The beauty of dominant women
Here’s some visual loveliness to kick the weekend off with, courtesy of Berlin’s Lady Lexi. I try and avoid posting too many shots of beautiful dommes in fetish wear – there’s plenty of other sites for that. However, I loved the composition of this image so much, I felt I had to share it.
You can Lady Lexi’s professional site here and her link collection here. Image was sourced via this post on her Twitter feed.
I couldn’t do a series of posts on meeting pro-dommes in the old days without mentioned Domina Directory International – or simply DDI. If cards in phone boxes were the low end of the advertising market, this was definitely the high end. It was professionally printed and distributed, with high quality photographs alongside articles and contact details. I remember play spaces having copies in their entrance rooms, particularly if a domme using the space was featured in it. There were European and US editions, and it was even available to purchase in mainstream outlets.
Unsurprisingly, like a lot of print media, it didn’t survive the coming of the internet. There is still a Twitter feed for them, but the last post was over a decade ago.
Unlike a lot of similar magazines from that era, I’ve yet to find any detailed articles on its history or background. It was pitched as by pro-dommes and for pro-dommes, but exactly who the creators were is unclear to me. Mistress Sidonia has a good tribute post on her Femdom Blog, so check that out if you’re interested in her take on it.
This was #27 of the North American edition, although I can’t see a date on it. The banner along the bottom is indicative of its time.
My previous post featuring an old pro-domme advertisement, and a comment left on it from Simon, reminded me of this post by the brilliant femdom artist Sardax. It describes the process of seeking a pro-domme in pre-internet days and features the below image, showing the typical sex worker cards you might find in a phonebox or dodgy newsagents.
I remember visiting London in the 90’s and seeing examples of these, but it was a practice already beginning to die out. Unsurprising, given the limited information a card could offer. After all, who’d fancy calling a number on the basis of just “Gas Mask, Leather, Rubber, Boots, etc.” It’s not a lot to go on. The “School Girl Uniform for Sale” is another intriguing one. Did you turn up expecting to put it on? Or for a middle aged sex worker to be wearing it? My favorite is the “1/2 hour of hell” which both catches the eye and gives the advertiser a lot of leeway in delivering the service. It’s the mystery box of cards.
I’m continuing the historical theme with this image. It’s another one from mrunderheel on Twitter. However, in this case it wasn’t the image that caught my eye – although it does feature a very fun phone – but the text. It’s an interesting glimpse into the pro-domme world of the past.
Firstly, there’s the mention of ‘transvestites’. You almost never see that today. Cross-dressing or feminization seem to be current words of choice. I guess transvestite carries too much negative baggage, Rocky Horror usage not withstanding.
Then there’s the use of ‘Greek’ to mean anal sex. That used to be a standard sex worker code word but has gone out of fashion. ‘Slave Greeking’ here presumably means pegging or similar activities.
The acronym S.A.S.E might require some explanation for my readers under 40. That stands for ‘Self Addressed Stamped Envelope’ and was a common request if you were writing to someone and wanted a response. By enclosing an envelope with a stamp you were paying the postage for the reply. I remember it being a standard thing in the 70s and 80s when requesting information.
The part that made laugh and gave me the post title was the phrase – “No pen pals.” I’m assuming this meant don’t waste my time and send me letters expecting a response without paying for a session. Yes, even when it took many days to communicate, and actual pen and ink were required, reply guys and timewasters were still a thing. Self-centered horny men are, sadly, in endless and timeless supply.
You can see the original full size version via this Twitter post.
I thought this bondage set-up was both very sexy and a little unusual. Hogties aren’t rare, but I don’t think I’ve seen one combined with hooks and overhead straps in this way. It really adds an enhanced element of control, particularly when combined with the straps around the head. I’m also a fan of using leather over the more traditional rope.
This was created by the Chicago based pro-domme Mistress Hecuba and sourced via her Bluesky feed. She also has a LoyalFans available here.
I woke up feeling very tender and sore. Because I’m now over 50 years old that triggered the obvious thought process – “OMG. Am I dying? What new hell is this? Did I just sleep weird or is this a new normal? Do my muscles hate me now?”
