CBT done properly

Today’s image comes courtesy of kinky delight by way of eros blog. It’s a nice combo of chains, clamps, brushes and electroshock.

I’ve posted in the past that I’m not sure Bacchus from eros blog really gets femdom. That’s not a crime of course. There’s no reason he should have to understand or enjoy every form of sexuality or porn in the world. In this case his comment that goes along with the image reinforces my previous impression.

I’ve always figured that the men who enjoy cock and ball torture (CBT for short) have bought in (a bit more seriously than most of us) to the old adage “There’s no such thing as bad attention.”

I know he’s kind of joking, but at the same time that seems to miss the mark fairly significantly. There are many easier ways to get attention. And if it was as simple as this, then there would be no such thing as bad CBT. Anyone who has been on the end of CBT that was too much too soon will know that’s not the case. Ramping up the intensity too fast can leave me faint and nauseous, and a long way from my happy subspace.

Really good CBT is, by way of contrast, one of the best and most involving D/s experiences I can have. In many ways it’s a little like the flip side of edging. There you’re trying to keep a pleasurable sensation just the right side of a shifting line, stopping the sensation spilling over into the ultimate pleasure. Great CBT for me does a similar thing, building the pain, taking it to the very edge of what I can take, and then inching forward as the endorphins flow and I drift into a submissive trance.

In a CBT session I did fairly recently the mistress used sharp vicious little clips. Starting with the safer (slightly) less painful areas, she slowly worked towards the most sensitive spots, the nerve clusters at the end of the cock. Long before she got there I was spacing out, trapped and unable to avoid what I knew she was going to do to me. And then when the dozen or so clips were in place, my body squirming as the last oh so painful ones were attached, she began to gradually retrace her steps. Each clip was ripped free, the jaws still pinching my flesh. Even in my zoned state the anticipation I felt as she slowly built back towards those last few clips was incredible.

CBT with clamp, brush and electroshockI’m afraid I don’t have an original attribution for the image. Stylistically it looks a little like Annmo Night, but I don’t recognize it from the image sets I have of his. Anyone have any ideas?

Update: Once again my readers come through for me. As I suspected it is an Anmo (or Annmo) Night image, taken from Comic For Masochist Only 3. Thanks to clitlicksluttyworm for the pointer!

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16 thoughts on “CBT done properly”

  1. Hi Paltego:

    I very much agree. CBT is an art form and the recipient better hope his Mistress knows what she is doing! Bad CBT is a frightening proposition. Your session sounds awesome. I have made the acquaintance of those nasty little clips myself! 😉

    Not sure who the artist is but the illustration is intriguing and I would like to see more…

    1. Hi HMP,

      Having talked to (and played with) a few pro-dommes it seems that judging the right level for CBT is a real skill. Even for the same person it varies depending on the session exactly what works and what’s too much. As you say, it’s definitely an art form.

      I’ve done a few session with those kind of clips, but that last one (with Lady Lydia) really stood out, just from the anticipation aspect alone. When I thought I’d survived the worst of it, she took it up a notch 🙂

      -paltego

    1. Thanks clitlicksluttyworm! I did think it looked like Anmo night, but I’d never seen that set of images before. I’ll update the post,

      Incidentally, do you know if it’s annmo or anmo? I’ve seen both spellings and I’m never clear on the right one.

      -paltego

  2. So true. I can relate to this post. CBT is one of our more common activities. There is definitely an art to doing it right. My Queen will give me the pleasure of stroking my cock on the sensitive (underside) and gently stimulate my scrotum. My arousal gets pretty intense and she instinctively knows when to begin the torture (in my case, mainly slaps to my balls). According to “Manswers” sexual excitement leads to a reduction in pain sensitivity and therefore when I am “on the edge” I can take a lot of abuse down there.

    We don’t really have a “safe” word but there are times when I will sincerely tell her it is too painful. My Queen is adept at going just a little bit past the line to where it really does hurt, ease off a bit, and then continue back with more. It really is an erotic experience. Sometimes I come, sometimes I don’t. The goal is just to “play” and push limits, I suppose. As well as the rush of the power exchange.

    My Queen will frequently knee me in the crotch or slap me. But that’s a “bad” pain because I am not aroused and can’t really take much…and don’t enjoy it either.

