Wise Words

@heavy, a very experienced bondage bottom, has some wise words on anchoring body parts.

Friendly reminder that when doing bondage, please remember what is anchored. If someone is standing or even kneeling and passes out/ falls and their balls, neck, hair, etc. are locked to something you are seriously going to harm someone. Potentially permanently.

I’d guess a lot of my readers are likely to be bondage bottoms rather than tops, but you should still be aware of what’s going on and willing to speak up if it looks unsafe. After all, it’ll be your delicate bits getting ripped off if the worst happens.

I remember doing a scene many years ago in a sex swing. I was on my back and the domme was tying various bits of me to the surrounding metal frame. However, the swing was a lightweight portable affair, built out of the kind of thin metal tubing you’d expect in a cheap sun lounger. The joints all seemed loosely pushed together, held with friction and I could feel it flexing as I moved. At one point the domme wrapped thin rope around my testicles and tied them to the overhead frame. Looking back now I shudder when I think of it, but at the time I was inexperienced, floating in subspace and nervous about topping from the bottom. So even though it felt dangerous, I didn’t say anything.

These days, if the same thing happened again, I’d speak up and pause the scene. If the swing had broken and I’d fallen then it could have been a very nasty situation. I’m a CBT fan, but getting my nuts ripped off by bondage on a shoddy sex swing is one of my limits. I should also add that the domme in question isn’t someone I’ve written about here or done more scenes with.

I’ll finish with a gorgeous bondage shot featuring Heavy and NYC domme Roxanne Waters, as shot by Natasha Gornick. All experts in their field, you can be sure any scene with them will be managed safely.

You can find Heavy’s twitter feed here and his professional HeavyBondage4Life site here. Roxanne Water’s twitter is here and this is her professional site.

Pretty in Pink

I don’t feature a huge amount of cross-dressing here. Not because I dislike the kink. I’ve had fun with Savannah occasionally putting me in a frock and added a bit of lippy and blush. I just struggle to find aesthetically pleasing shots that lean into the positive aspects of it.

This very cute and sexy shot is a happy exception. Like yesterday’s post, there’s some lovely color coordination going on between domme and submissive.

I found this via a random tumblr. A bit of research on its source took me to this tweet and Araity’s feed, who I believe is the submissive (OnlyFans here). I think the domme is the London based Mistress Belle.

Warmer Days

As an arctic blast of cold air settles across most of North America, here’s a shot to remind us all of warmer, sunnier times. I love the color coordination between her dress and his bondage accouterments. It’s those little touches that really make an image work.

This is Alexis Chantelle, a dominant companion based in NYC. You can find her professional site here. I sourced this image via this tweet.

Unhappy Feet

Here’s an unfortunate tale of a foot fetishist whose kinky confession cost him dearly. He used to give his wife foot massages and – presumably – she enjoyed them. After coming clean about his kink, she no longer wants to engage with him or accept a massage.

I do kind of get her initial reaction. There was a sexual thing happening that she wasn’t necessarily aware of or consented to. But I’d hope common sense and the idea of mutual benefit would win out in the end. If I discovered one of my friends was getting a sexual thrill from buying me expensive drinks it would give me an initial ‘ick’. But I’m pretty certain that I’d quickly get over it and line up some single malts. Let’s hope this man’s wife gets to the same conclusion.

I sourced this image via a tumblr. I’m afraid I don’t have an original source.

Street Pose

Here’s a group of friends having some fun at what looks like a street festival. Obviously I’m a fan of what’s going on with the couple in the center, but I’m also amused by the guy standing behind and looking down. I’m assuming he’s a friend of the guy on the floor and is slowly arriving at the conclusion that maybe his buddy is just a little bit more into it than he might have guessed.

I’m afraid I’ve no original source for this. I found it via a tumblr post.

Guido Crepax

This artwork is by the Italian artist Guido Crepax. Based on this tweet it’s circa 1980. Searching through past posts, I’m kind of surprised to discover I’ve not featured his art before. He was a significant creator of erotic art through the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s, with the character Valentina being his most famous creation. While he wasn’t a femdom illustrator, kink is a common theme in his work. The Lambiek Comiclopedia has a good article on him if you’re interested to learn more.

