My algorithm for picking people to play with when I’m travelling has a problem. Admittedly, it’s a problem in the sense that spilling champagne on your Ferrari’s leather upholstery is a problem, but I’m going to share it anyway. I will not be expecting a great deal of sympathy.
The original algorithm for travelling was simple: Find someone I had chemistry with and play with them exclusively. Partly that was because I wanted to build a deeper rapport and invest in a richer D/s dynamic. Partly it was because I didn’t want to have to explain my weird kinks and perversions to more unfamiliar women than I absolutely had to.
Unfortunately, no matter how careful the planning, schedules didn’t always co-operate. With only a few days in a town, there was always a chance the domme I usually played with would be travelling or busy. So I inevitably ended up occasionally playing with someone new – and I came to realize that this was a good thing. Playing with someone new was an opportunity to learn. Sometimes I learnt what I didn’t like, but more often my experiences made me a better submissive and a more self-aware masochist. Plus, once I started writing about my kinks here, explaining them to the nice ladies in the exciting outfits became considerably less stressful.
My updated algorithm therefore became: Do two sessions. One with someone I knew and liked and one with someone new. Push limits with the former and learn new things with the latter. It was a win-win.
Unfortunately, once I played with a new domme, they automatically moved into the category of ‘dommes I know’. And since so many of them were amazing and awesome to play with (like Damiana Chi from yesterday’s post), they became ‘dommes I know, like and will travel thousands of miles to play with again’.
This gave my latest iteration of the algorithm: Do three session. One with someone I’ve know for years, one with someone I’ve played with a few times and one with someone new. You don’t have to be a genius to see the pattern here, or the long term problem. It’s possible I can keep adding more sessions per trip until my body or bank account gives out, but I’m not sure it’s entirely the smartest solution.
The amusing side to this ‘problem’ is that I get called a slut by some of the dommes I play with (in the nicest possible way). Given my monastic years through my teens and twenties, that makes me smile. I’m a reserved, quiet, introverted, middle-aged British male slut. I’ll take that.
I’ve no idea what an appropriate image for this post is, so here’s a random one I like.
It’s a problem isn’t it, for years I played only with one Mistress and the ladies she introduced me to, then I retired and had more time on my hands and started to session with others. Since they were all delightful I wanted to see them again but without neglecting my wonderful original Mistress. This means that I have gone from 10-12 sessions per year to 24-28 with obvious effects on my body and my bank balance. Now I have to sit down and plan carefully along the lines of: it’s been 6 weeks since I saw Mistress A but Mistress B is only available then and I promised Mistress C that I’d see her before Easter but my bottom is still going to be marked and sensitive from my visit to Mistress D until then. It’s a logistical nightmare and although I don’t have to go to work there are still things I have to do that are related to my kinky activities. Ah well, eventually either my body or my finances will give up and the problem will resolve itself.
Definitely feel your pain. Although of course, there are definitely worse problems to have in life :-).
Figuring out ordering is another issue that I didn’t mention in the post, but I agree is another challenge. When I’m on vacation I try and start with the gentler sessions and ramp up to the most intense – based on the fact I don’t want my body to beaten and bruised on day 1. But like you say, the logistics of different schedules can be challenging to figure out.
Here’s hoping our bodies and bank accounts can keep up with our kinks!
-paltego