Comfortable

I’m not sure if I should count this as femdom. Admittedly, there’s a (mostly) naked guy tied to a bed and a non-naked lady in control of the situation. Yet his position seems rather relaxing. Many people find light bondage comforting, and I’m pretty certain I’d be pretty comfortable with a lady in a fur coat draped over me. Is it femdom? Or just the best sleeping situation ever?

comfortingThis is from an Asian version of Venus in Furs.

Bigger is better

Some days I struggle to think of a good post topic. On other days they pretty much write themselves. Today is one of the latter cases. It was pretty much impossible for me not to feature this story: Women prefer slightly larger penises.

The good news for all you small penis humiliation fetishists out there is that the desirable length is 6.3″ (16cm), while the national average is only 5.2″ (13cm). That means 97% of men have a dick smaller than the desirable size. So you might have thought she was just roleplaying when she said how small and unsatisfying you were, but actually she was just being honest with you. How hot is that!

For those not into being humiliated about their genitals, and not in the top 3%,  take heart from the fact that the survey was about preferred rather than minim size. And that survey didn’t ask women to rank the importance of size against other male attributes. So look on the bright side. There are no doubt dozens of other equally important metrics for you to be measured as totally inadequate against. Don’t get too hung-up on this particular one, when you’re probably also failing against lots of others that are just as important.

It’s hard to know exactly what the lady below is thinking about the erection before her. Possibly – “I need to go find my tape measure before I can decide if this is hot or not”.

Nude CoupleI think this is by the artist J. Wayne Higgins based on this tumblr post.

A sticky situation

After years of browsing the kinky parts of the web and exploring a wide variety of kinky play myself, it’s rare I find an entirely new activity. That’s not to say that I’ve tried everything myself. There are only so many personal kinks that’ll fit in my brain or in my pants. But I like to think I’m broadly aware of all the options. I was therefore pleasantly surprised to stumble across this old post on user Super Glue as part of a scene. I’d never heard of that before or seen it demonstrated.

If glue typically crops up in femdom it’s normally adjacent to a chastity device in an erotic story or photo caption about sealing up locks. It’s not actually being used to glue body parts together in a real scene. Yet this post suggests doing exactly that. I’ve no idea how wise that is, but it’s certainly an intriguing thought.

Hunting around online eventually turned up just one scene from Femdom Empire demonstrating the concept. It features Lexi Sindel gluing Slave Wade’s scrotum over his cock. You can see animated gifs from it here on Wade’s tumblr. And talking of Lexi Sindel…

4This is from a different Femdom Empire scene with Lexi – no super glue involved. Although she does look like she’s contemplating doing something equally dramatic with those balls.

Fakery

I generally like fake images that people create to scratch their particular fetishistic itch. It’s not that I find them hot – the wonky photoshop work usually is too distracting for me – but I like the idea of people meeting their needs and fantasies in a creative fashion. Some people draw, some write and some photoshop.

The image below popped up on a few different tumblrs recently, and caught my eye via because of the young lady. Books and glasses push certain buttons in me. The guy was obviously a later addition to the shot. He also seemed somewhat familiar from other images I’d seen. I tracked down another image with him again (albeit it rotated) and then, even more strangely, this tumblr. Somebody decided to insert the same bound guy into literally hundreds of different porn images. That shows a degree of focus and specialization that I don’t think I’ve ever seen before.  I’d love to know the thinking behind it and where the bound man is originally from.

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Caging the devil

The idea of chastity definitely pops up in the bible, but I don’t remember any actual devices featuring anywhere. Although I guess the book of Revelations did talk about “…an angel coming down out of heaven, having the key to the Abyss and holding in his hand a great chain.” The angel then goes on to use the chain to bind a serpent, so I guess this could be one creative interpretation of that.

The image makes me smile, but I can’t help thinking it’d be better switched around, with a male angel in chastity and a devilish lady in control. I know some people love long term denial and control, but with an angel for a keyholder you could be looking at a thousand years of blue balls.

devilandangelI’m afraid I’ve absolutely no idea who the artist is.