Commitment

The shot below is from Team Rinryu, the folks behind the Yapoo Market series. Those that have seen their videos, follow their Twitter or read my previous posts on them (for example here, here or here) will know they do some pretty extreme content. Toilet play and scat often features prominently.

The thing that always surprises / impresses me about shots like the one below isn’t the poop and pee consumption. I totally get the appeal there. That’s objectification, intimacy and humiliation all wrapped into one crazy kink. The bit that impresses me is the multiple dommes being around while it’s happening. People don’t normally mind the smell of their own shit. And for the guy on the receiving end, disgust and nastiness is a key part of the kink. But how about having to sit around watching someone else do the pooping? Imagine being fourth or fifth domme in the line and having to keep the scene going while everyone is evacuating their bowels in front of you.  That’s real commitment to shooting content.

Image was sourced via this tweet. If their content intrigues you but you don’t speak Japanese, they do have instructions for foreign buyers on their site.

Happy 2024!

A new year is upon us. I hope all my readers made it out of 2023 in good spirits and have a great 2024.

As far as kink goes, my 2023 wasn’t exactly overflowing with play. I did have some great sessions with Savannah when she visited Seattle and I got to meet up with the fabulous Mistress Miranda in London. Other than that, it was a quiet year. That wasn’t helped by a bunch of scheduled sessions in NYC getting cancelled due to my first dose of COVID.

I’m aiming to fit in more play in through 2024, getting back to my pre-pandemic average. Los Angeles, San Francisco, Chicago and a return to NYC should all be on the cards at some point. Given it’s an election year in the US, I’ll definitely need something to distract me from the insanity.

Good luck to any reader who similarly wants to up their kinky game in 2024. And if you’ve never indulged in kink but have been thinking about it, then maybe make it a new year’s resolution? That was pretty much how I ended up doing my first session (as I wrote about here).

I’ll leave you with a shot of someone who is right at the top of my list to play with again – Domina Yuki. She’s an amazing domme and I can’t believe we’ve not played together since my last SF trip back in 2020.

Morning Coffee

That first coffee of the day is always a pleasure. A chance to relax, catch up on the news and see how the slave you tied to the kitchen table is getting on. Really sets you up for the rest of the day.

I found this on some random tumblr. I think, given the style and setting, it’s by Charlotte Douleur. I featured another lovely shot of hers back in September and I’m guessing this is from the same series.

Updated: Thanks to a comment from the creator herself, I can confirm it as a shot from Charlotte Douleur. Although this one is from Bali, where the previous image is from a different series in Italy.

Charlotte Douleur is a London based pro-domme. You can find her professional site here and her Twitter feed here.

Shock the Cock

It’s becoming increasingly difficult to distinguish between hardcore kinky shenanigans and new age health treatments. Cross over examples in the past have been vaginal steaming, coffee enemas and drinking pee.  The latest crazy therapy is shockwave treatment for the penis. According to this Guardian article, tech CEO Bryan Johnson ‘invented’ the approach.

“You have a wand and you sit in a chair and then the technician uses the wand and basically shocks your penis,” Johnson explained. He went on to say that the treatment does the same thing exercise does to the rest of the body, where you are creating micro-injuries so that the tissue rebuilds itself stronger than before. He rated the pain of the shocks as seven out of 10, and nine out of 10 at the tip.

I hadn’t realized that all my years of CBT play were actually strengthening my penis. Given the number of shocks I’ve received from leather clad ‘technicians’ by now I should have the ability to crack concrete with a well placed thrust. Admittedly, my shocks were mostly of the electrical kind, where I think Bryan’s technicians are using sound to generate shockwaves, but a micro-injury is a micro-injury however it’s created. Who knew all those kinky sessions were creating the penile equivalent of an Olympic athlete in my pants?

Given the crazy state of US healthcare, I’m guessing the cost of this ‘treatment’ is astronomical. Bryan should try looking up some of his local pro-dommes. I’m sure they’d be happy to inflict any kind of injury based strengthening routine he’d like to try. He could probably get his nipples and butt strengthened as well for no extra change.

This is the NYC based Mistress Sade treating one of her patients. No doubt he’ll emerge fitter and healthier at the end of it. This was sourced via this tweet on Mistress Sade’s Twitter feed.