I’ve a session lined up next week with a domme I’ve not played with before. She’s visiting Seattle and I thought it’d be fun to get together. As part of our initial negotiation she asked me not to masturbate in the week leading up to our session. “No problem,” I thought. “That’ll be easy.” Turns out, that wasn’t entirely true.
I maybe should have a TMI warning at this point, but frankly, given everything I share on this blog, that point was probably several years ago. The truth of the matter is, despite browsing a lot of porn for this site, I don’t actually masturbate that much. Sometimes it’s just because I’m busy with other stuff, other times it’s because I like the anticipation of pleasure to come. I regularly go a week without an orgasm, so this seemed no big deal. Yet, now she’s planted that thought in my mind, it’s suddenly constantly in my thoughts. It’s like I’m a teenager again, where it just took a tight pair of pants or the slightest glimpse of a female curve to get me horny.
In years of play, I’ve never had a domme give me this kind of instruction leading up to a sesssion. And this is one I’ve never met before. Our chemistry at this point is zero. Yet still, she’s messed with my mind. Something I might have done anyway without thinking, has become a challenge. Long term chastity aficionado’s will no doubt be sneering at my feebleness at this point, but I’m fascinated by the effect such a simple instruction has had on me.
I SO get that. I recently began a relationship with someone as their slave and the first thing she did was put me on a masturbation ban, only she chooses if I get pleasure. Now I dont have the highest sex drive and thought to myself, ‘ok, I can do that, its not like I do it that regularly anyway.’ BUT because now I am not allowed, because that freedom to do so has been removed, I simply cannot stop thinking about how much I want to! And as we dont have a chastity device (yet) its all down to honour which makes it that much harder … pun unitntended.
Good to hear I’m not the only one. It’s like putting a big ‘do not touch’ sign on a button. Everyone immediately feels the urge to push it!
-paltego
This is the Imp of the Perverse, something to which even we long term chastity fans can relate. Sometimes Mrs Edge will go off to see family for a week or two, and even though I don’t typically wank, the fact that she *tells me* not to makes it almost irresistible.
I blame it on the fact that men have a small piece of their brain that is permanently 14 years old.
It’s more general than chastity, or men.
Sometimes I say to wife, “You don’t have to whip me purely for your pleasure. How about not doing it for a week?”
And how’s that strategy working out for you? I assume that typically ends with you covered in whip marks. 🙂
-paltego
I’ve never hear of the ‘Imp of the Perverse’ before. Thanks for sharing that. Definitely fits the situation. My imp was particularly perverse over the last few days, although fortunately I’m now released of my promise. Which doubtless means I’ll go back to not thinking about it at all 🙂
-paltego