Whenever I put up a post that casts a negative light on femdom and playing with professional dommes – as I just did – I worry I’ll put off someone who is tempted to explore kink or hire a pro-domme. So to assuage my fears and encourage anyone out there to take the plunge, I thought I’d share some personal statistics.
At this point I’ve done well over 200 professional sessions with a wide variety of different dommes. Out of all those sessions, I had…
- One that went bad that I covered previously.
- One that felt like a rip-off. It was in a Las Vegas hotel room and was a halfhearted unimaginative effort. I found myself in a cab on the Vegas strip – with piss still in my hair – 15 minutes before the session was even supposed to finish. The domme was relatively unknown and I wasn’t surprised to see her shutdown her site shortly afterwards.
- One two hour session that the domme was three hours later for. The volume of coffee I drank while waiting turned out to be more tortuous than the session itself.
- One session that was cancelled with me standing on the doorstep. The domme had forgotten she was moving house that day.
Those four events represent the total number of times I walked away significantly dissatisfied. For the other 200 or so sessions, I’ve had experiences that ranged from a fun time to the mind meltingly brilliant. That’s a way better success rate than my experiences with restaurants, movies, plays, spas, etc. I can’t guarantee you’ll always have a great kinky time if you hire a professional, but if my experiences are anything to go by, the odds are significantly in your favor.
This is a Club Pedestal event rather than a professional session, but it’s such a fun shot that I wanted to feature it. Found via this tweet and I believe that’s Ms Eva.
Paltego,
Based on your writings and experiences (with whom you have sessioned with), I believe you research well before choosing. I think that is why your numbers are so positive. You play with top notch dommes who are very good and reputable. It doesn’t take long to read your blogs to realize that you know what you are doing. Just my belief. Congrats on the degree of satisfaction – you reap what you sow. I also believe success and satisfaction is a function of yourself and how you approach sessions and show respect for professional dommes, as they are very intelligent and talented people.
Celeste
Thanks Celeste. I appreciate the very nice comment. I do try and do a fair amount of research on who I might session with and I always try to pick people I think are both experienced and compatible with me.
And yes, in my experience successful pro-dommes are very intelligent and talented people! It’s a profession that certainly requires a wide range of skills.
-paltego
Research is critical and one of the reasons your blog is so valuable. I’ve had probably close to 100 sessions, many with the same Los Angeles dommes you’ve written about. I am a collared slave of one. I’ve never had a bad session of the kind discussed in your blog. I had one triple session where my fear caused me to lose trust and stop. The Mistresses brought me back. If you think you want to play, research carefully and do it. I wish I had started earlier.
Yes, you’re right. About the research angle that is. Not sure sure about the value of the blog :-). Playing with experienced professionals who have good reputations in the community really helps minimize the risks of an unhappy experience. Although of course it’s impossible to remove that risk altogether.
Glad you’ve had so many positive experiences. Like you, I wish had started earlier.
-paltego