The beauty of dominant women
Here’s some cute artwork to head into the weekend with. This is by the artist Slippy Stuff and was created for Mistress Spar Dame. Dungeons are full of fearsome leather clad furniture, but sadly lacking in comfy armchairs. That’s a shame, as they’re notorious torture devices dating back to the days of the Spanish Inquisition.
Continuing the theme of kinky rocking horses, here’s one created by Nighty. The combination of the high quality costume and the custom made wooden base is an effective one.
I particularly like the addition of the torso support piece here. Not only does that give more fasten points for bondage but I’d imagine it allows you to relax more into the pose, particularly if someone is sitting on your back. One thing that I think is important in objectification is being able to relax into it. An object just exists. It doesn’t have to constantly work to remain the object. This set-up seems like it’d achieve it better than most.
This original bondage set-up comes courtesy of Domina Dia Dynasty. I’ve not seen a ladder used quite like that before.
The vulnerability of the position is appealing, but I think I’d struggle with the stress position and predicament aspect of it. Be tough to relax into the bondage without a lot more rope in support.
You can find more from Dia Dynasty on her professional site and her Bluesky account.
There’s a new way to measure just how sadistic you or your domme is: The Index of Consensual Sexual Sadism. According to this article in the PsyPost it’s a tool designed to measure sadism in the context of consensual relationships, rather than the more pathological and destructive sadism inflicted non-consensually.
While teasing those two manifestations apart seems a worthy one, there is some bad news in the early findings…
One surprising finding was how consensual sexual sadism was related to marginally worse romantic relationship satisfaction,” Kinrade said. “This suggests that although these tendencies may be practiced consensually, they may nevertheless negatively impact satisfaction in romantic relationships or coincide with other behavioral tendencies that reduce romantic relationship satisfaction.
I don’t think they’ve enough data to say why that is, but I’d speculate that it could simply be due to the difficulty in finding compatible partners. Aligning kinks can be tricky. If your pool of suitable partners is smaller then that is likely to lead to less satisfaction, particularly if you’re not overtly selecting for that kink.
My biggest problem with the article is the picture they chose for the top. It looks less like a sadist in action and more like someone who has just been given a gag gift for a hen night. They need something a little more along the lines of this image.
This is Ashely Fires shooting with Jesse Carl for Divine Bitches back in 2011.
I’ve mused in past posts on the difference between art, erotica and porn. Categorization can be tricky. Fortunately, Mistress Matisse is here with a Bluesky post to clear things up…
I’ve modeled nude for art, and I’ve modeled nude for porn. And here is the way you know which is which.
In art photos:
You don’t wear shoes
You don’t look at the camera
And you don’t smileSo if you’re wearing shoes, looking at the camera, smiling? It’s porn.
NOT doing those things? It’s ART
I think that puts these images from NYCs Mistress Trinity firmly in the porn camp. Smiling – Check. Looking at camera – Check. Shoes – Unclear, but likely Check. Thankfully, while it might be porn, it’s really good fun porn. The best kind.
You can find Mistress Trinity’s Bluesky feed here.
The Scottish painter Jack Vettriano has passed away at the age of 73. He was a mainstream artist, not explicitly a femdom or fetish one, but kink was clearly an undercurrent in a good amount of his work. I featured two of his paintings in past posts – here and here.
While he had a lot of commercial success he was despised by the critics and art world. This article on him was one of the more positive ones I’ve seen, and even here the writer can’t resist finishing with how he finds his paintings ‘heinous and grim’. It’s a somewhat incoherent article, but I think there’s one thing it gets right…
The main issue for snobby art types like me isn’t the work itself. It’s that he lacked a conceptual edge, a sense of irony and any postmodern self-awareness. He didn’t paint sexy midnight trysts between half-clothed women and Brylcreemed men as a comment on gendered power dynamics or as a riff on art historical depictions of the female nude. He painted them because they were sexy.
There’s something to be said for that. One can enjoy a simpler message without it detracting from other more complex works. Unabashed sexuality and hedonism for the joy of it makes people uncomfortable. Undercutting it – as this writer does by likening it to a greasy double cheeseburger – relieves that discomfort.
They’re not paintings I’d choose to hang on my walls or spend thousands of dollars on. But one can still choose to appreciate them and their openly kinky themes.
This is by Jack Vettriano and entitled ‘Wicked Games’
This post represents something of a blogging trifecta. It keeps my trend of cute artwork for the weekend going, features another new (to this blog) artist, and is also on point topically. This particularly artwork is by ewyuckyloser.
Valentines Day is one of those holidays that never does much for me, regardless of relationship status. This beautifully wrapped young man is at least a much nicer gift idea than the last minute flowers I saw people lining up for at Whole Foods this afternoon.
You can find more from the artist via their Bluesky account and their Deviant Art account.
This photograph comes courtesy of Elise Graves over at Bondage Liberation. It’s a very hot combination of metal bondage and a zentai body suit. There’s some leather mittens and a head harness as well, just for extra kinky fun. The pose and the suit is suggestive of an insect – all limbs and thorax.
Zentai is one of those things that’s not really a kink of mine, but I would like to play with it at some future point. Based on my past experience, it’s a lot easier to handle then full face hoods, but still gives a sense of objectification and depersonalization. Not to mention the funky aesthetics of the look.
You can see the original size version of this, plus 3 other photographs from the same scene, over at Elise’s Bluesky post.
In a further sign of kink slipping further into the mainstream, Glamour magazine has an article on Edging. It’s actually pretty good, covering the basics and giving handy tips.
The only thing I’d quibble with is their assertion that edging leads to stronger orgasms. Maybe that’s true for women, which is presumably Glamour’s primary audience. For men however, I think it’s the shift away from orgasm that makes it interesting. We’re conditioned into expecting sex to have a clearly defined build-up to an orgasmic stopping point. Stretching that out and leaning into arousal without orgasm makes for a very different experience. I love combining a steady endorphin buzz with the sense of denial and frustration. It’s a headspace that I can happily live in for days without orgasm.
This is by the artist Mare. You can find their Patreon here.
It’s that time of year again. The lights are on the trees, Celine is blasting in the stores and clip sites are coming out with their end of year kinky reports. It’s a time honored tactic for attracting clicks and associated articles, and I’m happy to join that party.
The Clips 4 Sale site has announced their fetish of the year and it’s Chastity. That’s kind of funny for a clips site that’s all about getting off. The runners up are Gooning and Cuckolding. There’s a certain theme developing with those three – tease, denial, voyeurism and control. I wonder what that says about the state of the world?
This shot is from Mrs Steelwerks.