Slate has an advice column featuring a man who loves flirting, teasing, sexual tension and foreplay, but doesn’t enjoy the sex at the end of it all. The advice they give is reasonable, but seems to miss out on the obvious kinks that might align with his preferences. Tease and denial is definitely a thing, which coupled with some light flirty femdom, might be right up his alley. Lots of kinky activities puts the focus on the foreplay and less on the big-O.
One thing I’ve noticed as I’ve aged is that my preference has shifted from the goal of the destination to the joy of the journey. I wouldn’t go as far as the letter writer and say the ending isn’t worth it, but the principal pleasure is in extending the buildup and playing with the dynamics of arousal. There’s so much more than can be done and enjoyed in that headspace.
I believe this is Kanishka Sangabo Dias and Rahansa Sanuthi, two models from Sri Lanka.
Beautiful image, you always seem to find some outstanding ones somehow. Took me a while to understand the whole journey vs destination thing a few years ago, but its def becoming more and more of a thing for me in every aspect of my life.
Sexually I’m very much in your corner regarding tease/denial
Glad you enjoyed the image. There’s a lot of junk on tumblr’s but the occasional gem is out there!
-palego
Thank you for this.
Maybe it is my age or maybe it is that I’m getting deeper into sub mentality, but I feel like deliberately coming is out of place in a scene. The adrenaline rush from pain and being dominated is enough of a pleasure. Coupled with a moment of relaxation and aftercare, what more do you want? Of course YMMV.
I think it depends how it’s done. I think if it organically flows as part of the scene it can work well. But yes, it can also seem like a weird transition if it’s not part of the larger dynamic.
I should write a post on this topic!
-paltego
Please do! Looking forward to it.