Tag: Fm

Smiles and Strappado

This lovely shot – courtesy of Elise Graves and Bondage Liberation – reminded me of the old tumblr ‘Happy BDSM.’ Its content was exactly as its name suggests and was featured here in past posts.

The original site is now sadly defunct, gone the way of most tumblrs, but I’m a little surprised that nobody has thought to resurrect the concept. For kinky folks I think its contents effect was much the same as seeing posts of cute animals doing adorable things. It’s an ‘ahhh’ moment – a little hit of endorphins and happiness before we go about our day.

You can find the original image, along with others from this scene, via this tweet. Elise is a professional rigger, bondage model and domme based in SF. You can find her Bondage Liberation site here and her twitter feed here.  The male performer is the West Coast based Ruckus.

Lamps – Part 5

Regular and attentive readers will be aware of one of my stranger and longer running series – submissives as lamps. The first entry was back in 2011 and the fourth and last (that I can find) was in 2018. I have a feeling there was another entry a year or two back that was unfortunately lost in the big blog blowup.

Anyway, that’s a longwinded introduction to a 5th (or possibly 6th) entry to the series. Apologies for the delay to everyone out there who have been eagerly awaiting its return. This one comes courtesy of Lady Lux of The Netherlands. Her submissive is so happy about the scene he’s positively glowing.

You can find Lady Lux’s professional site here and her Twitter feed here.

Loviante Artwork

Today’s post features an artist I’ve not covered here before – Loviante. Their work is often quite extreme and explicit, but also has a surreal, dreamy feel to it. Or maybe a nightmarish feel if your kinks don’t happen to run the same way! I like it a lot, while also sometimes finding it a touch disturbing, which is quite something considering all the kinky art I’ve seen over the years.

The work below, sourced via Twitter, is entitled ‘Temple on Madison Street.’ It’s a lovely variation on the theme of worship, with the detail in the Temple’s frieze being particularly beautiful.

You can find more art from Loviante via their Twitter feed and at their DeviantArt site.

Georgian Sexcapades

Anyone interested in the history of kink and femdom will probably enjoy this blog post by Anne O Nomis. It gives a behind the scenes glimpse of a new TV series about the history of sex and specifically about an episode on Theresa Berkley (featured here in a previous post). Working in 1820s London, using her own studio equipped with custom BDSM furniture, she was arguable the first modern dominatrix. Although she’d not have used that term to describe herself. Hopefully the show will live up to the level of research and care that Anne O Nomis has clearly put into it.

The above image dates from 1752, slightly before Theresa Berkley’s time. It’s a British print that now resides in the Library of Congress.

Fun for all Concerned

There’s one particular type of femdom shot I never enjoy. It’s the ones where it looks like the domme isn’t having any fun. I don’t mean shots where the domme looks angry or displeased. Getting mad at someone – even if its only roleplaying – can be cathartic. I mean ones where it’s hard to imagine what the domme is getting out of the scene.

Foot worship shots can be some of the worst for this. A respectful kiss or a shoe shine scene can be sexy. Even face tramping has appeal from a masochist/sadist perspective. But there’s a lot of shots out there where the primary adjectives that spring to my mind are slobbery, sticky and bored.

Here’s a great counter-example of a foot worship scene done right. Everyone looks like they’re getting something out of it. There’s even some grapes on the side for her to snack on while getting her feet massaged and cleaned. It’s all very thoughtful.

I’ve afraid I don’t know who this is or who created it. If you can help with an attribution, please let me know via a comment.

Update: Thanks to two helpful commenters, I’m attributing this to Rina Trevi. I haven’t found the original version to prove it 100%, but this seems correct.  She’s an Austin based vulnerability coach. You can find her Twitter here and professional site here.

Beauty and the Beast

At a quick glance I thought this image belonged to the genre: “Hot domme in fetish gears hangs out in gritty urban environment to create interesting study in contrasts.” It’s not a major kinky genre, but there are a few examples around. For example, this one from the late great Mistress Adrienne.

However, on looking more closely, there’s a pretty clear sign it’s not your average urban environment. That hooded naked man locked away in the pen for one. There’s something particularly sexy about over the top bondage. Adding extra control when it’s not needed makes it so much hotter. In this case to go along with the bars on the door there’s the thick chain hooked outside, the leather hood and the locked hands in mittens. Lovely.

The hot domme in question here is Mistress Trinity accompanied by Heavy, sourced via this tweet. Unfortunately, the space is at Studio Avalon, which AFAIK closed in 2020.

Updated thanks to a helpful comment: The space is probably Residenz Avalon, rather than the studio. Unfortunately, it’s also no longer around. You can see a video from what used to be here.

Perverted Pup

I’ve a bit late to the table with this Onion article from 2013: Masochist Dog Enjoys Being Walked Around On Leash While Naked. However, it made me smile and I figure there’s no time limit on humor.

According to neighbors living near local French bulldog Ruggles, the humiliation-loving canine apparently derives intense pleasure from being stark naked, clipped to a movement-constricting leash, and paraded around in public.

This gentleman clearly shares some of Ruggles perversions. Hopefully, he at least doesn’t leave his walker little presents on the grass outside.


I found this via the Madame is All tumblr. A bit of digging around led me to the original source – Troupe of Slaves and specifically this section.

More on Paying the Talent

My last post linked to a thread on paying (or not) male submissives performing in femdom porn. In digging through the replies I’ve been bemused by some of the responses from dommes. A non-trivial number have a vehement reaction against it. An almost visceral level of disgust to the very idea. For example, I give you this thread or  this one or replies to it like this one.

