Fm – Page 129 – Femdom Resource

Mirror, mirror, on the dungeon wall

Mirrors are a common feature in playspaces. I think the idea is to allow people to watch the scene as well as be a part of it. They also allow the submissive to see the dominant even when he or she is attacking from the rear with a cane, a whip or a strap-on.

Personally they don’t do much for me. Watching a scene in a mirror can make me feel disconnected from it. It splits my attention and therefore diminishes my involvement. They can also make me oddly aware of just how strange the whole thing is. When I’m busy being wrapped in ropes, stuffed into hoods and strapped to furniture I’m very much in the moment. The energy of the scene and the intensity of the sensations dominate. Then if I glance up and see a naked guy in all sorts of BDSM paraphernalia I tend to have a disconcerting moment of “Who the fuck is that freaky looking guy? Oh, wait ….”

However, I do like the use of the mirror in this image. It’s part of their dynamic rather than being a voyeuristic device. It also gives the image viewer a chance to see both a rear shot and a face shot. I’m guessing they’d show up more often in porn if it wasn’t so difficult to get the shot lined up properly while simultaneously avoiding reflecting the lights or the photographer.

The image is originally from the Strapon Dreamer site.

Flirting with Mary Jane

According to this documentary footage smoking marijuana turns innocent young women into sex crazed dominatrices. I was not aware of this. Given that the state of Washington has recently legalized pot I guess I should prepare to be grabbed and ravished on any street corner. Loose fitting clothes would seem to be in order.

I actually don’t smoke myself. My collection of vices is already large enough without adding this one. I do have female friends who smoke, and thus far they’ve resisted the urge to pull on a catsuit and whip me. It’s probably too much effort when you’re high. Although I guess giggling a lot and telling confused rambling anecdotes can be a kind of torture for those who aren’t partaking in the evil weed.

The movie clip and image are from the 2005 musical version of Reefer Madness (based on the classic 1936 exploitation flick). The innocent/depraved Mary Lane is played by Kristen Bell.

What were they thinking?

This image was actually my original choice for my previous post about socks in femdom porn. I ended up not using it because I thought it would distract from the basic theme. His socks seemed to be the least of the problems on display.

Porn is notorious for staging scenes in odd uncomfortable places that nobody in their right mind would fuck in. A derelict building, on top of a pool table, halfway up a staircase, public restrooms. Anything is fair game to add a little spice and variety to a shoot. But who fantasies about screwing on an inflatable mattress in what looks like a messy garage? Who sets this scene up and thinks that a dirty soccer ball and some old buckets is just the thing to set the mood for pegging fans? Did nobody involved say “Hey, why don’t we spend a few minutes cleaning up before we start with the ass fucking?”

The hidden hand

Any guesses what she’s doing with that left hand? Is it a pull, a squeeze or a pinch? Whatever she’s doing, it’s producing two very contrasting expressions.

I found this on the Diaries of a Submissive Husband tumblr. It’s originally from the Woman Worship site.

Share the wealth

I’m a fan of Maitresse Madeline. As an independent and a kink.com performer I think she’s produced some interesting material, and I’ve featured some of it here in the past (for example – here, here and here). Apparently I’m not alone in appreciating her work, as somebody just paid $42,000 in an auction for a 1 hour web cam session with her. Assuming it’s not a stunt by the kink.com PR people, I’d guess that’s the most anyone has ever paid for a webcam session.

I’m not somebody who gets upset at rich people spending money. Moving cash from the wealthy to the less wealthy seems a fine thing to do. However, no matter how attractive and talented Maitresse Madeline might be, this didn’t strike me as an entirely optimal use of this gentleman’s kinky dollar. That got me to wondering what kind of alternative experience he could have got for the money.

Let’s stick to the West coast of the US. This guy was from Australia, so a first class round trip ticket will set him back around $6,000. Obviously he’ll need somewhere nice to stop, say a suite at the Beverly Wilshire (setting for the film Pretty Woman) at $1,500 a night. He’ll also need wheels to get around, and a Ferrari 458 runs to around $2,000 a day to hire. If we assume a 5 day trip, and throw in $500 per day for fine dining, that’s $26,000 so far. Now we get to the kinky stuff. I don’t think Maitresse Madeline does private sessions anymore but there are any number of gorgeous and amazingly talented dommes on the West Coast. For example, the famous Isabella Sinclair has recently started offering sessions again. Let’s shoot for an entire weekend of crazy kinky fun. At $300 per hour, that’s $14,400 for 48 hours and grand total of $40,400. That leaves him $1555 to splurge at the Stockroom retail store, with $45 left over to tour the kink.com Armory location.

Or, as a not at all crazy alternative to all this decadence, he could have a 1 hour web cam session. Let’s hope his network connection doesn’t freeze.

The image shows Maitresse Madeline doing a zippering in a shoot for Divine Bitches. I love the look on his face and the puckering of his skin as the zipper pulls away. Having been in that position many time I can definitely empathize.

Always ask nicely

Here’s my final entry in a trio of posts featuring femdom from deviant art artists. This one is by Bakerman and is entitled Overdue Making Up III. I’ve featured his work in the past, and I’ve always enjoyed the humorous and slightly slapstick nature of a lot of his femdom scenarios. In this one it was the ‘Would it be out of line…’ opening that made me smile. It’s a nice juxtaposition of an odd scenario with such a polite and well mannered inquiry. No doubt the man in question is hoping that she’ll find it hard to refuse such a well mannered request from her friend.

The smell of fear … and sin

Continuing the theme from yesterday’s post of fun femdom images from deviant art artists, here’s one entitled ‘Fear and Sin’ by sadademort. I wonder what she has in mind to enhance that fear? Hopefully it’s something involving more sin.

Letting her hair down (and twisting it around)

This image is a nice take on the Rapunzel fairy tale, with an obvious influence from Tangled, the recent Disney version. It’s by the artist iesnoth.

I have to admit that I’ve got a minor kink for long hair, although it’s a relatively recent interest. A few years ago it wouldn’t have been a blip on my kinky radar, but playing with Lydia changed that. She has beautiful long red hair, and tends to incorporate it in subtle ways into a session. She’ll let the edges just brush my skin, let it fold against me, or drift it gently across my face. When I’m in bondage and in pain, that sensual touch, the subtle scent of it, really creates a strong emotional response. It’s a great example of a developed kink, almost a Pavlovian response.

The wrong kind of sex party

One of the nice things about playing with professionals in dedicated spaces is that you don’t have to worry about hiding the equipment afterwards. There’s no worry that an elderly relative will entangle herself in your sex swing. Or, as happened to this unfortunate couple, your kid will lock himself into your handcuffs. The best bit about that story is that it happened during a family party. That must have made for some interesting smalltalk over the punch bowl.

I’m guessing there was nothing accidental about the location of the handcuffs in this image. It was originally taken by Patrick Shipstad. I found it on the Design Domme tumblr.

Happy New Year!

I’ll keep this simple. Writing a post after attending a new year’s eve party is liable to lead to much wahrble gahrble and very little insightful commentary. So I’ll content myself by wishing all my readers a happy new year and hoping that all their kinky dreams are fulfilled in 2014. Apart from that one involving fisting, mayonnaise, greasy nipples and the Turin shroud. That’s just sick, and you should be ashamed you pervert.

I found this very simple but effective image on rohosub’s tumblr. I’m afraid I don’t have an original attribution.