Tag: Bondage

Euphoria

The HBO show Euphoria is generating a bunch of coverage for its depictions of kink. It’s not a show I care to watch, so I’ve no idea how fair (or not) its coverage is. If the goal is controversy and debate, it’s certainly managed that.

The latest kink it has drawn on is mummification. That in turn has generated a lot of hand wringing about it’s potential dangers. For example, this Metro article and this in LAD Bible.

The concern seems a little misplaced to me. Or, perhaps more correctly, doesn’t draw the right distinctions. Wrapping plastic over the face for breathplay is definitely dangerous and not for beginners. However, that’s a different thing in my mind to mummification. Wrapping the body below the neck is a lot less risky. It’s not something to undertake lightly. You should always make sure you’ve done basic research, go slowly and have safety shears to hand. But it’s not a high risk activity like breathplay. In some ways it’s easier and less risky than regular bondage. A simple plastic wrap has less chance of causing nerve damage or twisting body parts awkwardly. I’ve done mummification lots of times and always felt safe. Only a small fraction of those experiences involved putting anything over my face.

This mummification shot from The English Mansion does feature something over his face. However, I doubt he’s going to object too much in this case.

A Right Rogering

It’s that time of year again. Tax season. My friendly tax preparer (actually recommended to me by a domme!) sent me the details today. Ouch. Normally when I get screwed it’s a lot more fun. There’s something particularly annoying about it this year. It’s one thing if I can imagine it going towards healthcare or education, but sending money to scum so they can blow stuff up in the Middle East is particularly galling.

Anyway, I think it’s mandatory for this kind of post to feature someone getting screwed, so here we are. That looks a pretty stressful set-up, so that also seems appropriate.

Not sure of the original source for this, but I’d guess it’s from one of the Kink.com shoots.

Accessorizing

What caught my eye in this image wasn’t the latex, bondage and milking device, yummy though all those things are. It wasn’t even Lady Delphine’s shiny and beautiful bottom or cascading red hair. What caught me eye was the crutches and eye chart on the wall. I can’t imagine they’d ever be useful for a scene, but they do add the appropriate ambience. It’s always nice to see the extra little touches that people bring to a playspace.

This was sourced via Lady Delphine’s Bluesky feed. She’s a Toronto based pro-domme. If you’re interested in experiencing her healing hands yourself, then her professional site is here.

Hostage Situation

In theory this might make a good candidate for my occasional ‘Fetish or Fashion?‘ series. Unfortunately, I’ve no idea which of those it is. I found it on tumblr and reverse image search has (as usual these days) failed me. Google’s stupid AI system claimed the man was Kevin Costner at the Golden Globes, so that’s clearly a few billion dollars well spent there.

Personally, I’d guess fashion. It strikes me as the kind of thing someone like Helmut Newton might shoot for a fashion magazine, but I’ve no way of telling for sure. He’s wearing a tuxedo but with a black tie rather than a bow tie, so that seems like a bit of a fashion faux pas. Perhaps that’s why she has tied him down. Is she explaining how to dress properly for a formal event?

Floristry and Bondage

This image by Mistress Estelle Leon is a lovely combination of textures and colors. There’s the soft white bandages, the hard shiny gag and the colorful organic spray of branches. They’re apparently Eucalyptus, so there’s even scent in the mix for our lucky subject.

This isn’t the kind of scene you’ll ever see as a tick box on a session request form. But I’m sure by the end of it the submissive felt lucky and privileged to have been part of it. There’s something very satisfying about being decorated by a domme.

You can see another shot of the same scene via this Bluesky post. Mistress Estelle Leon is a Melbourne based pro-domme whose professional site can be found here.

Container

Mistress Jadis Ives posted something to Bluesky that gave me pause for thought…

One of the benefits of sessioning with a ProDomme is that it can provide a clean container for your D/s desires that does not impact the rest of your life.

I found that interesting because – while I get the logic – it’s not at all how I see my sessions. For me, visiting a pro-domme unlocked a part of myself that could then grow and extend into my life. It ceased to be an internal fantasy and became real. After my first sessions I began reading about BDSM more widely, started this blog, travelled to cities to play with new people, came out to a subset of my friends, etc. In many ways it felt the reverse of this quote, where sessioning allowed me to take my D/s desires out of their container and into the world.

That’s not say Mistress Jadis Ives is wrong! I’m sure there are a lot of people for whom this very much does apply. Which makes me curious what the more common experience among pro-domme clients is. Do most compartmentalize? I’m single and pretty independent, so I don’t have strict lines of demarcation to draw. If I was married to a non-kinky partner, maybe I’d feel differently.

Of course, I couldn’t do a post on dommes and containers, without featuring the literal version. This is from Warsaw Prison and their Prison Stay experience. I love the solidity of that container.

Heavy Bondage with Mistress Tess (Part 2)

Here’s the second and final post covering my recent bondage shenanigans with Mistress Tess. Much fun was had.

One of the great things about Mistress Tess’s space is the variety of furniture she has, which gives a lot of interesting options. In part 1 (here) I talked about bondage on a chair and a bench. The next set-up we did was on her poster bed, but with a firm board laid out across it. She adopted a different bondage style here – using straps and ropes in a tension with each other. Rather than being encased and strapped down I felt exposed, caught in a tight web that pulled me sideways and inward simultaneously (pic 1). I also got to wear some very sexy boots for this scene (pic 2). With the bondage in place it was time for some nipple torture, with the clamps tied off to the posts of the bed (pic 3). Needles also made an appearance, puncturing another delicate part of my anatomy (pic 4). While the needles look more fearsome, it’s the clamps that really bring the ouch.

For the final scenes I only have a couple of shots each, but I think they give a pretty good idea of what was involved.

We did a scene with a leather body bag, a plethora of straps and some rope under a great deal of tension (pic 5). One thing Mistress Tess has a knack for is taking what seems like incredibly tight bondage and making it tighter in ways you never expected. In this case that was done by taking a long rope through clips on the side of the bag and weaving it back and forth corset-like underneath the table (pic 6). As that gradually got tighter it pulled me down and out against the surface, making me almost feel like I was one with the furniture.

The final scene was on a leather recliner, featuring a beautiful leather straightjacket for my arms and a lot more padlocks (pic 7). My legs were wrapped in leather splints and the feet in leather booties that wrapped back and down, pulling the feet out straight (pic 8). The twist in the tail here was that the recliner seat was motorized, so slightly raising it from the horizontal position shifted the tension in the bondage and stretched me out.

An element of the sessions that photographs can’t capture is Mistress Tess’s skill in riffing on a fantasy scenario. She can take a button pushing topic and spin verbal flights of fancy alongside all the bondage and the pain. As someone who generally sucks at playing his part in a roleplay, I really appreciate that skill. It adds a whole new layer to the session.

My thanks go out to Mistress Tess for crafting such a fabulous set of scenes. Between her incredibly work and my scenes with the equally amazing Troy Orleans, I was a very lucky submissive.

This image of Mistress Tess is from her website. If you’re in the NYC area and interested in experiencing her creativity for yourself, then definitely check it out.