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Pacific Rim (again)

Here’s some rather nice artwork to finish off my trio of strap-on themed posts. It’s by the artist ponderosa and features the characters Raleigh and Mako from Pacific Rim. You can see a couple of variations on the drawing here.

Oddly enough this isn’t the first time I’ve featured these two characters in a strap-on themed artwork post. They previously popped up about 6 months ago in this post. In both cases I first spotted and chose the artwork before realizing who the two people were. Not quite sure why this particular pair prompt so much strap-on love, but I’m certainly not complaining.

T & D

Mistress T has a nice post up on the joy of not fucking her. It’s all about the pleasure (from her perspective at least) of tease and denial. I like it because it’s a topic that pushes my buttons. I’m not a fan of the humiliation slant it can take (the ‘not worthy to fuck’) but I do like the teasing aspect (the ‘oh you’re so close’).

It got me thinking about why sexual denial and frustration can be so hot. Generally speaking I’m not someone known for his patience. As a kid reading instructions and getting the right tools was never a starting point for a project. That was something that happened later, once I’d already dived in and screwed everything up with my ignorant enthusiasm. Learning to delay gratification is a good thing. I just always thought the delay should be really really small.

I wonder if for me the delight in tease and denial came about as a process of transference. Maybe it started with trying to prolong pleasure. Stretching out the moment amplified the sensations. Do that often enough and the happy brain chemicals start being associated more with the build-up than the actual event itself. By trying to make the moment last, I trained my brain to link pleasure to the promise rather than the reward. And while a reward can sometimes be disappointing, a promise never can.

Ivy & Harley

Important breaking news – two fictional comic book characters are now dating. The long rumored relationship between Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy has now been confirmed from multiple sources. Forget all those other blogs bringing you helpful advice on BDSM, nuanced relationship advice or sharing deeply personal experiences of kink. Reality is for losers. Stick to this one for all the important breaking stories on fictional characters.

I’ve actually featured these two in one or two posts in the past. Kink often seems to crop up in their stories, so facetiousness aside, I do think this is a potentially fun development that may lead to some entertaining storylines.

The artwork above features Batman with Poison Ivy and is by the artist Otto Schmidt.

Conversation fragments

Late night conversations in elevators are often entertaining. People have loose lips after a few drinks or when hooking up after a date. Tonight, in my condo elevator, I heard a woman tell her partner she’d fantasized about punishing some work colleague after tying him up with her scarves. I think she meant it to be an unpleasant experience for him, but somehow it didn’t sound like it to me. I resisted the urge to be the skeevy guy in the elevator with an inappropriate comment, and stuck to a ‘have a goodnight’ and a wide smile.

Most of my work fantasy’s consist of me not being there while still getting paid. That’s the kind of fantasy I can really get behind. Perhaps I should enhance them with an aggressive female boss who punishes me for not turning up (while I’m still still getting paid).

Feeling happy

I played with Lydia tonight. Much bondage, breathplay, nipple torture, hot wax and flogging was involved. It was the kind of play that gets me spacey almost immediately. The kind where I can channel the pain through a sense of shared connection. The kind where it hurts but feels so good and so right.

Right now all I want to do is collapse on the couch and drink wine, so this post will be short. I’ll simply share an image that captures an element of what play can be. There was no rope bondage in my case (although lots of leather belts and plastic wrap) but this has that sense of tension and connection that means so much to me.

I’m afraid I don’t have an original source for this. I found it via the Alternative Femdom tumblr.

Hommage

I find it slightly disturbing when I make connections between femdom artists, photographers or performers. Being an expert on pre-raphaelite painting or the films of Ingmar Bergman (for example) would typically be seen a source of pride. Recognizing a particular pro-domme from a random tumblr photograph, knowing the dungeon it was taken in and figuring out the publisher from the style of shot, is a somewhat less marketable skill.

The artwork below is entitled ‘Her Kinky Wishes‘ and is by ashfaq-ayon. It’s a lovely drawing, but on seeing it I immediately recognized the inspiration of Rodzo’s work. It’s a very different artistic style, but the composition, text and set-up is pure Rodzo. I like it a lot, although I think the more realistic style makes the male posture look even more impossible than in the original inspiration.

A chance to bare your (tiny) manhood

For the third year in succession the Smallest Penis in Brooklyn Pageant is running. So if you’re in the Brooklyn area, and packing a tiny penis in your pants, and you like the idea of flashing it in front of a bunch of judges, then go sign up. For those who simply like the idea of looking at a bunch of small dicks, then ~~try CSPAN~~ it’s at the Kings County Saloon on June 13th. I realize that this information is probably only useful to 0.1% of my readers, but small penis humiliation and CFNM is definitely a kink that’s out there, so I feel I’d be slacking in my job if I didn’t cover it.

I believe this illustration is by John Cuneo and was featured in this Esquire article.

Whistle while you work

I found this article on the playlists of pro-dommes interesting. Experience has taught me that music in a professional play space is as common to them as leather, ropes and incredibly detailed instructions about how to enter without scaring the neighbors.

In my personal life music and sexual play have a fairly orthogonal relationship. It’s fine if they intersect, but it’s not important if they don’t. In my professional experiences I think I can count on one hand the sessions I’ve done without a soundtrack. And they were probably because the stereo in the play space was broken. I guess the theory is that background music lowers social tension. There’s no silence to fill with forced conversation, but it’s still easy to talk over if necessary.

Dance and electronic music seems to be a common domme choice, which isn’t something I typically enjoy. Lydia likes opera and powerful classical pieces, which adds drama and a sense of theater to the occasion. The article mentions Depeche Mode as a common selection. Personally I think playing to Violator would be great, but I’ve never yet played with a domme who had than on her playlist. I’d love to do a session to Appetite for Destruction followed by Master of Puppets. I think their energy would work great for a good beating.

I believe this artwork is by Namio Harukawa.

The male pro-sub

A lot of people make money from offering personal BDSM services. Pro-dommes are the most conspicuous in that regard, but there are also a fair number of female pro-submissives out there. Professional male doms are rarer, but they do exist. What I hadn’t observed, until a couple of nights ago, was a professional male submissive. I always assumed that the market couldn’t support the concept, but Aiden the Houseboy-For-Hire is out there to prove me wrong.

His rates are incredibly reasonable and, judging by his twitter feed, he’s pretty well plugged into the professional scene. I don’t know him personally, but if you’re in the Seattle area and looking for some no strings attached commercial submission, then he might well be worth a shot. I’m not giving up my day job any time soon to follow his lead, but as a Seattle based male submissive, I do wish him all the luck in the world in his chosen profession.

This is not an image of Aiden in action. I’m afraid I don’t who this naked gentleman is, but he looks like he’s making himself useful.

Boxy but good

Attractive models being used to sell cars is pretty standard. However, with the exception of this memorable Fiat 500 ad, they rarely have a femdom vibe. This one is I think the exception. It’s for a new version of Volvo XC90, designed specifically for those who get chauffeured around. You can see a larger version of the image and an article on the car here.

The car nerd in me likes the clever design of the seats and the idea of being able to stretch out from the backseat. The submissive in me likes the idea of being a smartly dressed chauffeur ferrying around a rich and powerful icy blonde executive.