To be clear, I think it’s fine to use whatever business model works for you, provided it’s legal and consensual. Not all forms of compensation are monetary. If there are submissives who want to film for free, or even pay for the privilege, and customers willing to buy the resulting content, then have had it! The output might not be what I want to buy, for reasons I outlined in the previous post, but there are plenty of other potential customers out there.

What I think is weird is professionals getting upset at the idea of other professionals. Twitter is full of content producers posting about what hard work it is to make great kinky content. There’s a lot of emphasis on the fact that it takes much time and effort to get right, significant skills are involved and that it’s not sexy fun times for those involved. So why not a professional submissive? Everyone knows that male talent in regular porn gets paid. Same story for female talent in all forms of porn. So why the reaction to the very idea of paying male talent in kinky porn? There might be plenty of volunteers for the sub role, but that fact often shows in the final content. You get what you pay for. Or, in this case, don’t pay for.

This is two professionals – Beretta James and Dominic Pacifico – shooting for Divine Bitches. The kink.com company definitely had their problems, but they did at least pay their talent.

Paying the Talent

Deviant Kade kicked off an interesting discussion with the tweet below. You can browse the thread here along with the quote tweets.

When I see Dommes make slaves pay to be on film, I die a little inside.
If you are using subs for your business they should be paid for their time and energy to make you content. Don’t be greedy. Share, and your subs will give you better content when they feel appreciated.

Reading the replies it’s surprising how many different approaches there are. Some dommes charge the sub, some don’t charge but also don’t pay, some only film with personal subs or trusted clients, some do hire professionals and pay them, etc.

For me the biggest issue with non-professional submissives is the weird pairs it can often lead to. There’ll be a young and gorgeous domme in great shape playing with a balding overweight dude whose twice her age. It takes me out of the dynamic, because I keep wondering why these two would ever be together. I want to watch a fantasy of femdom – not something that feels like a pro-domme / client session.

Of course there are ways to make that kind of disparate pairing work: A butler and a rich young mistress. A twisted daddy / cruel daughter scene. A sugar babe gone bad. The sadistic nurse and her helpless older patient. Unfortunately, all too often simply looks like an older man paying a hot domme to do mean things. Which is fun when I’m the older man in question, but less fun to watch.

This is Mistress T and Deviant Kade goofing about after filming a scene at Femdom Empire. According to Mistress T in the blog post I sourced it from – “He’s one of the best, if not THE best ‘son’ I’ve filmed with for my family fantasy scenes.”

Twitter Troubles

My previous post on the future of twitter under Elon Musk was lost in the great migration. Short version: It was going to be chaotic and while he might not target kink and sex workers directly, there was a good chance they’d get caught up in the general chaos.

In hindsight that seems a decent bit of prognostication, although if I’m honest I did not expect the chaos to be quite as crazy as it is. His naïve views on content moderation  causing issues was predictable, but I didn’t expect him to be such a terrible CEO, technical leader and human being. There’s no ideal way to lay off a significant number of employees, but most people seem to manage it without coming across as incompetent emotionally unstable narcists. Not Elon. The story of Haraldur Thorleifsson, an ex-employee he mocked online encapsulates everything about Twitter 2.0. Incompetently handled, needlessly cruel, publicly embarrassing and potentially costly.

As for the actual product itself, changes to the curated timeline appear to be very sex and sex work negative. Twitter has always had a curated vs chronological option for browsing tweets. Under the old regime they tended to be different, but not wildly so. The curated version (called ‘For you’ in the current UI) had more popular tweets that got engagement over past days, but it was more a reshuffling of tweets than a radically different user experience. From my experience, that no longer seems  to be true. I can instantly tell when I’m on the ‘For you’ vs ‘Following’ view, as the content is so different.

Because I’m a bit of a nerd, I decided to try and measure the difference. I follow almost 500 people on twitter and only 20 of those accounts are not kink or sex related. With that kind of 95+ percentage skew, you’d expect my timeline to be full of awesome kinky goodness and that’s true for one of the options. Here’s what I measured for the ‘Following’ view when I categorized ~200 tweets the other night.

Category Percentage of Tweets
Non-kink related 8%
Kink related but non-explicit 43%
Explicit kinky content 38%
Explicit content selling (OnlyFan, etc.) 11%

That lines up with what I expect given who I follow. Now here’s the breakdown I for a similar number of tweets on the ‘For You’ view.

Category Percentage of Tweets
Non-kink related 45%
Kink related but non-explicit 20%
Explicit kinky content 8%
Clickbait bullshit 25%

You can see that the kinky material is massively down and the non-kinky stuff is way up. I even had to add a new category for clickbait tweets – the sort of deliberately rage inducing viral stuff that’s frequently incorrect and used to be a trademark of Facebook. Now I get more of those than I do from the actual people I’ve chosen to follow. That never used to be the case.

If someone was a huge baseball fan, and 95% of the accounts they followed were baseball related, I think it’d be seen as a massive product failure if 70% of the tweets they were shown were nothing to do with baseball. Yet that seems to be the current situation with the curated feed for twitter and kink/sex right now.

I’ll close the post with exactly the kind of content that Twitter now seems to be steering me away from. This is the incomparable Mistress Iris, as featured on her twitter feed.

You can see more of her amazing work at her Mindful Surrender site and via her OnlyFans.