Tag: Fm

Lamp Revisited

I made it all the way through 2025 without featuring a single shot of a submissive posed as a lamp. Shame on me.

My last entry in this niche but very important BDSM genre was back in December 2024. I think this is entry number 8 in the series, which have now spread over a 15 year period. Clearly it’s time to bring the glow back and shine a light once more.

The entry below is from Chicago’s Fetish Fellow, photographed by Lanee Bird and featuring Domina X.

Sourced via Fetish Fellow’s post on BlueSky.

Masochistic Hook-ups.

I thought this was an interesting Guardian article: I spent years meeting strangers for masochistic hook-ups. Was I a sex addict?

It’s written by Leesa Morris, describing her experiences with the aforementioned hook-ups. She left a vanilla marriage and leaned in hard to her kinks and desires. In fact she leaned in so hard that it became a dominating (ahem) and unhealthy element of her life, leaving her unsatisfied and unhappy.

There’s a couple of obvious takeaways. One is that anything can be unhealthy when taken too excess and dependency. The other is that if kink is an important part of your makeup, a monogamous vanilla relationship is unlikely to be satisfying over the long-term.

I thought it also highlighted a couple of interesting gender differences. Firstly, she describes the lack of aftercare in her transactional encounters in this way…

A solid part of healthy BDSM play is the cuddles afterwards. The official term is “after-care”, and it’s when the dominant heaps affection on the partner who has taken the punishment. Closing the loop, if you will. But because I wasn’t making meaningful connections, the guys would usually leave afterwards, and I’d be alone with my bruises.

I’m all for aftercare but I don’t think I’ve ever had a post session cuddle from a domme. Aftercare in professional sessions is mostly just 5 minutes to unwind, chat about what happened and drink some water. While I’m sure a lot of guys wouldn’t object to a cuddle and a lot of affection, we’re also happy to leave with just a hug and a bunch of endorphins to process.

The other difference was simply how many masochistic hookups she could arrange. A male submissive, outside of hiring professionals, could never make those connections so quickly and easily. While the difference in numbers between male submissives and female dominants may be over-blown, there’s clearly a big difference between the available of dominant play partners for female versus male submissives. And equally clearly,  both dominant and submissive guys are more at ease with transactional encounters. That’s probably not going to make news at eleven.

I’m not sure if this is actually aftercare, but it certainly seems like a tender moment. I found this via tumblr, but I believe that’s French domme Mistress Ibicella.  You can find her Bluesky here.

Getting Picked, a How To Guide

Miss Pearl (via Bluesky) pointed me towards this excellent Reddit  post. It’s a guide for what a submissive needs to do in order to get picked by a domme for kinky shenanigans. The advice is practical and to the point. I particularly like this bit…

A long lasting relationship is built on two people knowing the flaws, weaknesses, needs, wants, prejudices and shames of one another and loving each other anyway, in spite of and perhaps because of them. But you’re not looking to build a long lasting relationship, you’re looking to get picked, and that means you need to look at yourself critically, identify any undesirable quirks, needs or idiosyncrasies and remove them: with scalpel, Brillo pad or peroxide until you’re a perfect, digestible sphere.

Let’s be honest. Who hasn’t always wanted to hone themselves into a perfect, digestible sphere? Mmm … Spheres.

I’m sure if you carefully follow the posts advice you’ll soon be under your very own leather clad kinky Goddess. Probably. Possibly.

Long in the tooth kinksters such as myself may recognize this as an image from the 90’s and Cruella magazine.

Hopscotch

This drawing reminded me of carpet guy – an infamous NYC submissive who used to like being trampled while wrapped in a carpet. I featured a post on him back in 2013. He was well known among the NYC dommes for many years even before that. I hope he’s still around and turning up at play parties with his carpet in tow.

Oddly, this is a modified version of the original. The artist is Virginia Mori and you can see the original – along with a lot of her other weird but wonderful art – here. The original artwork doesn’t have the colored square and it’s clear that it’s a a girl under the rug. This has been altered to suggest a boy and a target square to be landed on. Perverts up to no good again.

If you want to support the original artist you can buy her work here.

Accessorizing

What caught my eye in this image wasn’t the latex, bondage and milking device, yummy though all those things are. It wasn’t even Lady Delphine’s shiny and beautiful bottom or cascading red hair. What caught me eye was the crutches and eye chart on the wall. I can’t imagine they’d ever be useful for a scene, but they do add the appropriate ambience. It’s always nice to see the extra little touches that people bring to a playspace.

This was sourced via Lady Delphine’s Bluesky feed. She’s a Toronto based pro-domme. If you’re interested in experiencing her healing hands yourself, then her professional site is here.

Pillar Bondage

This beautifully composed image comes courtesy of Contessa Klaudia Keys. It’s not the most complicated bondage, but it’s visually very satisfying. There’s something quite objectifying about being bound to a building pillar like this. iIt makes him part of the room.

Contessa Klaudia Keys is a Montreal based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Bluesky feed here.

Hostage Situation

In theory this might make a good candidate for my occasional ‘Fetish or Fashion?‘ series. Unfortunately, I’ve no idea which of those it is. I found it on tumblr and reverse image search has (as usual these days) failed me. Google’s stupid AI system claimed the man was Kevin Costner at the Golden Globes, so that’s clearly a few billion dollars well spent there.

Personally, I’d guess fashion. It strikes me as the kind of thing someone like Helmut Newton might shoot for a fashion magazine, but I’ve no way of telling for sure. He’s wearing a tuxedo but with a black tie rather than a bow tie, so that seems like a bit of a fashion faux pas. Perhaps that’s why she has tied him down. Is she explaining how to dress properly for a formal event?

AI Videos

The proliferation of AI content continues to drive me mad. It makes it a lot harder to find good images to share. There’s just so much junk out there. However, there is the odd gem lurking around. For example, Servitor (via this post) turned me onto a series of funny femdom videos that fem-suprem-the-mouse has put together here.

I think they’re really well done. There’s a lot of fake advertisements for things like electronic summoning devices (see here, here or here) and Lickety Split Shoe Cleaning services (see here, here and here). While there’s still bits of AI weirdness, it’s not as jarring as I’ve seen in other videos. Impressive and/or scary, depending on your point of view.

This is a screenshot from this video by fem-suprem-the-mouse.

Taint Zapper

A device for administering electrical shocks to a man’s taint is par for the course on this site. Just another Tuesday.

However, the one featured in this Verge article is a little different. Allegedly it’s not designed as a BDSM toy at all. Instead it’s intended to help men avoid premature ejaculation. I guess it’s the high tech equivalent of thinking of cricket/baseball scores. A distracting zap at the right moment to take your mind off other more pleasant things. Apparently it can also enhance orgasms. As a fan of electrical play and getting zapped in delicate spots, I’m not at all surprised by that.

Mistress Matisse had a bit of fun with it in a post to Bluesky. She thinks they could have saved years of research and millions of dollars by just asking a domme about Tens units. However, to be fair, it seems a lot of the time and cost was down to the FDA demanding it pass their complicated tests for clearance. That’s something BSDM toys don’t have to worry about (yet).

This is a shot of Princess Donna using a slightly less sophisticated electrical device. While I’m sure it’ll be distracting and definitely prevent premature ejaculation, I doubt the FDA would approve. It’s obviously from the Men In Pain site.

If you’re interested in the device featured in the Verge article then I believe this is their website.