The beauty of dominant women
I spent a happy but painful few hours earlier this week on the receiving end of Lady Lydia’s whips and canes. So in honor of that, here’s a nice shot of her doing what she does so brilliantly. Despite the watermark text, this is taken from a men in pain session that she filmed for them in 2007.
Lady Lydia has a session space is Seattle if you want to see her in person, or a good collection of clips if Seattle isn’t in your travel plans anytime soon.
I have endless respect for successful professional dominants. The list of skills they require is amazing. They need to be technically skilled in all the various facets of BDSM play they offer (piercing, whipping, suspension bondage, medical play, etc.). They need acting ability and imagination to deliver role play scenes. They need a good understanding of psychology to figure out the hot buttons and land mines in their submissive’s head. On a daily basis they have to be able to deal with everyone from nervous novices to experienced leather skinned masochists. Not to mention the weirdo’s and freaks they attract on-line. And on top of all this, they have to run a small company, skirt the vagaries of the law and work in a degree of secrecy. A great domme would seem to be a combination of therapist, actress, nurse, psychologist, performance artist, physical trainer and business entrepreneur.
Of course, sometimes even all this isn’t enough. Sometimes they’re called on for abilities and skills that you just never hear a career guidance counselor mention. For example, this thread on Max Fisch’s forum site gives an entertaining insight into a particular day in the life of Ms Olivia Black. Dominatrix, fetish model and gastroenterologist.
I recently added the ‘Sadist Next Door’ to my blog roll. It’s written by Mistress Crimson, a professional dominatrix from Chicago. She has a number of interesting posts, but one that really caught my eye was about food. She quotes Anthony Bourdain on eating as an act of submission.
It is about giving up all vestiges of control, about entrusting fate entirely to someone else. It is about turning off the mean, manipulative, calculating and shrewd person inside of you and slipping heedlessly into a new experience as if it were a warm bath. It is about shutting down the radar and letting good things happen. Let it happen to you.
Antony Bourdain, from his book ‘The Nasty Bits’
As both a huge food fan and a submissive I can completely relate to this. Some of the best meals of my life have been when I’ve simply entrusted myself to the chef and let him completely direct the flow of the meal. On the flip side, I also get very frustrated when I’m eating with people who keep trying to grab control from the chef and mess around with elements of the meal. I guess that’s the dining equivalent of topping from the bottom.
Of course as in any D/s relationship, you have to be sure the dominant knows what he or she is doing. A masochist’s delight in suffering doesn’t translate to the food domain quite as well as a submissive tendency does!
This is Madame Sarka wielding her whip. The dress and the shoes don’t look ideally suited to the task, but she seems to be balancing it beautifully. And obviously enjoying herself.
She’s a professional dominatrix based out of Prague.
I’ve done suspension scenes before, but never an inverted one. I can’t image how intense it must be to be upside down, hooded, bound and whipped. Wonderfully terrible I suspect.
This is taken from the galleries on Domina Liza’s site. She’s a professional dominatrix from Derby in England.
I love everything about this image. The symmetry of it. The precision of the needle line. The sense of calm intensity. The shadowy figure of the domina, imposing and yet not defined. It’s probably my favorite image of all that I’ve posted to date.
It’s taken from Domina Yuki’s tumblr site. She’s a professional dominant, working out of San Francisco, Her main website with details on arranging sessions can be found here.
I think my reaction to needle play was one of the biggest surprises I had (out of many) when first getting involved in BDSM. It had zero appeal at a fantasy level, and was something I’d recoil from if I came across it in femdom porn. In reality it turned out to be an amazingly intense and enjoyable activity. Although I have to admit to almost fainting on my first attempt, so minus several masochist points there. Fortunately, I have got a little better since then.
I was actually in a similar position to this gentleman a week or so ago, but instead of an arch across the chest, the mistress (Lady Lydia in my case) placed pairs of needles at the top of each arm, my hips, my shins and the edge of my hands. She then zigzagged cord back and forth between them under the table, anchoring me in place with some deliciously painful predicament bondage. That of course then left her free to start work with the needles on the nipples….
This is Mistress Katya showing off her collection of paddles and straps, with a look that manages to be both serious and sensual.
She’s a pro-domme based in NYC. Her main site with a session information is available here. This was taken from her free galleries page.
I came across this link on that favorite site of all procrastinators everywhere – fark.com. I’m not really sure what ‘Attack of the Show’ is, or who Candace Bailey is for that matter, but as far as mainstream representations of kink are concerned this one didn’t seem too terrible. It’s obviously mostly an excuse to show some attractive women in tight latex, but I can imagine at least a few people out there might have thought: “Hmmm, that looks kind of fun.” Which is better than the more usual: “Wow, what a bunch of freaks.”
The dominatrix in the clip is Mistress January Seraph. She does a pretty good job consider that the presenter looks great in latex but doesn’t know one end of a whip from another. And her playroom looks like a really fun place to session in. Here she is as ‘Nurse Seraph’.
Image shows Mistress January Seraph and was taken from this gallery page.
I was completely unaware of this particular needle play technique until a few days ago, when I stumbled across a post on it via Mistress Sade’s blog. It instantly leapt high on my ‘to do’ list for 2011. It looks like it would be very intense.
For anyone as in the dark as I was, the photograph below should give you a pretty good idea of what happens. This particular image was taken from Domina Yuki’s site and, as you can see, she’s pulled the cock and balls through a board and then pinned it down with a large number of needles.
If you’re interested in more detail on exactly how it’s done, then the images from Mistress Sade’s blog post (entirely unrelated to the shot below) are considerably more graphic. I really advise you not to look if close-up images of needles and penis piercing is likely to disturb you. That said – the original blog post is here. I found the sequence of shots quite remarkable, both from the obvious skill in execution and the beauty of the arrangement.
Above image is from this gallery. It’s not completely clear who the other Mistress is, but I believe that’s Domina Yuki with Domina Ai Li. Both are pro-dommes from the Bay area.
I’m always proud of any marks I’m left with after a session. They not only act as a happy reminder for days or even weeks later, but also as a sign of a joint achievement. A collaborative effort that yielded dark rich red and purple stripes. The mistress skillfully laid out the design and I managed to take the entire thing.
Hopefully this gentleman will feel the same way about his impressive set of whip marks.
This is taken from the galleries on domina liza’s site. She’s a very striking (no pun intended) professional dominatrix from Derby in England.