There’s a common theory from the anti-porn crowd that the more porn you look at the more extreme your tastes will be. It’s a typical slippery slope argument. One day you’re getting off to 60’s playboy covers, and a few months later you’re tracking down pictures of oiled up Roman gladiators doing unspeakable things to each other with a rubber trident and a well trained octopus.
It’s obviously bullshit, as my 20+ years of looking at naughty pictures demonstrates. My tastes may have broadened, but they haven’t got significantly more depraved. In fact, in many ways I’ve got more critical of unrealistic or extreme imagery. I’m now drawn to scenes that have a stronger connection with reality and ones that I can almost imagine doing myself.
For example, what caught my eye in this image was the carefully placed padded bolster in his back and the tight but not too tight straps. It’s very hot bondage, that’s certainly difficult to pull off this neatly in reality, but it’s not crazy or an impossible physical position. Even his verbalization, with the moans and coughs through the bit gag is relatable.
I’m afraid I don’t know the original artist for this work. As usual, if you can help me attribute it, then please leave a comment.
When I was a teenager, before I’d seen any porn, I used to imagine choking my objects of desire and cutting them with razor blades (didn’t know knife play was actually a thing at that point). In the years since, watching porn and engaging in BDSM irl these are not scenarios I fantasise about anymore because too much can go wrong, and it’s too mean! I’m a much softer kind of domme these days. So yeah, don’t know what the opposite of a slippery slope is, but that’s what happened.
Thanks for the thoughtful comment. It’s interesting how to hear how your play has evolved, and how your fantasy and reality interact together. It’s clearly a two way exchange, which I think a lot of people miss. I suspect that’s probably because most people don’t get to act out fantasies, so they remain kind of free floating self contained things. Active kinky people get to try elements out in RL, and therefore develop them with feedback and emotional context. Hmmm. That could be a post topic in itself 🙂
-paltego