Fortunately, after the sleep haze cleared, I realized what was going on. Ms Savannah Sly was in town. Last night therefore featured lots of beating, trampling, biting, pummeling and lots of other painful ‘ings. It was the really good kind of sore. Lots of happy bruises.
The bad news was I had a doctors appointment I’d forgotten about. It had been rescheduled multiple times and I hadn’t realized the final time landed just hours after a session. Always fun explaining that yes, I know I’m bruised and scratched, and yes, it was entirely consensual. It felt a bit like taking a car from a destruction derby to a mechanic. I know I did all these violent things to it and the bodywork now looks like hell, but you can still fix my brakes and check the engine light?
This is the fabulous Ms Savannah Sly as featured on her Bluesky Feed. If you’d like to support her organization New Moon – which does lots of great things for sex workers – then check it out here.
I’m safely back in Seattle after my UK trip. Hopefully, slightly more regular posting will now resume.
Before I left I was lucky enough to play with Lady Phoenix in her London space. That proved to be a fabulous way to round off my trip. We indulged in some electrical play, sounding, CBT, watersports and a lot of tease/denial and edging. Combining those activities with a really talented and lovely domme is guaranteed to send me home with a smile on my face.
Thanks to limited time in London I’d done a session just two days earlier with Mistress Miranda (as covered in my previous post). Scheduling sessions so closely together is always a risk because of the short recovery time. Delicate areas are sometimes still in their recovery phase. I think my nipples were described as ‘crusty’ which is a never an expression you want associated with an erogenous zone! Fortunately, Lady Phoenix worked with the slightly bruised goods I was presenting and judged the intensity of our play beautifully.
If you’re in the London area and interested in sessions, then I’d definitely suggest seeking Lady Phoenix out. She has a great central London space and it was a lot of fun to connect and play with her.
This image of Lady Phoenix is from her Bluesky feed. You can find all her other links here.
By now it seems that every fashion / lifestyle magazine has done some variation on the ‘Day with a Dominatrix’ article. Today it’s the turn of Australia’s Fashion Journal with this article featuring Vera Beaufort.
I’m featuring it here because I think it’s one of the better examples of its kind. Less sensational and voyeuristic and more in touch with the dynamics of a real session. The play described is a lot more formalized and ritualistic than my sessions but still has the ring of truth to it.
The other reason to feature it is that it gives me an excuse to post a sexy picture from Vera Beaufort’s site. She has a lot that fit that description but I particularly liked this one. The intimacy of the spit contrasts beautiful with the control and objectification of his outfit.
Vera Beaufort is based out of Melbourne and in person sessions can be scheduled via her site. You can also find her on Bluesky.
Starting the week with some visual loveliness here, courtesy of Audrey Fatale. The tones here are beautiful, all black leather, shiny chrome and naked flesh. Looks like a wonderful place to be.
This was posted to Twitter by Audrey here.
I hadn’t intended two posts on this topic, but here we are.
Part of the reason is that Cosmopolitan also posted an article on it, and it contains just as much handwringing as they other articles I referenced in the last post. Apparently wrapping someone’s body in plastic wrap is a super advanced kink that you should never do at home. Weird. It goes on to advocate for things like using a weighted blanket or noise cancelling headphones, which is pretty weak sauce. How about just telling people to not put anything around or above the neck?
However, the main reason for a second post is that I saw this post on Twitter. It’s by LustTek and, as far as I can tell from other posts like this and this, they’re building their very own mummification machine. It’s the kind of crazy kinky idea that is both totally OTT but also kind of awesome. I love to see projects like this. Although of course, this one actually is really dangerous! You could solo wrap yourself to death. Let’s hope Euphoria don’t decide to use it in Season 4, otherwise hand wringing in the press will be off the charts.
More mummification does let me feature an expert in it – Mistress Hinako. I’ve featured her work before (for example here and here). The shot is particularly sexy, given the contrast between the extreme mummification and her casual pose.
You can find more from Mistress Hinako on her website, her blog, her instagram and twitter.