Hindsight

Apologies in advance. This is going to be a self-indulgent ramble.

Writing my last post got me thinking about my interests as a child. As I mentioned there, when I was very young I liked model villages and dioramas. I remember how much fun I had building shoebox sized miniature gardens for competitions in the local village fête. When I got older – maybe 10 or so – I was really into creating my own board games. I used to make the boards and pieces and spend ages coming up with complex rules and figuring how they should all work together. As a teenager I loved computers and writing my own videogames. I learnt Basic and 6502 assembly and spent hours creating self-contained worlds full of sprites I’d plotted across many sheets of graph paper.

In hindsight there’s a common element to all these interests – control. Well OK, they’re also all nerdy and solitary activities. But control is the bit that’s relevant to this blog. I was the God of the miniature environments I created. Board games might involve other players, but they all had to adopt a defined role and follow the rules I laid down. With a computer – particularly the 8 bit ones of that era – I controlled everything they did. The game world would look and sound just as I made it. They were the ultimate rule followers.

I guess it’s therefore not too surprising that I grew into an adult that has major kinks around control. I never really made the connection before, but that underlying desire to control or be controlled was clearly manifesting in my childhood interests as much as it does in my sexual ones today.

Bondage is a kink closely associated with control and was the first kinky thing I can remember fantasizing about. Even when I didn’t know what kink or bondage really was.

This artwork is (I believe) by Junji Ito, a Japanese manga artist.

Alexandra Aderhold

After last post’s old school domination theme, we’re moving onto new school kink and fetish. This image is by German photographer Alexandra Aderhold. It’s a stunning shot, pulling off the trick of being both aesthetically and erotically charged. I want to be in it and yet also have it hanging on my wall.

You can see more from Alexandra, including a book of photographs she’s published, on her professional site. There’s also an interview with her available here. I originally stumbled across the image via labstrakts.

Wrapped

This amazing image comes courtesy of Elise Graves and Heavy, sourced via this tweet. You can see a clip of Elise doing the wrapping in this clip.

I’ve done a lot of plastic wrap scenes, in a variety of different positions, but never a suspended one like this. I’ll have to add it to my bucket list. If you’ve never tried plastic wrap, then I’d absolutely recommend giving it a shot. It doesn’t have the classic appeal of rope or chains, but it can be great for intense scenes. Easy to apply but very immobilizing, making it pretty hard to beat for functionality vs effort needed. Just remember it can pretty hot once you’re swaddled and be sure to keep safety shears nearby. Oh, and if you’re trying it for the time, start with a simple horizontal position, not a suspended one!

Wise Words

@heavy, a very experienced bondage bottom, has some wise words on anchoring body parts.

Friendly reminder that when doing bondage, please remember what is anchored. If someone is standing or even kneeling and passes out/ falls and their balls, neck, hair, etc. are locked to something you are seriously going to harm someone. Potentially permanently.

I’d guess a lot of my readers are likely to be bondage bottoms rather than tops, but you should still be aware of what’s going on and willing to speak up if it looks unsafe. After all, it’ll be your delicate bits getting ripped off if the worst happens.

I remember doing a scene many years ago in a sex swing. I was on my back and the domme was tying various bits of me to the surrounding metal frame. However, the swing was a lightweight portable affair, built out of the kind of thin metal tubing you’d expect in a cheap sun lounger. The joints all seemed loosely pushed together, held with friction and I could feel it flexing as I moved. At one point the domme wrapped thin rope around my testicles and tied them to the overhead frame. Looking back now I shudder when I think of it, but at the time I was inexperienced, floating in subspace and nervous about topping from the bottom. So even though it felt dangerous, I didn’t say anything.

These days, if the same thing happened again, I’d speak up and pause the scene. If the swing had broken and I’d fallen then it could have been a very nasty situation. I’m a CBT fan, but getting my nuts ripped off by bondage on a shoddy sex swing is one of my limits. I should also add that the domme in question isn’t someone I’ve written about here or done more scenes with.

I’ll finish with a gorgeous bondage shot featuring Heavy and NYC domme Roxanne Waters, as shot by Natasha Gornick. All experts in their field, you can be sure any scene with them will be managed safely.

You can find Heavy’s twitter feed here and his professional HeavyBondage4Life site here. Roxanne Water’s twitter is here and this is her professional site.

