If you celebrate Christmas then I hope you have a happy one. And if you don’t, then I hope all the festive bullshit spreading across the web at this time of year hasn’t been too annoying.
I’m mindful that this can be a miserable time of year for some people. Family situations can make life difficult. If you find yourself dealing with those kind of issues, or dealing with an absence of friends and family, you have my sympathies. I can actually trace my involvement in BDSM to a depressing Christmas period. All my friends were out of town. I had no family in the US. I was single and I was lonely. With nothing to do but watch bad Christmas movies and browse the web I decided that I needed to make a change. I needed to figure out if these fantasies I had for years were meaningful or important to me. After a lot of web browsing and dithering, I scheduled a 1 hour session with a local pro-domme, and the rest is history. There aren’t too many single moments in time I can point to as life changing, but that’s certainly one of them.
Obviously seeing a pro-domme is not for everyone. But if you’re reading this and in the same situation I was in, then I’d urge you to try and realize your fantasies the best way you can. Go to a munch. Talk to your partner. Create a fetlife profile. Research the local pro-dommes. Use whatever approach works best for your situation. You don’t want to spend your life regretting what might have been.
It’s traditional at this time for blogs like this one to feature a festive themed BDSM image and wish everyone a happy holiday. Unfortunately I find mixing Santa and kink is weird and unappealing. There are a few good images out there (e.g. the first one in this post from hmp and what Mistress Sidonia came up with) but mostly it’s a weird mishmash of mismatched elements. So I’ll simply feature an image I like and wish everyone the very best for the season.
Best holiday wishes to you, too.
I’ve been posting “holiday themed” pictures on Tumblr all weekend, but I have to agree – there’s something that doesn’t quite mix when you try to imagine kink and Xmas themes, and I’ve been passing up more shots than I’m posting because they just look… off or something.
I hope that you’re less lonely this holiday, and looking forward to another good year.
When it comes to holiday themed shots I find there are a few that work, typically the more abstract ones, but slapping a red outfit an white trim on the usual models just seems weird to me.
As for being lonely, I hope the post didn’t come across as too maudlin. I had a relaxing and enjoyable Christmas this year with friends, and wouldn’t want to try and portray myself as lonely or suffering through the holiday season. There were a couple of experiences several years ago that were less fun, but they actually ended up changing my life. I just wanted to communicate that aspect of transition and encourage anyone in a similar situation to me to also make that jump (if possible).
-paltego
Your comments are generally cool, good, level-headed. Thanks. Keep it up
Thanks Mike. Glad you enjoy the blog.
-paltego
You’re too kind – wasn’t sure if it was funny or just deeply disturbing… well that’s sex for you.
I think was both…which is just fine in my book 🙂
I’ll take funny and disturbing over a Santa hat on a random naked model any day of the week!
-paltego