The beauty of dominant women
It’s the end of November, which means only one thing in the US – Thanksgiving. That means blogs like this one are obliged to make stuffing related posts. I think that’s actually one of the amendments to the constitution. So here we go, with a young farmhand putting one of those hands to good use.
For those based in the US that celebrate the holiday, I hope you have a good one. For everyone, at least it’s almost the weekend.
This image by Mistress Estelle Leon is a lovely combination of textures and colors. There’s the soft white bandages, the hard shiny gag and the colorful organic spray of branches. They’re apparently Eucalyptus, so there’s even scent in the mix for our lucky subject.
This isn’t the kind of scene you’ll ever see as a tick box on a session request form. But I’m sure by the end of it the submissive felt lucky and privileged to have been part of it. There’s something very satisfying about being decorated by a domme.
You can see another shot of the same scene via this Bluesky post. Mistress Estelle Leon is a Melbourne based pro-domme whose professional site can be found here.
This site gave me bit of a scare this week. First I couldn’t update or create new posts. Then I couldn’t log in at all. Fortunately, the hosting company has efficient technical support and got it all sorted out. Normal service has been resumed.
I was actually a little surprised at how concerned I was. I’ve been blogging for a longtime now. When I started I had daily posts. Now it’s more like 3 or so a week. I occasionally wonder if/when I’ll stop. Based on my reaction to the technical gremlins, it probably will not be soon. Felt very weird not being able to log in and post.
Anyway, back to the Femdom salt mines, digging up imagery and links of interest. Here’s a nice case in point. The image is from a short film caused ‘Grief Encounter’. It features a woman picking up people at funerals to take advantage of their ‘overwhelmed’ state.
The film was directed by Ellen Pearson and produced by Erika Lust. If the actress looks familiar, that’s because it is domme Eva Oh, who I’ve featured here before.
I’m surprised I missed this image when it first came out. This is Mia Goth and  Alexander SkarsgÃ¥rd promoting the movie Infinity Pool back in 2023. Apparently the movie features a leashed scene and so they decided to reenact it for the public promotion. I wonder if that was Mia’s or Alexander’s suggestion?
We’re out of Loctober and into No Nut November. It’s just an endless festival of none orgasms at this time of year.
I tend to subscribe to the views expressed in this Stockroom article about No Nut November. Loctober puts the focus on kink and is therefore sex positive. Even if the end result for participants is negative sex. NNN unhealthily shifts the emphasis more to shame and suppressing desire. That’s not surprising given it’s original growth in incel culture.
That said, there are people out there trying to reclaim it and give it a happy new home in kink. For example, the most excellent Maya Midnight posted this to Bluesky.
No Nut November actually started as a lame anti-porn thing but has since become a sexy chastity thing and I just think that’s beautiful
Let’s hope it keeps trending in that direction.
Mentioning Maya does give me an excuse to share this lovely image of her. I’ve always been a big fan of grey hair. And of men in cages of course. This is from her Bluesky feed. You can find her professional site here.
Mistress Jadis Ives posted something to Bluesky that gave me pause for thought…
One of the benefits of sessioning with a ProDomme is that it can provide a clean container for your D/s desires that does not impact the rest of your life.
I found that interesting because – while I get the logic – it’s not at all how I see my sessions. For me, visiting a pro-domme unlocked a part of myself that could then grow and extend into my life. It ceased to be an internal fantasy and became real. After my first sessions I began reading about BDSM more widely, started this blog, travelled to cities to play with new people, came out to a subset of my friends, etc. In many ways it felt the reverse of this quote, where sessioning allowed me to take my D/s desires out of their container and into the world.
That’s not say Mistress Jadis Ives is wrong! I’m sure there are a lot of people for whom this very much does apply. Which makes me curious what the more common experience among pro-domme clients is. Do most compartmentalize? I’m single and pretty independent, so I don’t have strict lines of demarcation to draw. If I was married to a non-kinky partner, maybe I’d feel differently.
Of course, I couldn’t do a post on dommes and containers, without featuring the literal version. This is from Warsaw Prison and their Prison Stay experience. I love the solidity of that container.
My last post was a one-off ‘fetish or fashion?’ special. Thanks to those who commented and I hope it was a fun one to guess at. The answer is: Fetish! Although I think it would be perfectly at home in a fashion magazine. The source is Natalie Noir who posted it here. Using photographs from Natalie in these kind of posts is a bit of a cheat code. Almost anything she posts is beautiful with great fashion and fetish vibes (as previously featured).
I thought it’d be good to complement the last ‘fetish but could be fashion’ image with a reverse example. This is the actress Julianna Margulies as featured in Harpers Magazine in 2011 under the title ‘The Bad Wife’. That’s obviously a play on her TV show ‘The Good Wife‘. I’m sure for a lot of readers we’d happily swap the good for the bad here.
Longtime readers may remember my occasional series entitled ‘fetish or fashion?’ It’s where I post a series of images and ask people to guess if they’re from a fetish or fashion context. You can see the last series starting here and ending here.
I don’t have time to run a full series right now. However, I stumbled across this image recently and thought it’d make a fun one-off post. Is this fashion or fetish? The answer tomorrow!
If you’re a woman in the San Francisco Bay Area and interested in learning more about dominance then you might want to consider ForteFemme. It’s a weekend long (Nov 14-16) intense class for 9 women interested in exploring dominance and femme empowerment.
I realize that this probably isn’t relevant to 99.9% of my readers, but I figure there’s a chance it may resonate with someone (or someone you know) out there. It’s run by Midori, who has a deep and impressive background in kink and education. In fact I featured a link to this same course being run by her back in 2016! On her Bluesky feed she gave this description of it.
ForteFemme doesn’t teach you how to be dominant. We help you discover how to find your appetite and give it permission to express itself ethically & artfully. Because the world doesn’t need another carbon copy—it needs your authentic expression of power and pleasure.
Here’s another image to continue the theme of intense, equipment heavy sessions. This time it’s one that popped up on my Bluesky feed from Odette Engle. I’ve seen and enjoyed vacuum powered penis milking devices like that before, but the vacuum bra set-up is unusual and new to me. The boots with individual toes and the finger bondage set-up is also very cool. Looks like a great set-up to be the center of.
This was sourced from Odette Engle’s Bluesky feed. She’s an SF based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Clips Store here.