I’m returning here to my prior post on the question of what is owed when ending a relationship between a pro-domme and a client. What’s a respectful way to navigate that transition?
The obvious response is that it depends on the history. If you’ve played together intermittently and just a handful of times, then the answer is likely nothing. It’d be ruder to reach out to announce you’ll not be requesting another session than silently moving on. If you’ve developed a deep and personal relationship, where the financial aspect is only part of the arrangement, then the answer will be very context dependent and impossible to generalize about here. But how about the middle ground? What about an ongoing relationship, with regular encounters over an extended period? The sessions wouldn’t happen if the client wasn’t paying, yet there’s also a shared understanding and familiarity that has developed over time. What then?
I think this situation can be awkward for clients to navigate for a number of reasons. Firstly, pro-dommes all have very different ways they approach things. That’s not just in style of domination, but also protocols, approach to sessions, communication, expectations, etc. For some, reaching out to explain would be a form of time wasting. For others, it’d be common courtesy. It might be hard to judge which scenario applies to your case. It’s not exactly a question you can easily ask!
Another challenge is the fact that pro-dommes can and do retire with little to no notice. Or decide to move and practice their profession elsewhere. I’ve had both happen to me and it can be quite disconcerting. Obviously, a domme can manage her career however she wants, but the possibility of a sudden departure is now always at the back of my mind.
Ultimately, I think what we owe each other should be the same thing. If I’d expect unusual consideration from a pro-domme if she moved on, then I should extend the same courtesy if I choose end the relationship. Outside of that very rare situation, I think a thoughtful email is a very reasonable approach between long term professional play partners.
In this gentleman’s case, moving on doesn’t appear to be one of his current options, although hypothermia might be. I’m afraid I don’t have an attribution for the image.
Update: Thanks to my awesome readers I can now attribute this. It’s Princess Amber shooting for Brat Princess.
That picture is Princess Amber for bratprincessvideo.com.
See https://www.bratprincess.us/video-list?field_tags_tid=&title=Freezing
Thanks a lot! Updated the post.
Ok, so, I love this photo. I love images and scenarios where the mistress has to do literally nothing, and the misery just gets worse and worse.
Here is a favorite excerpt from Pieces of Margo from 2014:
” Houseboy kept looking at me. I was sitting in back defragmenting my hard drive. I think my laptop is dying. It gets really hot. One day soon it is going to burst into flames.
I told him to stop looking at me. I told him that I do not like a man in the locker room and the only reason he is allowed in back is so that he can sweep the floors.
He said sorry, but he was STILL looking at me, and I lost it. I lost my temper, which almost never happens.
I made him take his shirt, shoes, and socks off, threw a cup of water on his head, and left him outside on the roof for half an hour. It was 29* outside.
The cold gets miserable in a hurry. …
…By the time I came to collect him, the houseboy was all red and holding his hands in his armpits and his nose was running. I was in a bad mood, so I thought it was funny. He was unhappy, but I bet you anything that he jerked off thinking about it when he got home.”
Glad you like the photo. Personally I hate playing in the cold, so this isn’t one the floats my boat. Although a domme all wrapped up cozy and warm when outside does make a nice change!
Shame Margo isn’t writing much these days. Don’t remember that exact piece, but I did always enjoy her posts and thoughts.
-paltego
I have begged her to write a book, or a screenplay.
I follow her on Twitter, and it’s a nonstop ride. The ups, the downs, the bizarre, the crises, the mundane…it has it all. Miss Margo Adler @PiecesofMargo
Yes, I’m a twitter follower as well. She’s a great writer. The crises make for good posts but I’ve always got my fingers crossed for just an endless series of ups and happiness.
-paltego
Me too! For a person I only know through her writing, I truly wish her the best and hope for nothing but good things.
And as for being cold, I couldn’t agree more. It’s just that I love photos about pure dominance, submission, and helplessness.