I’ve never been involved in cuckolding. I’m not sure I ever will be. But I do find it a fascinating topic.
I think part of that fascination is to do with the different ways it can manifest itself. Just looking at my blogroll demonstrates that. I apologize in advance if I mischaracterize anyone here, but I think it’s very clear there are quite distinct approaches described. Vanessa seems to have one of the more traditional approaches. She goes out and fucks guys, and enjoys rubbing it in her husbands face (quite literally). Scott and Em also play with the humiliation angle, but the action often involves Scott as well, even if that just means he’s present in the room. It’s more of a pair plus one, rather than two distinct pairs featuring a single female. Then there’s Suzanne, whose relationship seems to be more of a trio, with her sissy husband playing a very intimate role in her sexual couplings. And of course there are those bloggers like Axe who personally dislike the general idea of cuckolding.
As someone who doesn’t kink on emotional masochism or humiliation I tend to side with Axe’s point of view. I certainly get the activity at an intellectual level, but it doesn’t typically push my buttons sexually. However, it’s such a complex dynamic that I find it hard to say for sure. For example, I can imagine a tease and denial type cuckold play that could be very hot. That wouldn’t be a type of rejection or humilation, but simply temporary denial and sadism via sexual frustration. After all, a lot of submissives kink on chastity, orgasm control and very obvious female pleasure. Of course for that style of play, you have to almost completely set aside the emotional aspects of it, which for others is exactly the appeal. As I said, it’s a complicated topic.
I’ll leave you with this shot, originally from Cuckold Sessions, I found it on Femdom Archive tumblr. It looks like it’s taken from an intro-sequence, with a helpful cuckold preparing his mistress for her fun to come.
A brief comment on this post, simply that I find myself in agreement with you regarding the tease and denial, but not certain how I would react to the actual situation.
My main purpose in writing is to say how much I enjoy your blog and I read it most days. I’m also appreciative of your work collecting other resources so they are in one place.
Thanks for your hard work and it brings me much enjoyment.
Thanks ww. Always nice to hear from an appreciative reader. The various comments and emails I get about it always make my day. Hope it continues to entertain!
-paltego
I have some great cuckold stories and a good descriptive article on cuckolding on my blog. Not sure if you have seen those or not. There are many aspects that I personally don’t subscribe to on this subject, but the beauty is what works for those involved. Some men are only interested in clean up and after care or prep. Some into humilation etc…. the main point is what is needed and fulfilled by those who participate. And of course there are some abuses to this lifestyle that do it an injustice and turn it into a farce.
Good to see some attention here. 🙂
~ Vista
Hey Vista,
Yes, I did think of you when writing this post. I remember one of your stories that you shared on this very topic! The only reason I didn’t mention you in the post itself is that you were a little harder to characterize and fit into my sequence of examples 🙂 Certainly agree that beauty is what works to those involved. It’s one of those area where defining that beauty really depends on some very complex perspectives.
Cheers,
-paltego
LOL… Yes… my blog tends to be all over the place!
Take care!
~ Vista
Although submissive, my attraction to femdom is not based on a need to be degraded, so the idea of cuckoldry based on the submissive’s worthlessness is a big turn-off for me. However, in recent days I’ve started to view it in a more positive light.
If you take a relationship between a Domme and her submissive; a relationship based on one’s need to submit, to please etc and the other’s acceptance of the other’s submissive compulsions, then a submissive allowing (yes allowing) his dominant partner to explore her attraction to other men, while he demurely and with immense self-discipline abstains, can potentially be a beautiful thing. We’re treading on thin ice here but then again in the realm of bdsm we always are.
So I can potentially see it being a mutually beneficial experience, based on love and understanding. Provided that there’s loads of communication and trust between the two partners.
That’s definitely an interesting way to look at it. I think that approach fits into Suzanne’s style of cuckolding, where it’s all about please the domme but not necessarily about degrading or humiliating the sub. The potential variety of ways it can be approached is one of the things I find so fascinating about cuckolding as an activity.
Although whatever approach is taken, communication and trust are going to be key, as you suggest.
Thanks for the comment.
-paltego