Tag: F

Tweaking the Image

Before AI there was photoshop. A favorite tool for kinsters who wanted to modify an image to align with their preferences. I’m always amused when scrolling through tumblrs and I stumble across a photograph modified this way. In an internet awash in explicit BDSM imagery, dedicated kink fans still want to create new ones that speak to their passions.

Here’s an example I spotted on the Assertive Ladies tumblr. Originally it was from a photoshoot for a failed ABC show called Mind Games shown back in 2014. The actor is Jamie Ray Newman. I’m not sure who gave her the paddle. They did a decent job of the tweak, although there’s clearly something a little off about the pose.

Red Scare

If there’s one Femdom related word that sets my teeth on edge it’s paypig. Not sure exactly why. Just one of those things – like wacky capitalization – that grates against my eyeball anytime I see it.

I mention it because the word is scattered all across this Vice article on communist findommes. I guess it makes more sense in that context than most, given that capitalist pig is a well worn epithet. I’m very much not an expert on communism, but I was under the impression that neither Marx nor Engels were fans of sex work.

While most pro-dommes I’ve met are unsurprisingly socially liberal, a good percentage were also pretty capitalist. I guess it comes with running a small business and the constant hustle that requires. You need a fairly wide entrepreneurial streak to make a success of any small business, let alone one that faces constant legal and social hurdles.

This image has been manipulated and reposted a bunch, but I think the original source is DomNX on DeviantArt.

Bye Bye Max?

Max Fisch appears to have dropped off the net. It’s been flaky for years, but one has to wonder if this is the final goodbye.

For those that don’t know what I’m talking about- Max Fisch is (was?) one of the longest running Femdom forum sites and Domina directories. It first showed up back in the 1990’s and for years was  one of the primary sites for pro-domme information and discussion. Sadly, like a lot of these sites, social media sucked away a lot of the potential users and the admins and moderators lost interest in maintaining it.

The loss of internet forum culture to a few huge social media companies is a great shame in my view. It’s not that the quality of the debate was particularly great on the forums – online people are the same all over. But the forum’s were more focused, the conversations longer and the posts were both durable and searchable. You could post a review of a session and another user would be able to find it years later. Good luck doing that on Twitter. You also didn’t have to deal with all the algorithmically driven rage-bait garbage the social media sites throw out you.

Of course there’s nothing technically stopping someone running a femdom forum today. The problem is getting to critical mass when so many of the casual users gravitate to social media.  It’s hard for simple web base forums to compete with thousand of social engineers doing whatever they can to drive more swipes on a media feed.

If you’re like me and find the history of femdom and internet culture fascinating, using the wayback machine to browse old domme site can be a great way to kill a lot of time. For example, looking at the very first capture of Max’s domme listing from 1999, I spotted a link to the famous Ilsa Strix. That in turn led me to her archived site and old interviews with her. You can even still find her original contact protocol.

Attacking for the 3rd Time

I don’t have a giantess kink, but I figure I might have a few readers with a love for enormous ladies. If so, they’re in luck, as there’s a remake of the sci-fi classic ‘Attack of the 50 Woman’ on the way. This’ll actually be the third version, after the 1958 original and 1993 remake. The new one will be directed by Tim Burton. I’ve not loved a lot of his recent movies, but I thought his Wednesday series was fun, so hopefully this’ll continue that trend.

A Day with Countess Diamond

A day with a domme is a cheap way for publications to get some interesting and titillating content. They can often come across as mocking or poking fun at ‘weird’ kinks.

However, this Vice article by Eloise Hendy is one of the better examples I’ve seen. It features Countess Diamond and really captures some of the key components and dynamics of a professional session. I particularly like how it highlights the tenderness and thoughtfulness that experienced dommes can blend in amongst all the ball kicking and penis slapping. It also captures the arc of a well structured session, from the initial chat through to the aftercare. The only weird bit in it is the post-aftercare game of crazy golf. That’s definitely not a typical session experience.

This is a shot of Countess Diamond, source via her twitter feed. If you’re in London and interested in seeing her person, you can find her professional site here.

Kink on The Strip

Vegas isn’t a particularly kinky city. Big on sex work in general, not a lot of the kinky variety. However, I did spot one street performer doing her bit to change that.

Like other touristy places, the Vegas Strip has a lot of costumed street performers. For a few bucks you can get your photograph taken with a Batman, an Optimus Prime, a Donald Duck, etc. Vegas being Vegas, classic showgirl outfits are a popular get up, featuring lots of sparkles, bright colors and plunging necklines. Think something like this photo.

