The beauty of dominant women
I’ll be back in Seattle tomorrow, assuming my flights work out. Hopefully blog updates, theme refreshes and improvements should follow. In the meantime, here’s a nice shot that caught my eye. Nipple play/torture is always one of my favorite things, and in this case it looks like it might be one of hers.
The recent general election may have not panned out the way I would have hoped, but there was some good news. California Proposition 60, which I covered in this post, did not get passed. It doesn’t balance out the bigger picture, but hey, I’ll take what I can get.
I’ll leave you with a nice condom free CBT shot. I guess it’s actually nipple torture, anal play and CBT, but whatever. More is sometimes better.
Posts might be infrequent to non-existent over the next few days. I’m travelling again, and I’m not sure how much free time I’ll have or if I’ll have a WiFi signal. Also, in the light of recent events, I feel less in a posting mood and more in a drinking heavily and cursing angrily to myself mood.
When I get back I’ll hopefully have discovered the energy to overhaul the blog and bring it up to date. I really need to include some more social media links, particularly twitter. On the technical side, Google doesn’t like my lack of mobile friendliness and there’s odd problems with comments I want to fix. On a related topic, if anyone has had loading time issues with the blog, please let me know via a comment. It seems to have been slow to me, but I’m not sure if everyone is seeing that.
Before I head off to execute on my travel+drink plan, I’ll leave you with a nice image that caught my eye. Possibly it’ll represent how some of you are feeling right now.
I believe this is fan art of Haruka & Michiru from Sailor Moon.
It’s a big day in America. We should have a new president by the end of it. Or at least I hope to God we do. This dumpster fire of an election can’t end soon enough. The idea of it dragging on beyond election day is to horrible to think about. On the positive side, with any luck, it’ll be our first female president. It’s about time.
Updated: Apparently around 50% of Americans didn’t agree with me on the female president part. Instead we got a very different future.
I’ve always intended this blog to cover both professional and regular non-professional female dominance. So after the previous post on communicating with a pro-domme, I thought I should also provide some similar links for ‘lifestyle’ (to use a term I’m not fond of) dommes. Fortunately for me, three of the smartest and most interesting bloggers on my blogroll have already covered this exact topic.
This images is from the Enora Nòtt site.
Mistress T has written a good guide on how to email a pro-domme. These kind of posts are depressingly common online. I say ‘depressingly’ not because they’re bad, but because of the need to write them at all. Over the years I’ve seen numerous similar posts from other pro-dommes, which suggests the level of bad communication remains constant and high. I therefore feel compelled to point people at these posts when they pop-up on my radar.
I think a key point to keep in mind when writing these emails is the professional part of the job description, rather than the dominant bit. Imagine emailing a lawyer or a doctor. The goal is to convey the pertinent information in a concise and readable form. If you can get the professional bit taken care of in a efficient but friendly fashion, it leads to the far more interesting and in person dominant bit.
The only part of Mistress T’s write-up I’d qualify or comment on further is around the idea of sending a tribute or gift as part of the initial discussion. I personally have two approaches on this. If the domme is the kind who does a lot of different things – clips, modelling, custom videos, sessions, etc. – then I think that makes sense. She has lot of possible ways to invest her time and effort that you need to compete with. A gift give you an advantage in that prioritization decision. I think Mistress T herself falls into that category of professionals. On the other hand, if the domme has a more traditional and singular focus on in person sessions, then I’m not sure that’s necessary. I prefer in that case to tip on top of the regular session fee after we’ve played. That is still a gift, but it feels more like a more natural thank you for the time and effort you just invested in our time together.
I’ll finish with a nice shot of Mistress T looking professional in a femme fatale kind of way. She must have had ‘big gun’ as an item on her wish list…
I found this recent study on online social dynamics fascinating. Researchers looked at people playing an online videogame (Halo 3) and measured success against their behavior across the genders. It turned out the men were generally complimentary to other male players. Successful men were also complimentary to female players. However, unsuccessful men tended to be nasty and rude to female players. So they were losers in all sense of the word.
This researchers conclusion was that a change in existing social dynamics – in this case an influx of new female players into a previously male dominated area – was a bigger threat to those near the bottom than those near the top. The lower status players had more to lose and hence reacted in an angrier fashion to those they perceive as responsible. This is a conclusion that fits with a lot of my personal observations of life. In a work environment it’s always the confident and expert individuals who are most open to being challenged and debating alternatives. People who are less sure of themselves see each challenge as a direct threat and react accordingly. One could probably do a similar analysis about economics, social classes and the current politics of America.
In the wider world it’s hard to know what the answer to this problem is. Anger from losing out when it comes to economics or social influence can be understandable. But when it comes to online interaction, whether it’s gaming, discussion forums or social media, there’s no excuse for being a douche. If you can’t not be angry then walk away. And if you see someone behaving obnoxiously then call them on it.
This is by the artist Travis Estrella from his tumblr 1000 Pencils.
I’m back in Seattle after a fun trip to Chicago. Kinky play was featured, which I’ll hopefully write about in a future post. I’ve acquired some pleasing marks on my posterior to admire. It’s possible that not playing very much in the last year has softened me up and led to quicker marking, which is a pleasant side effect. Now I get the pretty patterns without spending half the session doing corporal play.
I need to go unpack and unwind after the flight. I’ll leave you with this charming picture of a happy lady and her pet. He also appears to be marked up, although his look a lot more extensive than mine.
This image pops up a lot on tumblr, but I can’t track down an original attribution for it unfortunately.
If you’ve been dressing up and going to Halloween parties or just trick and treating with family, then I hope you’ve had fun this weekend. This is the LA based Mistress Piper showing how to pull off a seriously sexy vampire look.
Excuse me while I indulge in another celebrity post. This time it’s Kendall Jenner in an outfit that makes for a nice contrast to Megyn’s one in yesterday’s post.
The fashion pages horribly overuse the term dominatrix when it comes to outfits. If any female celebrity steps out in any random black dress or sightly racy boots they call it dominatrix inspired (for example). However, I have to give Kendall Jenner credit here, this is a pretty good domme get-up. She would not look out of place in a dungeon attaching nipple clamps to horny sweaty men.
Of course that’s not say that you need to dress in leather or latex to have kinky fun or top someone. But I do think if newspapers are going to push the cliche of the dominatrix and her outfits, they should at least reserve it for people who have made some effort in that direction.
Image is from this Daily Mail article.