I am by no means a stoic and quiet masochist. I make noise. Lots of noise. Screams. Moans. Grunts. Growls. I like to claim it’s a sign of good communication from the bottom. I’m letting the top know where I’m at. That’s true, but realistically it’s also about me dealing with pain and letting myself simply go with the sensation. It’s energizing to not think and simply react.
I’ve never had a domme try to make me stay quiet, although a few have shoved a gag in when necessary. I therefore think the young lady in the drawing below is being particularly cruel. She’s positioned him teasingly across her legs, spanked him and shoved a vibrator into him. And now he has to stay quiet while she reads her book? That’s harsh. Particularly if she’s adding the odd spank or two between pages.
I found this on the Geek Domme tumblr. I think it’s fan art of two characters from a web comic called homestuck, but I’m not entirely sure.
I’d be a big chicken when it came to playing with a pro domme and I’d insist on a safe word. Tough to come out with that safe word if you’re gagged. Although with my wife Debbie and Karen, being gagged (especially with their panties – or mine) adds another level of submission that I enjoy.
RW
I’ve actually found it surprisingly easy to make myself understood with most gags. At least the standard ball/bit/plug style gags most pro dommes use. I wouldn’t try conveying anything too complex through one, but a repeated word that the domme is looking out for is OK. Mostly what they seem to do is muffle the sound. The panties style ones that pack the mouth, as you described, are definitely harder to talk through.
-paltego