One enterprising performer I spotted wondering past the Bellagio had accessorized the classic showgirl look with a leather spanking strap. This wasn’t a brightly colored heart shaped play paddle. It was long, thick, black heavy leather. The kind of implement even a serious spankee would want to warm up to. I admired her attempt to appeal to more clients, particularly kinky ones, but felt she might want to pick a less fearsome weapon.  One that wouldn’t strike fear into the heart of passing tourists.

It’s pretty tricky to find a photograph of a dominatrix showgirl. Instead I’ll leave you with another costume I spotted on the strip – Catwoman. She didn’t have a leather padddle on her, which was a shame. I might have been inclined to stop for a whack or two.

On The Road Again

I’m in Vegas for a few days R&R. Unusually I haven’t booked any kinky adventures. I can’t remember the last time I traveled and didn’t plan some sort of hijinks. Maybe I’m getting old.

Another reason for me taking it easy might be the fact that Savannah Sly was in Seattle a week or so ago. We got together for a couple of sessions and my kinky itches were well and truly scratched. Also bitten, slapped, poked and pinched. She left me buzzing for days, with a lovely collection of bruises to admire. Much more satisfying that anything on offer to me right now in Sin City.

This image is from Savannah’s twitter feed. Look out for her in Chicago on Dec 1st. If you’d like to see more of her online, she has an OnlyFans here.

Power Broker

Talking of Mistress Iris (as I just was) she has apparently been listed on NY Magazine’s list of The Most Powerful New Yorkers You’ve Never Heard Of (scroll to the end). I say ‘apparently’ because it doesn’t provide a photograph or a link and Mistress Iris isn’t traditionally associated with NYC. She was originally LA based and now seems to mainly be in Europe (with regular trips to Tokyo, London, NYC, LA, etc.). However, I can’t think of another Mistress Iris who’d have the profile to be in this article and also considered as an NYC local. Although based on the title on the list, I guess not having heard of her would be kind of the point.

Wonderful though Mistress Iris is, it seems a shame they didn’t pick an equally high profile domme who has a stronger claim to NYC residency. After all, there is no shortage of them. It’s one of the great cities for kink. Off the top of my head I can think of Troy Orleans, Mistress Tess, Lucy Sweetkill, Mistress Blunt, Lady Harper Chase, Mistrix Sade and many, many more.

Here’s an image courtesy of Mistress Tess who has an amazing NYC studio space. Curse Covid for ruining my chance to enjoy a lengthy session in it earlier this year.

Search Stupidity

Google continues to degrade as a useful service. To go with its endless ads and poor relevance we can now add an increasing puritanical streak. I covered similar problems with its image search all the way back in 2012. Now its web search has taken a similar turn.

If you search for a dominatrix in a city – for example the query {la dominatrix} – the default results are a whole heap of junk. I get zero useful pro-domme sites. Instead I get a bunch of books being sold, a few random magazine articles and some obscure music track that has that title.  The top link for {NYC dominatrix} is a New York Post story about domme who tried to poison someone. The rest are random social media nonsense and more garbage stories from sites like The Daily Mail. All of this is with Safe Search off.

Weirdly, to get good results, you need to turn off personalized search. On my web browser that’s buried under “Google Settings->More Settings->Personal Results->Show Personal Results”. In other words, a setting that almost nobody is going to find or change. I say it’s weird, because a correctly personalized results for me should be all pro-domme links! My browser history is full of visits to domme sites, their social media accounts and similarly kinky sources. Yet Google is either stupid enough to miss that or puritanical enough to think I shouldn’t be going there.

Although changing that Google setting fixes the issue, it’s probably best to vote with your clicks and just avoid the site entirely. That change is going to cost a lot of dommes a lot of money, flushing their SEO investment down the drain. The good news is that (so far) similar queries to Bing give me excellent results, no faffing about with settings needed. That’s already my go to search for my PC. I might have to update my other devices now.

Here’s one of the LA dommes whose site is normally in the top 10 results but is entirely absent with the default settings -the fabulous Inga Larsson.

A Fine Tradition

October brings the return of a fine tradition to the femdom community. No, not Locktober. I’m talking about the Femdom Ball in London as organized by the Nubian Matriarch.

I’ve covered it in the past (posts for 2017 and 2019) but this year the pictures from it have been particularly striking. Not sure if they upped the professional photography coverage or everyone was just being particularly fabulous. Either way I’ve been enjoying the images and thought I’d share 10 of my favorites here. Wherever possible I’ve tried to provide links to professional sites rather than just social media.

Finally, here’s a couple of group shots to finish with, taken from this tweet and this one. Looks like a really amazing event!