Cosmopolitan Magazine has an article out celebrating femdom and male submission as the ‘hot new thing.’ It always makes me happy to see positive femdom coverage in mainstream media. Destigmatizing it for women who might want to give it a try is great. At the same time, these kind of articles tend to have their fair share of eye rolling comments and this is no exception.
I was particularly amused by this part…
For many, there isn’t a traditionally sexual element — Sarah’s submissives, for example, have their genitals locked in chastity cages.
I mean I guess it’s not traditional to lock your dick up, but it’s sure as hell a sexual element. Chastity is all about sex, even if there’s no actual sex being had.
The other annoying part of the article is the references to the ‘default’ of male domination and this new ‘trend’ changing things up. When I think of actual BDSM and kinky content creators over the years, femdom has always been a huge part of it. The centralizing of men in the default dominant role in kink came from societies stereotypes, filtering from there into conventional porn, not the other way around. As one of the submissives interview in the article puts it…
maybe we’re all more open about where the baseline of kinky sexuality has always been
The artwork is by the great Eric Stanton. A man celebrating femdom decades before American society decided it was safe for women to be in charge of their own credit.
Great post, great image, and agree with you on all counts! Whenever I’m locked into my ‘chastity’ cage, unchaste sexy thoughts (focused on the key holder) are all I can think of.
And the notion that male domination has been (and therefore somehow always should be) the default was always infuriating to me.