I had a lot of interesting comments to my post from a few days ago entitled ‘The Alpha Submissive‘. Sadly nobody had any hard data on the dubious theory that male submissives tends to be successful alpha types in daily life so, as usual, I’m going to be forced to make stuff up as I go along. With that proviso in mind, I thought I’d revisit the topic over the next few posts.
One point I should have made clear is that I’m not suggesting the contrary theory of submissives being particularly unsuccessful. I just suspect that the two factors are uncorrelated with career success, in much the same way that other sexual preferences appear to be.
Most comments agreed with me that the clients of pro-dommes are a skewed and unrepresentative sample set. However, I think it’s a mistake to assume that they’re an entirely uniform crowd of overpaid middle aged guys. When writing the original post I was put in mind of this article on two NYC pro-dommes. One of the dommes comes across as a scammer, and a great advertisement for doing your research before meeting anyone. The other is a real professional with a variety of clients.
Jesse, a 58-year-old transit worker, is probably her favorite; they often meet and chat about school and work before sessions. He even gets a discount from Georgia, who knows he’s strapped financially. “Every paycheck, I take a little bit of money out and put it in an envelope,” he says.
From the article Jesse sounds like a nice guy, but I doubt he’s the kind of person most people think of when they think of a pro-domme client.
I’m once again slightly stumped on what image I should feature for this post, so I’ll just go with something visually appealing from Men in Pain. I found this via the Classy Femdom tumblr.
I saw lots of working-class clients at the Studio. Also retirees/pensioners and men on disability. They were not “average” clientele, but they made up a substantial minority.
I had a particular soft spot for this elderly deaf man who saved up his money to come in for a spanking a few times a year. He was always so happy, because it was a special occasion for him. I tried to make it really good.
Hey Miss Margo,
Thanks for dropping by and sharing that data. It definitely lines up with what I’ve heard and been told elsewhere. The majority of clients are the classic middle class white guys, but there’s a good mix of people from other backgrounds as well. Given the comparative cost against income it shows just how important the play must be to them.
Personally I hope when I’m old that I’m the guy dommes are shaking their heads about and smiling. “Can you believe it?” They’ll say. “87 years old and still doing all that crazy stuff!” 🙂
-paltego