erika Lust. If the actress looks familiar, that’s because it is domme Eva Oh, who I’ve featured here before.

To Nut or Not To Nut

We’re out of Loctober and into No Nut November. It’s just an endless festival of none orgasms at this time of year.

I tend to subscribe to the views expressed in this Stockroom article about No Nut November. Loctober puts the focus on kink and is therefore sex positive. Even if the end result for participants is negative sex. NNN unhealthily shifts the emphasis more to shame and suppressing desire. That’s not surprising given it’s original growth in incel culture.

That said, there are people out there trying to reclaim it and give it a happy new home in kink. For example, the most excellent Maya Midnight posted this to Bluesky.

No Nut November actually started as a lame anti-porn thing but has since become a sexy chastity thing and I just think that’s beautiful

Let’s hope it keeps trending in that direction.

Mentioning Maya does give me an excuse to share this lovely image of her. I’ve always been a big fan of grey hair. And of men in cages of course. This is from her Bluesky feed. You can find her professional site here.