Some Things Never Change

I’m continuing the historical theme with this image. It’s another one from mrunderheel on Twitter. However, in this case it wasn’t the image that caught my eye – although it does feature a very fun phone – but the text. It’s an interesting glimpse into the pro-domme world of the past.

Firstly, there’s the mention of ‘transvestites’. You almost never see that today. Cross-dressing or feminization seem to be current words of choice. I guess transvestite carries too much negative baggage, Rocky Horror usage not withstanding.

Then there’s the use of ‘Greek’ to mean anal sex. That used to be a standard sex worker code word but has gone out of fashion. ‘Slave Greeking’ here presumably means pegging or similar activities.

The acronym S.A.S.E might require some explanation for my readers under 40. That stands for ‘Self Addressed Stamped Envelope’ and was a common request if you were writing to someone and wanted a response. By enclosing an envelope with a stamp you were paying the postage for the reply. I remember it being a standard thing in the 70s and 80s when requesting information.

The part that made laugh and gave me the post title was the phrase – “No pen pals.” I’m assuming this meant don’t waste my time and send me letters expecting a response without paying for a session. Yes, even when it took many days to  communicate, and actual pen and ink were required, reply guys and timewasters were still a thing. Self-centered horny men are, sadly, in endless and timeless supply.

You can see the original full size version via this Twitter post.

Thumbscrews

I’m always entertained when I stumble across strange vintage femdom pornography. Often it’s terrible bondage or odd outfits that catch the eye. In this case it’s an unusual means of torture.

I think the original form of a thumbscrew was a small vice, that crushed the fingers. The domme here seems to have taken the screw part of the name a little too literally. I’m guessing these are woodwork and metalwork tools that have been repurposed by an inventive pornographer. She at least seems to be enjoying herself, even if the slave isn’t.

I’d guess from the color and style this was originally shot in the 1970’s. It was recently posted to Twitter by mrunderheel.

Fast Growing

I was recently amused to see that two totally different things were both being acclaimed as the ‘fastest growing kink’.

Firstly, Metro made the claim that race play was the fastest growing craze in kink. Then, a day later, Vice claimed that fart fetish content is the fastest growing kink of 2026. Both can’t be right, particularly given how different those things are. Presumably it means that the biggest selling porn of the year will be someone who can both fart and yell racist slurs simultaneously. Insert your own joke about the current President here.

Personally, I find it hard to believe either of those kinks will make it out of a narrow niche. That’s not to say they can’t grow, but they’ve both got a lot of negative social stigma attached. There clearly has been a few breakout kink categories over the years – cuckolding and faux-incest come to mind – but I wouldn’t bet on race or fart play being the next big one.

Artwork is by the late great Namio Harukawa. I’m not sure he did explicitly fart fetish drawings, but I’d guess if you have that kink, you’d find a lot to like in his work.

Chasing Not Catching

Like a lot of people, I enjoy regular, vanilla sex. It’s undeniably fun and pleasurable. Yet, it’s never as much fun as an intense kinky scene. I’d rather be fucked up than fuck. Occasionally, when booking up pro-domme sessions I’ll contemplate the idea of finding someone just for regular PIV sex. My social media feeds have any number of hot escorts in them. However, I never do it, as I know I’ll just end up wishing I’d stuck to pain over pleasure.

This preference is probably not too surprising. I run a femdom blog after all. However, what I do find odd is how much I like playing with tease and denial, or implied chastity/cuckold dynamics. They’re all based on the desirability of sex, the thing I don’t bother arranging. I’m turned on by the idea of not getting the thing that I don’t actually want.

I guess I’m a bit like a dog chasing a car. The fun is all in the chase. Catching it would spoil the game.

This gentleman seems to be safely packaged up and unlikely to be spoiling things with sex anytime soon. I found it via tumblr but it’s from Mrs Steelwerks.

Pop

This artwork is from an artist I’ve featured before – Mad Tomy. He posted this to his Twitter feed.

