Losers are losers

I found this recent study on online social dynamics fascinating. Researchers looked at people playing an online videogame (Halo 3) and measured success against their behavior across the genders. It turned out the men were generally complimentary to other male players. Successful men were also complimentary to female players. However, unsuccessful men tended to be nasty and rude to female players. So they were losers in all sense of the word.

This researchers conclusion was that a change in existing social dynamics – in this case an influx of new female players into a previously male dominated area – was a bigger threat to those near the bottom than those near the top. The lower status players had more to lose and hence reacted in an angrier fashion to those they perceive as responsible. This is a conclusion that fits with a lot of my personal observations of life. In a work environment it’s always the confident and expert individuals who are most open to being challenged and debating alternatives. People who are less sure of themselves see each challenge as a direct threat and react accordingly. One could probably do a similar analysis about economics, social classes and the current politics of America.

In the wider world it’s hard to know what the answer to this problem is. Anger from losing out when it comes to economics or social influence can be understandable. But when it comes to online interaction, whether it’s gaming, discussion forums or social media, there’s no excuse for being a douche. If you can’t not be angry then walk away. And if you see someone behaving obnoxiously then call them on it.

gamingThis is by the artist Travis Estrella from his tumblr 1000 Pencils.

Home Again

I’m back in Seattle after a fun trip to Chicago. Kinky play was featured, which I’ll hopefully write about in a future post. I’ve acquired some pleasing marks on my posterior to admire. It’s possible that not playing very much in the last year has softened me up and led to quicker marking, which is a pleasant side effect. Now I get the pretty patterns without spending half the session doing corporal play.

I need to go unpack and unwind after the flight. I’ll leave you with this charming picture of a happy lady and her pet. He also appears to be marked up, although his look a lot more extensive than mine.

leashedThis image pops up a lot on tumblr, but I can’t track down an original attribution for it unfortunately.

Doing it right

Excuse me while I indulge in another celebrity post. This time it’s Kendall Jenner in an outfit that makes for a nice contrast to Megyn’s one in yesterday’s post.

The fashion pages horribly overuse the term dominatrix when it comes to outfits. If any female celebrity steps out in any random black dress or sightly racy boots they call it dominatrix inspired (for example). However, I have to give Kendall Jenner credit here, this is a pretty good domme get-up. She would not look out of place in a dungeon attaching nipple clamps to horny sweaty men.

Of course that’s not say that you need to dress in leather or latex to have kinky fun or top someone. But I do think if newspapers are going to push the cliche of the dominatrix and her outfits, they should at least reserve it for people who have made some effort in that direction.

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Image is from this Daily Mail article.

Megyn

I’m generally not a fan of Megyn Kelly. She has had some good moments in the current election – like this highly entertaining one with Newt Gingrich – but in general she seems to only adopt a progressive viewpoint when it’s something that directly affects her. If it’s some other targeted group, then she hews to a far more right wing viewpoint.

That said, I really do like this shot of her. She has a very forceful look. I’m sure I shouldn’t be sexually fantasizing about a Fox News anchor, but I can’t help thinking of some great kinky fiction I could write about it.

I picture a naive liberal intern coming to work at Fox. He’s from a small town, nervous in the big city and awed by the people he meets. He can’t find a place to stay and so Megan takes pity on him and lends him a room in her palatial home. He’s a farm lad, useful with his hands, and offers to do a few chores around the place in return. It all starts out well enough, but Megan is becoming increasingly frustrated with the sexist and patronizing attitudes of her Fox co-workers. She starts to take it out on him, and the more she’s annoyed by Sean Hannity, the more she enjoys taking it out on our hero. As her career blooms, the cruelty increases and his life disintegrates. Ultimately she celebrates landing a new multi million dollar contract by imprisoning him in the basement and teaching him what trickle down economics is really about.

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Slacking off (again)

Apologies for the lack of posts in the last couple of days. I’m once again on vacation. This time I’ve headed across the country to Chicago for some kink, food and fun. Hopefully I’ll get time to keep up with my posting in between all that. I’ve not visited the city before, or played with anyone here, so it has been an interesting new experience for me.