Morning Coffee

That first coffee of the day is always a pleasure. A chance to relax, catch up on the news and see how the slave you tied to the kitchen table is getting on. Really sets you up for the rest of the day.

I found this on some random tumblr. I think, given the style and setting, it’s by Charlotte Douleur. I featured another lovely shot of hers back in September and I’m guessing this is from the same series.

Updated: Thanks to a comment from the creator herself, I can confirm it as a shot from Charlotte Douleur. Although this one is from Bali, where the previous image is from a different series in Italy.

Charlotte Douleur is a London based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Twitter feed here.

Bound and Bagged

I’m still fighting off the effects of the seasonal virus I managed to acquire as a special Christmas gift to myself. So I’ll stick to posting hot kinky eye candy to keep things ticking over here while I recover.

This is Mistress Inka with her bound and bagged slave. It’s a very sexy and sensual shot, with a lovely mix of textures. I sourced it via Twitter and you can see more shots from the same scene here and here.

Mistress Inka is an Edinburgh based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Twitter feed here.

Objectification Fetish

I was reading back through the interview with Troy Orleans I featured in yesterday’s post and this part stood out to me.

…I have an objectification fetish, and I don’t use the word fetish lightly. Objectifying— even just saying the word makes me feel a little tingle. It’s something that’s really thrilling for me. When I get to put someone in this heavy bondage and have them fully immobilized and anonymized, they become this shape, this physical sculpture that I’ve created now hanging in my salon—that to me is incredibly arousing, erotic, and powerful.

People often talk about the appearance of bondage but reading this made me think about all the different types of bondage aesthetic. The one most people probably think of in that context is Shibari, particularly suspension scenes. However, there’s also smooth parcel like bondage, old fashioned rope bondage, predicament bondage, medical bondage, etc. All have their own particular aesthetic. The kind Troy is referring to – heavy use of leather and metal to control and objectify someone – isn’t a common bondage look in either kink or mainstream worlds, but for me it’s by far the hottest kind.

I remember doing a session with Troy a few years ago and she had me suspended in a bodybag as shown here. When everything was rigged with many ties, locks and layers, she asked if she could cover my face. Not so much for my benefit, but for what she described as the aesthetic effect. She just wanted the scene to look right as she imagined it. I can’t handle heavy hoods but we came up with a lightweight material hood that I could live with. Immobilized anonymization was achieved and I became that physical sculpture hanging in her studio.

Here’s a lovely shot of Troy at work creating another of her pieces of art. This is from her Twitter feed.

Troy Orleans Interview

Petit Mort magazine has a lengthy and fascinating interview with Troy Orleans. As most of my readers probably know, Troy is a world class domme and rigger based in NYC. I can speak to her skills from experience – for example here and here. She’s always one of the first people I reach out to when I know I’m heading to NYC.

I’ll probably dig into the article a little more in a future post. In the meantime I’ll leave you with an image Troy shared recently on her Twitter feed. It’s a very sexy shot, although I think exactly why that is would be hard to describe to a non-kinky person. Blurred elbows and ratchet straps aren’t exactly classic pin up material, but I do love this.

You can find Troy’s professional site here.

More Tip of the Moon

Hanging out with friends in Vegas hasn’t left a lot of blogging time. Plus, with age comes much longer recovery times from any late nights. I now need a good few hours the following day in a quiet darkened room to get over the after effects.

I haven’t yet tried adding bondage to my recovery period, but maybe that might help? It can be comforting. Plus, endorphins are good for hangovers. Although maybe not anything as stringent as that on this young man.

Artwork is from Tip of the Moon who I first featured here back in August.

I sourced this via this tweet. You can see more from Tip of the Moon on Twitter, on Deviant Art and on SubscribeStar.

Bridge Variation

I’m not sure if this’d be a good or bad pose for my wonky lower back, but I’d  be willing to give it a shot. My yoga teacher has done a lot of bridge variations with me, but sadly none have featured genital bondage and electroshock therapy.

This was posted by the fabulous Elise Graves. Funnily enough, I remember doing a scene with her in Seattle a few years back where she grabbed my genitals and  pulled hard to ‘encourage’ me into a bridge pose. Clearly it’s a position she enjoys inflicting. I don’t remember getting quite the same back arch as @UtmostRestraint has managed here.

You can see a lot more from Elise on her Bondage Liberation Site.