The beauty of dominant women
I thought this bondage set-up was both very sexy and a little unusual. Hogties aren’t rare, but I don’t think I’ve seen one combined with hooks and overhead straps in this way. It really adds an enhanced element of control, particularly when combined with the straps around the head. I’m also a fan of using leather over the more traditional rope.
This was created by the Chicago based pro-domme Mistress Hecuba and sourced via her Bluesky feed. She also has a LoyalFans available here.
I woke up feeling very tender and sore. Because I’m now over 50 years old that triggered the obvious thought process – “OMG. Am I dying? What new hell is this? Did I just sleep weird or is this a new normal? Do my muscles hate me now?”
Fortunately, after the sleep haze cleared, I realized what was going on. Ms Savannah Sly was in town. Last night therefore featured lots of beating, trampling, biting, pummeling and lots of other painful ‘ings. It was the really good kind of sore. Lots of happy bruises.
The bad news was I had a doctors appointment I’d forgotten about. It had been rescheduled multiple times and I hadn’t realized the final time landed just hours after a session. Always fun explaining that yes, I know I’m bruised and scratched, and yes, it was entirely consensual. It felt a bit like taking a car from a destruction derby to a mechanic. I know I did all these violent things to it and the bodywork now looks like hell, but you can still fix my brakes and check the engine light?
This is the fabulous Ms Savannah Sly as featured on her Bluesky Feed. If you’d like to support her organization New Moon – which does lots of great things for sex workers – then check it out here.
I’m safely back in Seattle after my UK trip. Hopefully, slightly more regular posting will now resume.
Before I left I was lucky enough to play with Lady Phoenix in her London space. That proved to be a fabulous way to round off my trip. We indulged in some electrical play, sounding, CBT, watersports and a lot of tease/denial and edging. Combining those activities with a really talented and lovely domme is guaranteed to send me home with a smile on my face.
Thanks to limited time in London I’d done a session just two days earlier with Mistress Miranda (as covered in my previous post). Scheduling sessions so closely together is always a risk because of the short recovery time. Delicate areas are sometimes still in their recovery phase. I think my nipples were described as ‘crusty’ which is a never an expression you want associated with an erogenous zone! Fortunately, Lady Phoenix worked with the slightly bruised goods I was presenting and judged the intensity of our play beautifully.
If you’re in the London area and interested in sessions, then I’d definitely suggest seeking Lady Phoenix out. She has a great central London space and it was a lot of fun to connect and play with her.
This image of Lady Phoenix is from her Bluesky feed. You can find all her other links here.
By now it seems that every fashion / lifestyle magazine has done some variation on the ‘Day with a Dominatrix’ article. Today it’s the turn of Australia’s Fashion Journal with this article featuring Vera Beaufort.
I’m featuring it here because I think it’s one of the better examples of its kind. Less sensational and voyeuristic and more in touch with the dynamics of a real session. The play described is a lot more formalized and ritualistic than my sessions but still has the ring of truth to it.
The other reason to feature it is that it gives me an excuse to post a sexy picture from Vera Beaufort’s site. She has a lot that fit that description but I particularly liked this one. The intimacy of the spit contrasts beautiful with the control and objectification of his outfit.
Vera Beaufort is based out of Melbourne and in person sessions can be scheduled via her site. You can also find her on Bluesky.
Starting the week with some visual loveliness here, courtesy of Audrey Fatale. The tones here are beautiful, all black leather, shiny chrome and naked flesh. Looks like a wonderful place to be.
This was posted to Twitter by Audrey here.
I hadn’t intended two posts on this topic, but here we are.
Part of the reason is that Cosmopolitan also posted an article on it, and it contains just as much handwringing as they other articles I referenced in the last post. Apparently wrapping someone’s body in plastic wrap is a super advanced kink that you should never do at home. Weird. It goes on to advocate for things like using a weighted blanket or noise cancelling headphones, which is pretty weak sauce. How about just telling people to not put anything around or above the neck?
However, the main reason for a second post is that I saw this post on Twitter. It’s by LustTek and, as far as I can tell from other posts like this and this, they’re building their very own mummification machine. It’s the kind of crazy kinky idea that is both totally OTT but also kind of awesome. I love to see projects like this. Although of course, this one actually is really dangerous! You could solo wrap yourself to death. Let’s hope Euphoria don’t decide to use it in Season 4, otherwise hand wringing in the press will be off the charts.
More mummification does let me feature an expert in it – Mistress Hinako. I’ve featured her work before (for example here and here). The shot is particularly sexy, given the contrast between the extreme mummification and her casual pose.
You can find more from Mistress Hinako on her website, her blog, her instagram and twitter.
Here’s a moment captured. Something lovely to start the weekend.
I originally stumbled across it via tumblr, but a bit of reverse image searching tells me this is Madame Lule, a Paris based Dominatrix and BDSM coach. She has any number of similarly striking photographs on her site, which is well worth exploring. If you’re in the Paris area, her session information can be found here.
Finishing up my series of scent themed posts with a bottom shot. Although I feel that part of the body is in a bit of a different category to the others featured.
Armpits, genitals and (to a lesser extent) feet have an ongoing natural odor. Unless you’ve just got our the shower or have gone crazy with deodorant, there’s an underlying scent that’s typically there. Bottoms are a bit more binary. The either don’t smell or they smell in a very different kind of way. That kind of scent play has its fans, but it’s more of a niche kink I think.
I believe this is Cybil Troy. I’m sure her hygiene is impeccable and her bottom therefore scented like a summer breeze.
I’m continuing the scent theme from the last couple of posts. After previously featuring panties and shoes, we’ve moving up the body to that other great scent center – armpits. I think they’re more of a niche interested compared to the previous sources, but they definitely have their fans.
I couldn’t decide which image to pick, so this is a two for one deal. The first is LA based Daddy An Li, in a shot from one of her clips. The second is Tokyo based Mistress Youko (more links available here). I’m a fan of keeping armpit hair, so I particularly appreciate this shot. For scent play it’s a real plus.
For anyone thinking about building their own home playspace, the NY Times has an article with some inspiration in it. It’s more of a lifestyle piece than a how to guide, but it’s always nice to see a positive mainstream BDSM article, even if it does include the obligatory 50 shades reference. For NYC based kinksters there’s also a shout out to Lucy Sweetkill and Nicholas Knight. The latter looks like an excellent option for anyone after custom built furniture on the east coast.
Shibari seems to be a common interest, almost to the point of cliche now. Personally, if I was going to build a custom space, I’d go high tech. Lots of rubber, straps, chrome and things that go slurp. Something like Mistress Miranda’s BDSM laboratory shown below. Less natural wood and meditative bondage, more rich sensation layering and mad scientists toys.
You can see more shots of Mistress Miranda’s amazing space on her site and from this post when I visited it back in 2023.