Fun & Games

I’m a big gooey puddle right now. I was lucky enough to meet up with Savannah Sly tonight and get well and truly stomped on. Rope, staples, shock prods, canes, clothespins, gags and piss were all involved at some point or another. Occasionally it felt like all of them at once. The end result was a lot of endorphins and the aforementioned gooey puddle. Bliss.

In other news, it was the Folsom Fair this weekend in San Francisco. I wasn’t there, but I have been enjoying some of the shots posted from it. I thought the one below – from Daddy Daphne – was particularly cute. Lots of striking looks and big smiles.

I believe this is @ViolaPlease,  @dominatrix_lux@CarnalCarmine@rubysbridge@Daddy Daphne,  @ServeQueenVee@DevotedToRose@MzKimAP.

In Case of Emergency, Don’t Break Glass

Penis possessing readers might want to brace themselves before reading this next story. Courtesy of Lady Vi, it describes how using a glass sound can go horribly wrong. No kinky true life story should ever contain the words sound, dick and fileted.

I had no ideas that glass sounds were actually a thing, but apparently they are. Glass dildos I can understand. They’re typically a pretty hefty and shatterproof chunk of glass. But a glass urethral sound? Yikes.

The shot below features a much safer metal sound, wielded by Mistress Siren Thorn. It’s an interesting shot as he still has a chastity cage on. I don’t think I’ve ever seen that combination before. Feels like it would increase the denial and frustration factor significantly.

Unfun Needle

Short post today. I got my updated Covid booster shot this afternoon. Definitely not the kind of needle play I like. My shoulder feels like someone has punched it repeatedly and typing is uncomfortable.

On the plus side, now I’m fully boosted up with the latest magic juice, I can starting thinking about travelling and playing in some different cities. Be fun to get beaten up somewhere else for a change.

While my nurse today was pleasant and efficient, she didn’t have quite the same dramatic presence as Miss Eleise De Lacy. You can find more from her via twitter and her professional site.

Head Down, Bottom Up

Some heavy bondage and objectification for you in today’s post. Not sure where I found this, but it is pretty hot. I particularly like the multiple carabiner clips holding his arms together. Not really necessary to prevent escape, but when is this kind of bondage ever about the necessary?

Thanks to a helpful comment, I’m fairly certain this is from The Shackler. Couldn’t locate this exact picture, but the setting, style and content looks very much like his work. Work checking out his twitter feed if you’re into male bondage (no femdom however).

Seamstress

My previous post about bad play piercing reminded me of a conversation I had with a domme many years ago. We were talking about firsts and she described the first time she was asked to do a piercing. For reasons that’ll become clear, it’s a session description that has stuck with me.

She was a baby domme, with neither the experience nor the equipment for piercing. This was explained to her very enthusiastic client, but he was insistent. No problem on the equipment. He could bring needles. No problem on the experience. He’d done it a lot and was happy to show her how. She figured it’d be good learning opportunity. Bring it on.

Her client shows up for the session, super excited to get started, and pulls out a bunch of needles and pins from a sewing kit. Even without any piercing experience, she knew something was awry. Was he sure about this she asked? Were they clean? He assured her this was how he always did it and they’d been sterilized. So away they went, poking him with holes from a home sewing kit. I imagine it must have been incredibly painful, given how blunt those things are compared to hypodermic needles.

I’ve often thought about that scenario. Did he have zero experience and just assumed that was what needle play meant? Did he overpromise on getting equipment and then came up with this as a last minute plan when his local CVS wouldn’t sell some random guy a big box of hypodermic needles? Or had some previous domme actually done a scene with sewing needles and he now thought that was how it was done? I guess I’ll never know.

Domina YukiThis image is from a domme who absolutely does know how to do proper piercing – Domina Yuki. I should probably make clear that she’s not the domme referred to above.

I almost never intentionally repost image but I love this one so much I figured I’d share it again. It first featured in a post back in 2011.

Winging It

Julia Fox has been interviewed in Paper magazine about her experiences working as a dominatrix in a NYC house. For the most part it’s a decent interview, although her comments about doing play piercing with zero experience have been raising eyebrows online.

