Femdom Links

This is a general collection of useful links to femdom forums, resources, articles, aggregators, pro-domme directories, etc. If you’ve any links that you think would be appropriate to add here then either leave a comment or email me.

Communities and forums

  • All Star Doms. Established by a group of well known pro-dommes, this provides a number of openly browsable forums. Some are on specific femdom themes and some are on individual pro-dommes.
  • Collar N Cuffs. A dedicated femdom site with forums, blogs, photos, etc. You need to complete their free sign-up before you can browse it.
  • The Compound Message Forum. Part of the collection of sites run by Domina Irene Boss. Most of the forums are related to her playspace and media, but there are also a couple of general discussion forums. Everything is browsable without registering.
  • Fetlife. By far the largest BDSM community site, this is the kinky equivalent of Facebook. That comparison holds not only for its size and functionality, but also for all the data sharing and management issues that their business models create.
  • The Hang. The set of forums associated with the Max Fisch Domina Guide. Primarily focused on pro-domme interaction, but there are also general discussion on femdom, kink, health issues, etc. It’s all openly browsable, but the moderation is erratic and it can sometimes take weeks to register as a new user.
  • The Reddit Femdom. I wouldn’t go here looking for expert advice, but it can be a fun place to dip in and out of.

Pro-domme resources

Directories

  • DomBoss Domina Directory. Run by the famous Domina Irene Boss, this has both a US and World directory. Unfortunately it’s not sorted by state or city, which makes it less than ideal to navigate (although there is a search function).
  • Femme Fatale Directory. One of the most modern and slickest looking directories. There’s no overall list to browse, but the search function works really well and there’s a pictures for every mistress.
  • HogSpy. This has daily updates publicizing events related to specific pro-dommes. e.g. Visiting new cities, moved playspaces, updated their sites, etc.
  • Max Fisch Domina Guide. For a long time this was the definitive on-line pro-domme directory. These days it’s updated erratically and there are a lot of dead links in it. However, it still remains a good starting point when looking for a pro-domme.
  • MzLisa’s Domina Guide. Most a US centric list, with just a few international entries.
  • Pandemos. A lot of links although a good number of them seem out of date.

Personal recommendations

I’ve neither the time nor the inclination to maintain a lengthy directory of pro-domme sites. However, I will list the pro-dommes I’ve done sessions with and, most importantly, that I would happily recommend to others. I’m sure there are many other great dommes in the cities below, but these are the ones I can speak to personally. In several cases I’ve posted descriptions and photographs of my experiences.

Aggregator sites

  • Femdom City. Provides links to an incredible number of femdom sites of all different types. The only problem is that they’re all mixed together into a simple alphabetical list, which makes finding anything tricky.
  • Femdom Planet. Another site with a vast number of links. Fun for randomly browsing, but not great for tracking down a specific type of site.
  • Femdom TGP. Mostly links to porn galleries and video clips. The layout is crowded and hard to follow, but it can be fun to play femdom porn roulette by clicking around on it.

Guidance and reference material

  • Ambrosio’s BDSM site. This has long list of articles and essays on various kinky topics, although it’s not specific to femdom.
  • Collar N Cuffs resources. This site has a fantastic list covering all sorts of topics. There are both essay and video tutorials, on everything from making rope gags to prostrate milking.
  • Jay Wiseman. A few essays on general BDSM topics, including a well known series on breathplay.
  • Seekers. Has a lot of short articles covering definitions, play styles, technique, etc.
  • Submissive Guide. A lot of its posts are written from the perspective of female submission, but I think a large fraction of them can be applied to male submission as well.
  • Tickleberry. Originally this mainly featured information on chastity play, but it seems to have branched out to cover things like pegging and spanking as well.

Interesting writing / listening

  • Clarisse Thorn is, in her owns words, a “feminist, pro-BDSM sex-positive activist.” Her writing is less about the mechanics of BDSM, and a lot more about it’s interaction with relationships, self-image and sexual politics.
  • Masocast. A podcast run by Axe that features interviews with kinky people in NYC.
  • Maybe Maimed but Never Harmed and Maybe Days. Both of these sites are run by maymay, one of the most outspoken and well known (as far as that goes) male submissives on the web. He’s a fairly polarizing character, and I’m not personally a fan of his attitude or approach. But even if you don’t agree with him, I think his posts are worth reading.
  • Savage Love and Savage Lovecast. The advice column/podcast from Dan Savage. Neither are explicitly about kink, but they often touch on it, and Dan is always worth listening to.
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