This image is completely unrelated to my trip, but I wanted to post it anyway. I think it’s unusual in that it manages to be exciting and erotic, while featuring no faces or traditional erogenous zones. I like the contrast between the delicately feminine foot, the textured rope and the heft of his hand. A perfect example of erotica that sparks the imagination.

foothandI’m afraid I don’t know where it’s from.

Stuffing a hole

I always enjoying reading how film sequences and photoshoots are created. There’s often a huge discrepancy between the carefully curated end product and the much messier act of making it. It’s particularly interesting when the filmed scenes are unusual, and even more so when they’re porn and wacky kinky sex is involved. An article by performer Rain DeGrey, entitled ‘My sex life requires a tractor‘,  featuring her being buried upside down and forced to orgasm, was therefore right up my street. It’s obviously not femdom, but it does show the effort required for some porn shoots. Who’d have thought you’d ever need a working tractor to pull off a kinky scene?

Inverted burial is of course not the only reason to dig a hole outside. You can also use them for slave storage as the English Mansion has done here. I wonder if they also keep a tractor around for digging these holes?

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Frozen treats

Blogging about the cuckold cum eating scenario put me in mind of my favorite Dan Savage letter. And when I say favorite, I mean the kind that’s memorable in  a – “Wow, good for you I guess, but just …. wow” – kind of way. It’s the third letter in this column, and features an F/m couple who want to make the man eat his own cum. The problem is he loses all desire to do so immediately after orgasm. Their solution to this catch-22 involves zip lock bags and a freezer compartment.

I’m a fan of letting your freak flag fly. I’m also a fan of creative solutions to kinky problems. That said, frozen sperm ice cubes freak me out. I really hope they never have guests who want to make a drink and grab some ice from the freezer. Just eat the damn cum and stop being such a wuss about it. Or, alternatively, use some straps and tubes to solve the problem. These ladies don’t seem to be worrying too much about his post orgasmic emotional state.

cumfeedingThis is of course by the creative and amazingly talented Sardax.

Down the hatch

After yesterday’s post on California’s proposition 60 and the use (or not) of condoms in porn scenes, it struck me there was one kinky porn niche that actually depends on condoms to work. It’s the ‘cuckold cum eating after the fact’ niche. Admittedly, it’s a pretty specialized one –  a subset of cuckolding which is in turn a subset of femdom – but it seems to be a relatively popular one. At least if the prevalence of movies and images is anything to go by. The good news is that rejecting proposition 60 will not affect production values in this particular genre. Everyone involved will still be able to enjoy sticky drippy latex contraceptive fun, just like this pair.

cumeatingThis scene is obviously from the Miss Brat Dom site.

No on Prop 60

A few days ago I wrote that I tried to avoid politics popping up too often on this blog. It turns out I might have lied about that, as I’m about to do another political post. For a change it’s not presidential politics, but local politics. Specifically, Californian politics in the form of proposition 60.

This proposed measure might have achieved something unique in American politics. It mandates that all adult performers would have to wear condoms when filming scenes and, in a country divided on so many other issues, has succeeded in uniting people. Specifically, in uniting people against it. As Casey Calvert points out in this excellent article, both the Californian Republican and the Californian Democratic party are opposed to it. As are adult performers, most major state newspapers, the Libertarian party, Aids Project LA, Equality California, the Transgender Law Center and the San Francisco Aids Foundation. When something has that eclectic a collection of opponents, you know something must be up.

There are a lot of messed up things about the proposed law, but one of the worst seems to be that anyone can sue a producer for a violation. And, given that many performers are also producers (particularly in the femdom genre), that casts a very wide net. Essentially any random weirdo could demand the personal information of anyone they can claim is violating the law. On top of that, if they can win their case, they get 25% of the penalty. Given all the movies already floating around that don’t use condoms, the frequent cross-over between producer/performer, the number of lawyers and weirdo’s in California, and the financial incentives involved, it seems like a recipe for disaster. And that’s not even getting into the issues of practicality and personal rights that Tasha Reign covers in this article.

As a Washington resident I don’t get to vote on this, but I’d urge all my Californian readers to vote no. In the meantime, I’ll use the excuse of mentioning Casey Calvert, to feature this rather lovely shot of her and Ariel X.

caseycalvertThis is from the Foot Worship site.