I remember one guy wanted piercings. He wanted needle play, pretty much. To be pierced. And it’s like, you know, you need experience for that, but I was like, “Yeah, of course I can do it. I’ve done it a million times. Don’t worry, you’re safe with me.” And fully just winged it, piercing this man. He’s loving it.

And I just, you know, went with it. A lot of it is just improvising and figuring it the fuck out.

Improvising certainly has its place, but I’m not sure it should be anywhere near medical play. Particularly when you’re working in a house with a bunch of other dommes who can offer advice and training. If you tell the client you’re inexperienced and he still wants to go for it, then fair enough. He knows the risk. Maybe he can even offer some guidance. But lying about your experience level? Not cool.

This is Julia Fox in the Versace fashion show. Images from hypebae.

Worst Case Scenario

For anyone doubting the potential dangers of breathplay, particularly when done by something wrapped around the neck, I’d refer you to this recent story from Australia. It features an unpro-domme who killed her client with a lethal bondage set-up.

the court was shown graphic photographs of Mr Brady’s body as it was found — face down, with his arms and legs tied to the bed, wearing a hood, a rope around his neck and a gag in his mouth.

The domme clearly didn’t know what she was doing and wasn’t monitoring his status at all. Now he’s dead and she’s got a six and a half year jail sentence.

I personally love breathplay, but I’d never dream of doing it via pressure around the neck. It’s too risky and too hard to judge. Smothering with a hand or other suitable body part is way safer. Using plastic wrap can also be fun, but I’d only ever do that with someone I trusted and who had years of experience.

This image features the amazing Mistress Iris.

The Talk

This Guardian article on pornography made me smile. Its basic premise – that research into pornography is contradictory, incomplete and often biased – is a sound one. It’s a research area that strongly selects for people with axes to grind and an agenda to bolster. What we mostly know about pornography is that we don’t know a lot.

While it’s a good article, the bit that amused me was this quote about people using porn for sex ed…

We hypothesise that young people, when they reach puberty, might go looking online because neither their parents or the schools are telling them what they want to know,” McKee says.

I have my doubts that clear and instructive sex-ed lessons are the secret to keeping horny teenagers away from all the internet pictures of naked people. Good sex-ed is obviously important, but the reason teenagers and adults look at porn is because they’re horny, fantasy is fun and orgasms are enjoyable. Teenagers who get an instructive sex talks from their parents do not suddenly lose the urge to masturbate and forswear all porn. And if they do, that’s probably a strong indicator that the talk went seriously awry.

Having said that, when it comes to kinky adults, the idea of a sex-ed talk gone wrong might actually be a hot roleplay. Lots of scope there for humiliation and disparaging comments, not to mention the emotional connection to old teenage fears and uncertainties.

This is Nicole Kidman in the movie To Die For. She doesn’t play a teacher but, as anyone who has seen it knows, she does have a very bad influence on a number of high schoolers.

Ruff Stuff

I’m not really sure what’s going on with this outfit, but I’m here for it. Was the designer going for a kinky Elizabethan schoolteacher look? If so – nailed it.

Most fashion shots with a hint of kink about them end up spoiling it by throwing in too many jarring and unconnected kinky elements. This keeps it simple and, as a result, works very effectively.

The model is Chloë Sevigny, in a shoot for Town & Country magazine by David Dunan. I think I could have picked almost any of the images from it to feature, as they’ve all got a strong hint of femdom about them.

Harley and Ivy Return

I was very happy to discover my favorite superhero series has returned for a new season – Harley Quinn on HBO Max. I’m not sure if it really counts as femdom, but it’s very funny, Harley and Poison Ivy are super cute and they inflict a large amount of violence on hapless male goons. I’m getting pretty bored with regular superhero shows, but I could happily watch these two cause mayhem in Gotham all day.

I’m clearly not the only fan as Princess Onyx and Goddess Fina did this fun Cosplay short video.

The show is currently on Season 3. If you’ve not seen the show, and have a relatively high tolerance for cartoon violence, then I’d definitely suggest checking out the first two seasons. I think you can rent it on Amazon Prime or stream for free with a HBO Max account.

This cute photograph is another from the cosplay of Princess Onyx and Goddess Fina. Found via this tweet on Princess Onyx’s twitter feed.