What’s the most anxiety inducing part about meeting up with a new pro-domme? Is it finding her playspace the first time, using whatever set of hoops you have to jump through for that? Is it the moment you first go to knock on her door? Or maybe the moment just after getting naked and just before walking out to meet her?
I think those all are solid options, but for me the biggest stress is way before the actual session. It’s the pressing of the ‘submit form’ button on her website.
Filling the form is stressful in itself as I’ve written before. But that damn button is the worst. Click, blink and it’s gone. Your carefully curated application – that you’ve re-read and tweaked a dozen time – is loosed into the world. Off in the ether. Did it work? Who knows. Maybe it’s sitting in her inbox. Maybe it gotten eaten by internet gremlins. All we can do now is play the waiting game.
Some dommes respond almost immediately. Others can take a week or more. Which then raises the question – when do I reach out again? I don’t want to be the unknown asshole nagging someone whose just busy or on vacation. But I also don’t want to be sitting there waiting on a reply if the button sent the form straight down to hell. Which has happened to me on multiple occasions.
That also raises the question – how do I reach out if the form doesn’t seem to have worked? Filling it in again seems silly. If it worked you’re just repeating yourself and if it didn’t you’re wasting your time. Some dommes have public emails but a lot don’t. Reaching out via IM on social media is one option, but always feels like a last resort to me.
One thing I have found useful is monitoring social media for a sense of what the domme is doing. If they’re traveling, on vacation or obviously dealing with some issue, I assume it probably worked and they’re just busy. If they’re posting a lot about sessions and regular daily life then I’ll think about reaching out again if I haven’t heard back after one week.
One thing I do appreciate is when a domme lists on her website what her response process is. Some will even give the turnaround time you should expect, which is super helpful for reducing stress and knowing when it’s sensible to reach out to check on an application
Image shows the likely fate of new clients who nag pro-dommes unnecessarily about their session applications.