I’m featuring it here because I think it’s very sexy and manages to pack a lot of fun stuff into a single image. There’s obviously the threat of ballbusting and CBT, given the set-up. That’s coupled with a nice humiliation and objectification element. She might slam you in the balls, but that’s not going to distract her from texting her friends. Finally, there’s the foot fetish element, with the very obviously dirty sole.

It’s funny but feet in general don’t do much for me. But make them dirty and sweaty and suddenly they’re kind of hot. I guess that’s less a foot fetish and more a scent and oral fixation.

If you like this then you can find more at Mad Tomy’s site.

More Scene Fails

While I’m on the subject of scenes gone terribly wrong – as I just was – the OnlyFans model who killed a man last year has just been sentenced. I covered the original story back in March ’25 in this post. He suffocated to death while she was filming content. The entire scene seemed like a bunch of bad decisions by everyone involved and the woman has just been sentenced to 4 years for involuntary manslaughter.

I’m going to go out on a limb here and say that real prison time is one of my hard limits. I’ll add it alongside hoods, scat and punishment dynamics as things to avoid in or after a session. I know the internet has lot of depictions of sexy prison wardens in tight outfits, but I can’t help feeling it might not be as fun as they make it look.

I believe this is by the artist Stig.

Back in the Big Smoke

After doing a lot of family stuff over last couple of weeks, I’m finally back in London with a decadent weekend ahead. I’ve been reading a lot of bondage fiction recently, so planning to lean into that kink over a couple of sessions. Should be an uncomfortably fun time.

While I’m not planning on any inverted suspension scenes, I did like this image. It’s a little old fashioned in style – I’m guessing it’s from the 90’s – but the combination of simplicity and extremes is appealing.

An Afternoon with Vera

By now it seems that every fashion / lifestyle magazine has done some variation on the ‘Day with a Dominatrix’ article. Today it’s the turn of Australia’s Fashion Journal with this article featuring Vera Beaufort.

I’m featuring it here because I think it’s one of the better examples of its kind. Less sensational and voyeuristic and more in touch with the dynamics of a real session. The play described is a lot more formalized and ritualistic than my sessions but still has the ring of truth to it.

The other reason to feature it is that it gives me an excuse to post a sexy picture from Vera Beaufort’s site. She has a lot that fit that description but I particularly liked this one. The intimacy of the spit contrasts beautiful with the control and objectification of his outfit.

Vera Beaufort is based out of Melbourne and in person sessions can be scheduled via her site. You can also find her on Bluesky.

Virgin Island

Virgin Island is a reality TV show from the UK featuring 12 virgins on a 3 week intimacy retreat. Their virginity is unwanted and so the viewer gets to watch them work with sex therapists/surrogates and overcome their issues around intimacy. It sounds like the kind of show I’d absolutely hate and watching it would create a serious risk of death by second hand embarrassment.

However, it actually gets positive reviews and seems to have been created with some thought and a lot more sensitivity than the average reality TV show. I’m still never going to watch it, but it’s good to see thoughtful coverage of sex in a genre that typically leans into the exploitative.

I mention it here because an episode in the last season actually featured some femdom. One of the participants (Ed) was interested in submission and got to roleplay it with the resident BDSM coach – Shelby Devlin. There was exploration of spanking, forniphilia and some mild humiliation. All fun stuff and I hope Ed gets a chance for more kinky exploration in future. Preferably without a camera crew around.

This is the aforementioned Shelby Devlin. She’s a sex / intimacy and BDSM coach with a Master’s degree in Sexuality Studies. You can find her general website here and one that seems more targeted to BDSM and Kink coaching here. She runs workshops that are detailed here.

I believe this photograph was created by Alyssa Keys Photography.

Luggage

As I’m currently traveling, this seemed an appropriate image to share. One wonders what the storage arrangement inside the train is. Getting him into an overhead luggage bin would seem tricky. I’m picturing a special luggage van with rows of lock points for the wheels and the handle. Perfect for safely transporting all the slaves for the ladies on the train.

I found this via tumblr, but I’m certain it’s the creation of Loviante. You can get more of their work via their Subscribestar.