Tag: Fm

Chasing Not Catching

Like a lot of people, I enjoy regular, vanilla sex. It’s undeniably fun and pleasurable. Yet, it’s never as much fun as an intense kinky scene. I’d rather be fucked up than fuck. Occasionally, when booking up pro-domme sessions I’ll contemplate the idea of finding someone just for regular PIV sex. My social media feeds have any number of hot escorts in them. However, I never do it, as I know I’ll just end up wishing I’d stuck to pain over pleasure.

This preference is probably not too surprising. I run a femdom blog after all. However, what I do find odd is how much I like playing with tease and denial, or implied chastity/cuckold dynamics. They’re all based on the desirability of sex, the thing I don’t bother arranging. I’m turned on by the idea of not getting the thing that I don’t actually want.

I guess I’m a bit like a dog chasing a car. The fun is all in the chase. Catching it would spoil the game.

This gentleman seems to be safely packaged up and unlikely to be spoiling things with sex anytime soon. I found it via tumblr but it’s from Mrs Steelwerks.

Pop

This artwork is from an artist I’ve featured before – Mad Tomy. He posted this to his Twitter feed.

I’m featuring it here because I think it’s very sexy and manages to pack a lot of fun stuff into a single image. There’s obviously the threat of ballbusting and CBT, given the set-up. That’s coupled with a nice humiliation and objectification element. She might slam you in the balls, but that’s not going to distract her from texting her friends. Finally, there’s the foot fetish element, with the very obviously dirty sole.

It’s funny but feet in general don’t do much for me. But make them dirty and sweaty and suddenly they’re kind of hot. I guess that’s less a foot fetish and more a scent and oral fixation.

If you like this then you can find more at Mad Tomy’s site.

More Scene Fails

While I’m on the subject of scenes gone terribly wrong – as I just was – the OnlyFans model who killed a man last year has just been sentenced. I covered the original story back in March ’25 in this post. He suffocated to death while she was filming content. The entire scene seemed like a bunch of bad decisions by everyone involved and the woman has just been sentenced to 4 years for involuntary manslaughter.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that real prison time is one of my hard limits. I’ll add it alongside hoods, scat and punishment dynamics as things to avoid in or after a session. I know the internet has lot of depictions of sexy prison wardens in tight outfits, but I can’t help feeling it might not be as fun as they make it look.

I believe this is by the artist Stig.

Back in the Big Smoke

After doing a lot of family stuff over last couple of weeks, I’m finally back in London with a decadent weekend ahead. I’ve been reading a lot of bondage fiction recently, so planning to lean into that kink over a couple of sessions. Should be an uncomfortably fun time.

While I’m not planning on any inverted suspension scenes, I did like this image. It’s a little old fashioned in style – I’m guessing it’s from the 90’s – but the combination of simplicity and extremes is appealing.

An Afternoon with Vera

By now it seems that every fashion / lifestyle magazine has done some variation on the ‘Day with a Dominatrix’ article. Today it’s the turn of Australia’s Fashion Journal with this article featuring Vera Beaufort.

I’m featuring it here because I think it’s one of the better examples of its kind. Less sensational and voyeuristic and more in touch with the dynamics of a real session. The play described is a lot more formalized and ritualistic than my sessions but still has the ring of truth to it.

The other reason to feature it is that it gives me an excuse to post a sexy picture from Vera Beaufort’s site. She has a lot that fit that description but I particularly liked this one. The intimacy of the spit contrasts beautiful with the control and objectification of his outfit.

Vera Beaufort is based out of Melbourne and in person sessions can be scheduled via her site. You can also find her on Bluesky.

Virgin Island

Virgin Island is a reality TV show from the UK featuring 12 virgins on a 3 week intimacy retreat. Their virginity is unwanted and so the viewer gets to watch them work with sex therapists/surrogates and overcome their issues around intimacy. It sounds like the kind of show I’d absolutely hate and watching it would create a serious risk of death by second hand embarrassment.

However, it actually gets positive reviews and seems to have been created with some thought and a lot more sensitivity than the average reality TV show. I’m still never going to watch it, but it’s good to see thoughtful coverage of sex in a genre that typically leans into the exploitative.

I mention it here because an episode in the last season actually featured some femdom. One of the participants (Ed) was interested in submission and got to roleplay it with the resident BDSM coach – Shelby Devlin. There was exploration of spanking, forniphilia and some mild humiliation. All fun stuff and I hope Ed gets a chance for more kinky exploration in future. Preferably without a camera crew around.

This is the aforementioned Shelby Devlin. She’s a sex / intimacy and BDSM coach with a Master’s degree in Sexuality Studies. You can find her general website here and one that seems more targeted to BDSM and Kink coaching here. She runs workshops that are detailed here.

I believe this photograph was created by Alyssa Keys Photography.

Luggage

As I’m currently traveling, this seemed an appropriate image to share. One wonders what the storage arrangement inside the train is. Getting him into an overhead luggage bin would seem tricky. I’m picturing a special luggage van with rows of lock points for the wheels and the handle. Perfect for safely transporting all the slaves for the ladies on the train.

I found this via tumblr, but I’m certain it’s the creation of Loviante. You can get more of their work via their Subscribestar.

A Stupid Step

Given I’m currently visiting the UK, it seems appropriate to rant about their increasingly stupid pornography laws. Last year they were targeting a ban on depictions of choking. Earlier this year they went after depictions of sex acts between step family members. That last one is particularly stupid because they’re banning the fictional depiction of something that’s not actually illegal in the UK. So by all means fuck your step brother/sister/mom/whatever, just don’t pretend to do so on film.

It is of course reasonable to say that you don’t care about either of these kinks. The problem with that view is that the kind of government that’ll pass these laws is unlikely to stop there. Is a politician that votes for these bills going to take a different tack on say ABDL? Or Mommy Domme scenes? Or even just any regular kind of BDSM? If you think someone watching two porn actors call each other ‘step-sister/brother’ deserves jail time, what about watching a domme beat up a ‘helpless’ guy and then piss on him? Is an MP going to stand up and say there was a good argument for the step-family porn ban, but watersports and bondage deserve protection under the law?

From a selfish perspective, I find it particularly depressing. The UK is the obvious place for me to relocate if the US political situation continues to deteriorate. Yet here we have a left wing government wasting time on some seriously stupid stuff. This is a country where just 2.7% of reported rapes result in charges and the trials themselves face growing backlogs. You’d think the clear and obvious massive harm there would be a priority over what fictional material people jerk off to, but apparently not.

As far as I know this kind of image is still OK to share. But frankly who can tell? I don’t think that’s supposed to be the step-mom standing behind, but imagine trying to debate that fact in court.

The artwork is by Rosie-BRS over at DeviantArt.

On the Road

My last post on the stress of submitting web forms on pro-domme websites was based on a true story. I’m off on vacation and had spent the last few weeks making contact with a couple of dommes I was interested in playing with. I will hasten to add that they were prompt in response, easy to schedule with and their websites did not eat my session request form. However, that still doesn’t reduce the stress when pressing the ‘submit’ button for the first time.

Anyway, I’m back in the old country for a few weeks. Mostly to catch up with family and friends, but I will be indulging in some of my baser hedonistic instincts. Although is it actually hedonistic if you’re actively seeking out pain?

Will try and keep the blog updates flowing. In the meantime, here’s a bit of visual loveliness. Sadly I don’t know of the original source for it.