The beauty of dominant women
One finally post on the topic of switching (for now). This time taking a more humorous tack, courtesy of Stupid Twink Comics. After a hard day slaving over statistics and risk calculations, who wouldn’t rather be a dog girl?
Sourced originally from Stupid Twink on Bluesky.
Writing my last post about BDSM professionals and switching made me think of my first domme – Lady Lydia McLane. That’s not because she was a switch. As far as I know, she was a stone cold top in private life. However, as a professionally hot and kinky person, she did do a bunch of modelling work in all sorts of roles. For example, kink.com has some scenes she shot for House of Gord. I’m therefore periodically disconcerted to stumble across an image of her in a sub role. Given how I knew her, it’s always pretty odd to see.
I was disconcerted in an entirely different way when I spotted the .gif below of Lydia on tumblr. My first thought was – “Is that me?” It’s not, but given I got spanked and caned exactly that way on that couch multiple times, it did give me pause for a moment. This was filmed in the entrance room to her Seattle Dungeon. I have so many happy memories of sitting on that couch and doing either pre-scene discussion or decompressing after an amazing session. Now it has all gone – razed the ground and replaced by condos. Such is life.
While this isn’t me, there a bunch of my scenes with Lydia documented in the early days of this blog. For example, here, here and here.
Delphine (of the Bay Area) has shared an interesting overview of her career in kink and sex work via this blog post. She started as a bondage model with Insex, which I’d imagine was a real trial by fire. From there she transitioned to the domme role and ultimately added full service work into the mix. Her latest evolution, and what seems to be the trigger for the post, is exploring bondage as a submissive again. Not as a replacement for her domme work, but as an adjunct to it.
It’s pretty rare to see people who domme professionally also talk about switching. I suspect there’s a fear it might impact their primary line of work. Or that they’ll have to deal with clients wanting to top them. One exception to this who comes to mind is another Bay Area domme – Elise Graves. She creates a lot of material as both top and bottom for her Bondage Liberation site. Bondage does seem to have a special appeal that brings out the switch in people. I’ve zero desire to ever be a top, but I could imagine getting into rigging and rope if I had a partner who desired it.
This is a shot of Delphine from her website. If you’re in the Bay Area and would like her to tie you up, check out her site here.
Getting a terminal cancer diagnosis doesn’t sound like the starting point for comedy and kinky fun. A new series called ‘Dying for Sex‘ is here to change that. It tells the story of Molly (played by Michelle Williams) who is diagnosed with terminal breast cancer and sets out to expand her sexual horizons. Those include dominating her neighbor and find other fun way to explore her domme side.
Michelle Williams pees on a man—on purpose, for kinky kicks—in Dying for Sex, and that’s merely one of the many funny ways in which her character copes with impending death.
Via a review in the Daily Beast.
It’s based on the true story of Molly Kochan, who passed away in 2019. She shared her stories with her friend Nikki Boyer, who turned them into a Podcast, which has now become the TV series. I’ve not seen it yet, but seems like it’d be worth checking out. Hopefully it manages to combine humor and drama with a positive take on kink and sex.
This image is by Celera Prime aka Cel. It’s nothing to do with the TV show, but the subject matter seemed fitting given the quote above.
One final medical themed post to finish off this short series of them. The last couple of posts were very much fantasy based, where this image depicts a far more realistic medical scene. It’s from Doctor Jill who plays out of The Cellar in Antwerp.
I think one of the fun things about medical scenes is how varied you can make them. You can go for over-the-top medical fantasies that are clearly very sexual, or you can shoot for something that looks straight out of a regular hospital. Doctor Jill clearly tends to the latter category, as you can see from some of the medical scenes on her site. While I personally lean to the more fantasy medical play, I do love seeing the skill and detail applied in scenes like this.
Phil left a comment on my last post to the effect that the end of the linked story was pretty dark. That’s fair comment. I enjoyed all the heavy bondage and medical themes, but didn’t love where it left our ‘hero’.
If you like the idea of imprisonment and bondage in a medical setting, but prefer something not quite so dark, then checkout ‘Committed’ over on Literotica. I’ve been on a bit of a hunt for hospital/asylum bondage stores recently, and thought this was one of the better examples around.
I’ll finish with some appropriately themed artwork. This isn’t signed, but I believe it’s by Tilly Monster (Deviant Art and Patreon).
I continue to be disappointed with most AI imagery. I had naively hoped that it’d help bring the twisted imaginations of kinky folk to virtual life. Instead it seems to be flooding the world with crappier versions of existing content. It’s actually making it harder to find the genuinely new and original stuff.
However, there is the occasional exception. For example, I think VelvetLash at DeviantArt has been doing some interesting things. Based on his multi-part story ‘The Affair‘ he’s clearly got a kink for heavy medical themed bondage. That shows up in a bunch of his generated images – like this or this or the one below. I’m not sure how much is AI generated vs AI modified vs Photoshop, but it is fun to see something a little different to the usual AI poses.
You can see the original full size version of this here.
I missed covering this story from March of this year: German dominatrix ‘strangled client to death as he dangled from chains’
Apparently the domme had wrapped a chain around her clients neck while he was in a standing position. He then fainted midway through the session. Unfortunately, he was a hefty chap, his weight pulled the chain tight and she wasn’t strong enough be both lift his bodyweight and unhook the chain. He’d strangled to death before the paramedics arrived.
Obviously, the domme screwed up badly by putting something around his neck she couldn’t remove. That’s violating a very basic scene rule. However, I think it’s also a reminder to submissives that they need to look after their own safety. Always think about what would happen if you fainted or had a medical emergency. Scenes always have some risk – particularly if you’re doing complex bondage or sharps play. But it’s always OK to step back from a set-up and ask for changes. While most pro-dommes are careful and safety conscious, there’s no formal training or certification needed to offer sessions. Just because you’re horny and you’ve found an a new domme who looks fantastic, doesn’t mean you should shut your brain off.
I’ll finish the post with artwork by Augustine – an artist who specializes in scenes that are fun fantasies but would be terrible to do in real life.
I would normally think it impossible to emote through a black leather straitjacket and a full face leather hood. And yet, this gentleman seems to be doing exactly that. There’s a sense of yearning and adoration to his pose. Who can blame him when in proximity to such a lovely domme?
I had a hunt around but couldn’t track down an attribution for this image. If you know the photographer or the people featured then let me know via a comment and I’ll update the post.
If you’re interested in artistic exploration of BDSM scenes then you might want to check out a new photo book ‘Anxious To Please’ by Ottilie Landmark. Dazed has some images and an article on its creation here.
Acting as a voyeur, Landmark had permission to shoot her subjects from a unique perspective. “Being invited into those intimate moments and just observing has felt really humbling,” she notes. “You’re in these vulnerable spaces, but you’re also not fully part of it, which creates a unique kind of connection.” Although there’s a loose plan beforehand, there’s a freedom to adjust and play throughout the process.
I think the book title is a particularly well chosen one for the subject matter. If it sounds like your kind of thing, there’s a Fundraiser for it which’ll get you a copy. The image below is from the book and one of several shared in the Dazed article.