Femdom Image Page Updated

At the post titles suggests, I’ve refreshed my Femdom Image Page. I was amazed to discover it had been a year since I last touched it, so there were a fair number of dead or dormant sites on it. I’ve cleaned all those up and replaced them with new sites that are currently active. Here’s what’s new…

General Femdom

Dominant Focused

Submissive Focused

Artwork

Specific Activities or Domains

I’ll finish with an image from one of the new sites. This is from Labstrakt’s. It’s a little different to most of the other additions, as it features mainstream fashion and art shots with a femdom slant.

Michael Bailey Gates and Jane Moseley for Man About Town Magazine.This was originally shot by Michael Bailey Gates for Man About Town magazine. It features the photographer himself with Jane Moseley.

Dominatrix Drive

Most countries are actively anti sex work. If it’s not actually illegal then, at the very least, it’s denigrated and hidden away. Politicians typically work to make life harder for sex workers – when they’re not secretly visiting them of course.

I was therefore happy to see the German city of Hamburg taking quite an unusual step. They’re going recognize a famous local sex worker by naming a road after her. Domenica Niehoff initially started as a prostitute and then opened a studio as a dominatrix. At the same time she campaigned for legalization of sex work, as well as founding an organization to help young workers and drug addicts (from her wikipedia page). I’m not going to hold my breath for the US to do something similar, but it’s nice to see some parts of the world getting it right.

Public HumiliationJudging by the background this was shot in England. Maybe Cynthia Payne Plaza? I believe this is from the CFNM TV site.

Fond memories of ball torture

The recent posts on safewords and when ‘no’ can mean ‘yes’ triggered a happy memory of mine. It involves Lydia, ball torture and a unique event.

It occurred after Lydia and I had been playing together for several years and had done hundreds of hours of pretty intense sessions. The scene was CBT, with me bound on a bed and Lydia lying alongside, doing terribly evil things to delicate parts of my body. At some point she ratcheted the intensity up and I moaned something like “no….oh…no”. She paused momentarily, looked at me quizzically, and then said “I don’t think I’ve ever heard you say no to me before.” Deep as I was in subspace, it took me a few seconds to figure out what she meant. Then we smiled at each other and went right back into it. Her squeezing and hitting; me moaning and yelling.

Of course I had said ‘no’ to her multiple times in the past. Or at least words to that effect. Things like “hold on, I have a cramp”, or “no, I need a moment” or “we better pause, I’m feeling faint”. Stepping out of scene was occasionally necessary and always easy to do. This situation was just the first time she’d pushed me to the point of actually saying a ‘no’ that really meant a ‘yes’ in the scene. It was an unconscious and unfiltered response to what was happening.

In hindsight it turned out to be a unique event. It’s not the normal way I respond, and I don’t think we ever got back into that particular headspace again. I’m glad it happened though. The event and her recognition of it while deep in the scene put a smile on my face both then and now.

Predicament CBT from Divine BitchesHere’s a gentleman enjoying some bondage and CBT of his own, courtesy of Divine Bitches. Although his position looks considerably more uncomfortable than mine ever was.

When no means yes

Ferns left me an interesting comment to my previous post on the use (or not) of safewords. You can read the whole thing here, but to excerpt a relevant part…

When I played, I pushed him to fall over into that space where his voice was unfiltered and when he was like that, he would say ‘no’ or ‘please stop’ or ‘I’ve had enough’. It was visceral and instinctual and he couldn’t stop it coming out, but he also *didn’t mean it*. He wasn’t role playing, everything in him was saying ‘no’, but he didn’t want me to stop.

I do think it is super hot when you get into that kind of space (as Ferns says), and her comment makes an excellent point, but I don’t think it changes my underlying idea. The goal is good communication, however that is achieved. If you’re role playing, or the kind of submissive who says no when you mean yes, then safewords are definitely for you. If you think you communicate more clearly without them, then I personally wouldn’t impose them unnecessarily.

Of course, in some ways it’s impossible not to have a safeword. If someone starts yelling ‘red’, ‘safeword’ or ‘vomit’ in the middle of a scene, I don’t think it really matters what you negotiated beforehand. The message is pretty clear. So in some ways picking a safeword is less about acquiring a way to stop the scene and more about negotiating away possible ways to stop it. Which is a kind of weird way to think about it.

happycbtThis image has nothing to do with safewords. I just thought it was a hot and fun. I always love a happy domme. This is Miss Annalieza.