Anyone who thinks being kinky makes them special should probably think again. According to The Journal of Sex Research, interpreted via this article in Maxim magazine, almost 50% of adults have unconventional sexual desires. Which kind of raises the question: At what point does unconventional become conventional? If kinky people make it to 51% of the population do we have to start describing non-kinky people as the unconventional ones?
Of course sometimes sexual desires can be complicated to pigeonhole in a simple classification system. Is this scene exhibitionism, public humiliation, shoe fetishism or simple D/s? Whatever it is, I think it puts the pair of them into the ‘unconventional’ half of the population.
Hi paltego,
Funny seeing this photo from Japan.
When we lived there, one of Em’s protocols for me was that when greeting her in public, I must drop to my knees and kiss her show. There were situations when she would indicate that I shouldn’t do that but it was always her choice in the moment either signaled with a finger pointing down or not. Mostly, I had to drop to my knees and show her proper respect.
I suppose that could be considered a bit over the line for some folks who think it’s not appropriate to consensually involve the public. I guess we have to own it, right or wrong. Tokyo is the biggest city in the world and quite impersonal at times. I’ve seen commuters step over bodies on train platforms without breaking stride.
Those days seem distant now but form the basis of many fond memories and insights into what makes us tick.
Best,
scott
Hey scott,
Thanks for sharing that. Sounds like a nice memory to have!
Probably not something to try in a small town, but I think people just tend to roll with whatever in the big cities. Although no matter what size the city, it’d have to be a pretty spectacular relationship for me to get up the nerve to do that!
-paltego
This conversation brings up an interesting factor: the surrounding social climate. In Japan, one is led to believe at least, such a display is apparently considered acceptable; not nearly the stiff-necked prudery that one finds in the UK or the US, and perhaps Germany, say. (and, someone will add, prime territory for establishing a femdomocratic society. It could happen!). In the aforementioned up-tight places, law enforcement takes such things quite negatively, although in Germany under the Nazis, that sort of treatment was acceptable, even laudable, in the government’s eyes, when practiced upon members of a particular sub=group. The same was true in much of the last century in the southern US, with regard to a particular racial group, and is being repeated, today, in some immigrant communities, more in anger that in dominance.
Nevertheless, a culture where politeness verges on D/s shows promise. As Folsom Street in San Francisco demonstrates. it can be done.