After a post on a terrible domme, I feel like I should balance it up with something about a terrible submissive. Sadly, that’s not a difficult thing to do. If you read any lifestyle domme’s blog there are inevitably multiple articles on dealing with crazy letters from obnoxious guys. Similarly, most blogs featuring professional domination have plenty of posts on assholes and weirdness. So the problem here isn’t finding an article to feature, it’s finding what I think is the right one.
What I’ve decided to go with is one from Mistress Matisse’s (sadly dormant) blog. In it she writes about Mr. Defensive – the kind of guy who can’t make peace with his desires and sexuality. He’s conflicted about kink and it comes through as a need to distance himself from what he is doing and being guilty about why he enjoys it.
I picked that link for a couple of reasons. Firstly, I think it’s a surprisingly common problem. I’ve observed many different dommes talking and writing about this kind of behavior. Matisse’s client is just one of the more spectacularly bad examples. Secondly, I think it’s very sad. Rude assholes who get all their ideas about femdom from porn might be annoying, but they’re at least obvious and ignorable. Being so unhappy in your own skin that it pisses off people trying to create a good experience for you seems so much sadder.
Here’s a guy who definitely doesn’t seem to be in touch with his inner kinky self. Calling a domme a ‘two faced bitch’ is probably not going to win you any submissive of the year awards either. The artist is of course the distinctive and incomparable Eric Stanton.