    1. Hi sherulestherooster and thanks for the comment.

      I actually find ball slapping one of the most painful CBT activities. Squeezing is not so bad, but slapping can quickly overload my senses. There’s definitely real skill required to control the intensity and push the limits. As you say it’s something that can be a very bad or a very good type of pain.

      -paltego

      1. Oh, I also forgot: she invented another type of ball torture that is less painful than ball slapping. I describe it as “milking” although it’s not the kind of milking normally thought about for femdom relationships, i.e., prostate milking. She basically treats my scrotum as if it were a cow’s udder; she grabs it from the top and squeezes down, over and over again, as if she were miling a cow. It is an intense sensation; less painful than the slapping. Cheers! I enjoy your site a lot!!

        1. That’s a new one to me. I’ve heard milking used to describe several different BDSM activities, but never one quite like that. Sounds fun!

          And thanks for the compliment. Always good to hear positive feedback.

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  4. I guess this is yet another example of how futile it is to second-guess some other person’s fetish when you don’t personally have that fetish. Look at any list of common fetishes and I guarantee you’ll find some that you find anywhere from completely unerotic (furries come to my mind) to downright objectionable (scat comes to my mind).

    But in the end, what difference does it make? Someone who’s into furries can look at my masochism and think that I’m crazy, just as I can look at someone dressed as a baseball mascot and think that he is crazy. In the end, we’ve learned nothing, except maybe for the fact that we’re probably both crazy!

    So eros blog doesn’t understand the draw of CBT. I wouldn’t expect him to. Obviously it’s not “any attention being good attention”, for the reasons you’ve already mentioned. It’s just how we’re wired, and that’s it. If I don’t get worked over at minimum every month or two, it’d be like a vanilla person not getting vanilla sex for a month or two. I get irritable and depressed, same as Mr. Vanilla would feel.

    It’s just a fetish. It is sex for me. Vanilla sex is like masturbation. And don’t get me wrong, I certainly enjoy it. But it doesn’t leave me truly satisfied.

    But I probably don’t need to explain that to anybody who is actually reading this! 🙂

    1. There’s certainly no reason that Bacchus should ‘get’ CBT or femdom. As I said that’s no crime. But at the same time if he’s going to post on something he doesn’t necessarily get, I’m going to feel free to critique it 🙂

      Personally I try and avoid posting stuff that doesn’t engage me in at least some small way. Blogs are always personal after all. There will certainly be no furries getting posted (although I’ll make an exception for cute cosplay girls who can sometimes flirt with furriness). Of course this is a fairly specialized blog, with a very specific readership, where eros blog is targeting a more general audience.

      And no, I suspect anyone reading the comments here will know exactly what you mean 🙂

  5. Ball crushing for me is the most painful. But I don’t mind having a ball crusher used on me. The slow ramp up in pressure is just bearable: I can adjust to it. Clothespins are too light however. Ball slapping is intense but not too bad. 😉 And I do like getting my balls stretched. And I very much like tease & denial of orgasm. I would like to try play piercing as well.

    1. If you find clothespins to light (and I tend to agree) you should seek out some of the little mini plastic clips with serrated jaws. They’re small, less than an inch long, but with a vicious bite. And because they’re small you can easily pack 8 or more just on the head of the cock. That really hurts, particular when they’re yanked off.

      Ball crushing for me seems to really depend on how in the zone I am. It’s painful at the start, but deep in session it can be really extreme and I just zone it out.

      I definitely recommend play piercing if you get the chance. That’s created some of my favorite scenes. Very intense.

  6. Can CBT help me train a guy not to cum so fast?

    I have a mutually beneficial relationship with a man that has this problem. He cums before he is even inside me! In fact, we have never really had sex IMO.

    Naturally he is submissive in our relationship (financially, domestically, sexually in that he will just please me then go home hehe). We have never had an official “scene” but I have brought up the idea and he is very interested. He has already agreed to let me control his orgasms (masturbation), and to letting me tie him up.

    Can light CBT hilp him to hold it in longer? I was thinking light patting on his balls, squeezing a bit, light tug on ballsack and just communicating. IDK. Help! How else should I train him?

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